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  3. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    Thanks I guess
  4. Romalee

    Crush on Cousin

    That sounds like the best choice. I wish you well with your new pursuit.
  5. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    I decided not to hang with him anymore? I'm pursuing someone else who looks and reminds me of him who lives outta state? You were tight ny intentions were not good and I was gonna try to get him alone again but decided against it
  6. Romalee

    Crush on Cousin

    Dangerous in that you say you already have a crush on him, got drunk and tried to put the moves on him. You don't need to be alone with him! However I feel you are going to do what you want and have no respect for him, his wife or children. We don't give pats on the back and say go for it, just because this is a cousin couples site. Sometimes our advice or comments sound harsh and are not what one wants to hear, but you asked.
  7. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    Dangerous how?
  8. KC

    Free hosting

    Well, things are taking off more slowly than I had hoped for theboss.host . If you need a new domain or fast web hosting, check it out. I host this site with absolutely no caching of any kind. I thought I would throw that out there. Orders help offset the cost of this website. PM me for a free hosting deal in lieu of a review.
  9. Also, you can try another browser or clear your browser's cache.
  10. KC

    GoFundMe

    I started a GoFunMe page (gofundme.com/ongoing-website-funding) to allow you guys to help mitigate some of the expenses of this website. Ex mods and administrators are not welcome to contribute. The admins have already given their hearts and soul supporting this website and the plight. I personally spend countless hours behind the scenes here. Frankly, I do not feel like I should pay to host the site any longer. I show you guys lots of love; it shouldn't be unrequited. It's not a big deal financially. I can pay the bills although the next few months are going to be incredibly difficult. Wife and I are taking the hell off -- getting out of here finally and for good. Wish us luck!
  11. I have both Facebook and Google logins working. I apologize if you have to reregister with Google. I accidentally deleted our account. It shouldn't be a big problem. I also made some other changes when I recently changed to a faster server. I suggest that you clear your browser's cache if you are having any kind of problems. I tweak the website quite a bit, partly for improvements and partly for my own continuing IT education. So, remember about your browser's cache. Everyone should learn how to do that. Also, I will not be around here to contribute on the message board as much as I would like for the foreseeable future. I would appreciate if my great members would spend an extra 15 minutes a week helping to answer questions on the board.
  12. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    I'm not inviting noone else, never mind than forget the whole situation I rbrought up. Dangerous how?
  13. Romalee

    Crush on Cousin

    Invite his wife to join you. She should be included to help you avoid any uncomfortable and/or dangerous situations. I would not appreciate someone (female, cousin or not) inviting my husband to hang out, go to or watch a movie without inviting me also. Put yourself in her place..... ,
  14. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    Wow I cant do that I wanna build a friendship, I just wont get drunk around him ever. That's the only thing that made me bold enough to try him anyways.I will look for someone else to like besides him. I did ask him though about hanging next week to see a movie or watch a movie at my place and he said he will see , so I should just say never mind to that too?
  15. Romalee

    Crush on Cousin

    I did not intend my response to sound as though I was attacking you. I did mean to be honest. I think the best way for you to get over the crush thing is to cut all contact with him. No facebook, text, calling or any other social media you might be connected on. I do wish you well.
  16. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    Wow thank you for your honest response yea once I asked Jim to hang and he said maybe next week I figured I need to let it go.Trying to get over the crush thing though mentally.
  17. Romalee

    Crush on Cousin

    You have answered you own question. I think he is trying to tell you something and you are refusing to hear. He is MARRIED and has a family.. You are doing the wrong thing by asking him to hang with you, knowing how he feels about his family. The best thing you can do is cut all communication with him and move on. He is not available to you. Best wishes on your journey.
  18. Chocmolly

    Crush on Cousin

    Hey yall, I have a first cousin who lives in same state for last few years but we hadn't seen each other in 3 years and even didnt meet till we were already grown I was 20 he was 22. Now I'm 28 he 31. But anyways fast forward I reach out to him on facebook to hang, originally supposed to had hung with him and his family but plans came up with his wife so he invited me out by myself to go with him and his friends bowling. I go and enjoy myself and drink alot , one of his friends tries to talk to me and offers me a ride home, I decline it and ask my cousin to take me home instead. I invite him inside , at first he declines because he says it's late but than after I beg he comes in. I'm drunk as hell tryna fix a movie but see him with this mean look on his face so ask what's wrong. He talks about going back home to his wife and family and his curfew. I grab and touch his buff arm and flirt telling him to repeat certain words because of his accent(that I love) he walks out my apartment and tells me to close my door. I yell no twice and take my shirt off, he tells "we're family "as he stomps off mad. The next day I text him apologizing in which he says it's ok I was drunk. Two days later we get into heated argument over the phone because I realize he told me I was driving him away, and said we are not friends just family, he declines saying both but during convo mentions how we are first cousins alot .Althiugh angry he speaks with passion, I can tell he was somewhere a restroom or something hiding. He never mentions me flirting with him though . The next day I text him asking when we gonna hang again he says he will see about the next week. He is so fine and perfect and looks like a celebrity rapper I am crushing on. I am scared to tell him how I feel because I dont wanna lose the friendship I am trying to develop. I always get so shy around him, idk what to do .I'm not tryna be with him, just been having sexual thoughts and wishing I could have him in that way. I know it's wrong though.
  19. ImDamaged

