hello, we're the same, im also engaged w/ my first cousin (my mother's sister's son). we already have a baby turning 2months old this 20. our baby's in total good and healthy condition. she had a well growth and development. i just want you to know that don't be so affected w/ what you have read. most of those negative comments are from people who are so knowledge deficit about cousin marriages. what they are saying are just merely from their own perception about cousin relationships. and about having a child w/ defects, they might be basing it according to hear says. maybe they havent heard or seen yet a cousin couple who had a very health children. i suggest, instead of stressing yourself w/ those negative comments you've read, why not search for all the positive supporting information about cousin marriages? biblically speaking,first cousin relationship is not a sin, its not even prohibited. cheer up girl! think positive! FYI: first and second cousin couples are perfect genes of having a baby!