    NOT SURE if I should

    I’ve been in love with my older cousin my entire life. She’s smart, sweet, loving and oh so hot. I’m in my late 40’s and she’s in her early 50’s. She has a better body than most 19 year olds. I get nervous when I’m around her. It’s not that often since she’s in Texas and I’m in AZ. I’m scared I’ll do something inappropriate like go an her hand like a boyfriend would, without thinking or try to kiss her. I’d love to take her out for drinks and talk to her but she doesn’t drink. That way I could blame it on the booze if she’s too freaked out. We’d both know it’s a lie but maybe it’ll lessen the awkwardness. Plus I would need the liquid courage to bring it up. Does anyone know how I can find out how she feels without sending up any red flags?
  20. My cousin and I are both over 40 & we wish to cohabitate together in Arizona. I am aware that we can legally marry as we are both infertile (sterilized), however, we wish to just live together without a "legal" union or paper that states such...are there any laws that prohibit that in Arizona?
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  22. TDARLING1978

    just started dating my cousin

    Hello everyone i am new to the forum and to dating my cousin,. We are both 40 years old and did not grow up together, i was adopted by my father and she is my 1st cousin on my bio fathers side. We both have kids and she can not have anymore. All of our kids get along great and we are deeply in love and have plans to live together in the next couple of weeks. I do not know how to tell my mother, any advice would be greatly appreciated
  23. KC

    Bad Security Credentials?

    I changed web servers. I had to get tech support to issue a new cert because the script locked up. We're all good now!
  24. Thank you so much for the support and hope! We hung out as planned last week, and once since then. I have been flirting lightly and tried some of the advice I received so far, such as the “If we weren’t cousins gambit...” The response was neutral I’d say, she certainly didn’t scoff at the comment, nor did she agree or retort. She’s a hard read, for example, we are pretty much on a daily text basis, and even exchange phone calls too. However sometimes it feels like she’s on to me and every now and then she will reassure me that we are after all “family”, and “cousins”, not out of the blue but rather after a mutual moment of gratitude, or if there is related context. My feelings are growing, but I do not see myself confessing anything or making a move, so to speak, anytime soon. For now I genuinely am content spending time with her and growing our relationship. She’s been through a lot and has way more experience than me with romantic and life situations, plus she’s older by approximately 10 years, but this doesn’t matter to me, but I’m sure at this stage in her life she has a pretty clear idea of the kind of man she wants, or needs rather, and I’m almost positive I’m not it. I on the other hand have little experience with women and am probably a bit more “immature” than the type of guy she likes, more specifically I’m a bit of a geek, have no children unlike her, and am not really physically big and strong. I realize there’s more to attraction between two people than those things but I can’t but help consider it sometimes. And she’s beautiful to anyone that cares to look, so worse yet I’m worried she’ll meet Mr. Perfect before anything blossoms between us. I still have hope and appreciate all the love from you guys, thanks again and I whole heartedly wish you the best in your endeavors, romantic and otherwise.
  25. Seems to me the chemistry is there. I really hope this pans out. Keep us posted!!
  26. clayp72

    Bad Security Credentials?

    All day yesterday I couldn't pull the site up at all. It just said the page's security credentials couldn't be verified or something like that
  27. nora.gris

    How do your friends react?

    Well we're not in a relationship yet, there's just feelings but for now, I only told 4 of my closest friends (plus my sister) about it. Their reactions were: 1 friend: A little bit shocked and speechless, but immediately told me I shouldn't care what others say and was really supportive. Obviously asked me about the genetic topic, but other than that it was fine. I can talk to her about him always and she's really cool with it. 2 friend: mmmm I really don't know how to explain her reaction. I mean she was like "yeah well I noticed that a little bit", then she was like "but do you see a future with him?" And now whenever I try to tell her something about it she kind of doesn't react really. I don't think she cares, but with passt crushes she was always very open and asked me about it and bla bla bla. But whatever, I'm pretty sure she is accepting. 3 friend: her first reaction was like "oh no that must be really hard" but then was like "you know what? It's not that weird, it happens really often, go for it, society will always talk, so do whatever you want." However she also was trying to "help me" forget about him and told me to cut him off 😂😂😂 but no, she is really cool with it overall. 4 friend: at the beginning I told her the whole story without mentioning he is my cousin, and then after a few weeks I "confessed" to her he was my cousin. She was like "why didn't you tell me? I'm like your big sister" and then was like "it's okay, that can happen it's not a big deal" but also proceeded to warn me about the genetic problems it can cause on our kids, but other than that she is really understanding and supportive. And finally, my sister. Well she basically noticed I liked him way before I told her and she was always like "I think you like him" and I was like "NOO" but eventually I told her "what do I do? He is our cousin!" and she was just like "I think if you love each other you should be together, nothing else matters." And yeah, I talk to her about him frequently, and she is cool with it. I still have a few other close friends I didn't tell them because I don't know how, like I'm 100% sure they will be really supportive and stuff, but I'm afraid they'll judge me or tell this to someone else I don't want. Well maybe in the future I'll tell them, for now I'm good.
  28. Hello! Quick update, we are hanging out tomorrow! It’s just for a short while, she’s coming over to help me with something, or rather I mentioned I needed a hand and she volunteered. We’re supposed to go out and shop for some stuff for the task (I’m being vague because I’m paranoid she will find this one day soon, as unlikely as that is). Except I prefer not to go anywhere, I rather we hang out at my place, maybe order take-out, have some drinks, and hopefully watch a movie. But the idea of shopping out in the real world has some appeal. If you see this before Tuesday 10/2/18, any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
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