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  3. lmknjbhvgc

    Ok

    👍🏼Good Luck
  4. lmknjbhvgc

    Private Messages

    Hi KC, Sorry to bother you again. I noticed that I am allowed to send '0' messages, please can you fix this problem as well. I don't really use private messages but, just in case if I ever have to use it in future. Your help is much appreciated ☺. Thanks
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  6. Vito91

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    Well making her fall in love with me and then breaking her heart is my dream but unfortunately don't think it will ever happen. World so unfair can't even hurt her in any meaningful way. Probably best to slowly go with this cousin thing like start with small talk or something like that and see where it will take me. But have to be careful not to go into any direction that can make her suspicious which is a problem since I have a wired sense of humour and tend to joke about serious situations like this. And have a problem of not really caring will what i say insult or hurt anyone. So have to be fake as much as I can.
  7. lmknjbhvgc

    Ok

    Well, just tell her. I really hope that she does not have feelings for you 😐. If my cousin came to me with this BS, it will piss me off because it is selfish and unethical and it will just complicate the situation.
  8. Last week
  9. Vito91

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    Yes but I think my main problem is that I put her on some sort of pedestal. Like something out of my reach or possibility. So why I need to get back on good terms with her as just cousins is to brake that illusion. Cause i tried distancing my self and to let time take its course but that only made things worse in many ways for me. And after that if us being just cousins works out great if not I think I can live with that. So how do I get her to believe me that my intentions are only family bonding and that there is no romantic background. Since she probably thinks that all i want and wanted was ...
  10. lmknjbhvgc

    Ok

    Thank you for opening up, it helps a lot to analyze your situation. First, u know you have strong feelings for her no need to sacrifice them for anyone! Second, if you rebuild cousin relationship with her while having romantic feelings for her, it is going to complicate your life and it will create more confusion. Waiting is not easy but, sometimes it is better to wait than making wrong decisions. I hope your cousin talks to you, u really need a resolution!
  11. Vito91

    Ok

    Well my main problem is that the first time I admitted my feelings towards her I was very insecure about my self, crazy in love with her even admired her profoundly and most importantly totally afraid of her reaction and terrified about us being cousins and me having feelings for her. Like after admitting how I felt I asked her to block me before that I unfrended her 6-7 Times on Fb every time she would accept me back I even said I never wanted to see her again... I didn't know how to deal with my feelings towards her, was very jealous in fact all I wanted was to stop feeling anything for her. It hit me too hard too fast . No wonder she said no. Well I am different now More mature more confident and if I really wanted to I think I could win her heart. And although there are still some strong feelings left I am unsure do I want to be with her because I just don't feel it 100 %+ relationship takes lot of work, compromising etc. Not sure I want that with her. So I wanted to get back with her on good terms as cousin but that seems much harder because how can she trust me that are my only intentions.
  12. lmknjbhvgc

    Ok

    I am not your cousin so I don't care about what you do. I don't know qhat sacrifice you are talking about.. but you are too full of yourself. Drink, spliff or medidate, do whatever but clear your thoughts.
  13. Vito91

    Ok

    You really on a roll here. What else ? Truth liberates. Lol I really have no idea she doesn't want to talk about it. So yes there are some questions I would like to ask but won't get an answer probably. So should I be like her happiness is most important and some positive thoughts or meditation. Maybe praying I heard that works out great Lol. Dumb jokes aside. I think she cares probably not as much I would like to but she does. And about me thinking about my self to be honest she would be the one getting the better part of any sort of relationship so in a way I am sacrificing my self so she could get something she probably never dreamt of being possible. But people are dumb always think if something comes easy It has lower value.
  14. lmknjbhvgc

    Ok

    Also, maybe you are overthinking. Maybe she never liked u or cared for u the way you are assuming or do you guys communicate with a secrete code language? Lol
  15. lmknjbhvgc

    Ok

    What do you mean by cousins thing? 🤔 and that you care for her at much deeper level what does that mean? lol U seem so confused! First of all, cut through the confusion. If you care for her romantically on a deeper level then you can't be normal cousins! U r just thinking about yourself and what U want! May god bless u ☺.
  16. Vito91

    Ok

    Well i am God's gift to humanity LOL. Maybe true I don't know can't be objective about myself.Really busting my head about it. I can't really go through all the details too much writing. But the point is I know she cares for me. So why all the drama making I mean once upon the time she really liked my don't give a fu.k attitude. Was she hurt by me acting like be my girl or I want nothing with u at the begining. Because that was my way before but I have to say that i really start caring for her on a deeper level and I would like for us to make cousins thing work. And yes my attitude probably the biggest problem here but very hard for me to keep it at leash.
  17. KC

    My first day with Nat

    Hey CM I know it man. And for cc.com's 25 or 30th anniversary we gotta have a reunion. I say any major city with a Waffle House is fair game. Lol
  18. ColoradoMarried

    My first day with Nat

    Well, KC, one of these days I’m gonna have to drive up to your neck of the woods and say hi! 😎 Glad you’re having a great vacation.
  19. lmknjbhvgc

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    You can't rebuild trust with anyone with that attitude! Your cousin never considered you as her romantic partner, so her reaction was normal. You think so highly of yourself and playing a victim here 😐, trust me it does not look impressive at all. If you dislike her so much, why do you even care to fix everything? U are so confused or not yet healed, give some more time.
  20. Vito91

    Ok

    First there was no psihical or verbal violence nor did I ever try to force her to be with me. I did make a mistake of asking second time after some time thinking that maybe considering taboo about such relationships she would need some time to process it. But the problem is that although after that I tried to act normally and let things go she still held some form of gruge on me or something and that made me back off completely. So for couple of years even on the street I wouldn't say hi or anything even when she would look at me and expect from me to say something but deep inside I felt that it is not right time and that if I say anything it would put me in position of only one to blame since her lack of empathy toward my feelings made the mess out of something that should have been simple I don't feel the same way but I want hold your feelings against you and we would still be ok. But I have noticed that although ugly and something I never thought I will do ignoring tactic made some results and I felt change in her behaviour towards me. Well now the question is how to approach her again ( not romantic way) in a way that will rebuild trust between us but not something where I need to apologize or similar thing cuz although good person there is something that makes my cousin very avengful and mean towards a person that she thinks wrong her in any way like she completely changes and she has a way to over dramatize situations. So my question is since I will go trough text what should I write her that will say I am sorry that things went this far but I will take only half of blame. It is maybe how to reason with unreasonable person
  21. KC

    Ok

    Physical violence Vito? If a lady tells you that she doesn't want to be with you then you need to listen to her. If there has already been physical violence from either of you then you frankly need your head examined if you want to pursue this relationship. Don't even think about it. Let her go and good riddance to the drama. I'm begging: do you both a favor and move on.
  22. KC

    My first day with Nat

    And somebody please tell Nat to stop calling me (affectionally??) a neanderthal. ROFLMAO! She is so proper. SHE is trying to show ME how to make sweet tea. And darnit! Her way was better than mine. My tea is perfect. I was going to bring some Cajon seasoning with me. Nat scoffs at the idea of buying any. "We can make it ourselves," she says. I believe her. When she made lasagna, she walked out back with some snippers and cut the herbs fresh from her garden. Who does that? Anyway, having a fab time.
  23. KC

    My first day with Nat

    Nat and I are like two peas in a pod. God, I love it here in Florida. I may never leave Florida. I do want to visit the desert in Socal. Then I will decide on Dallas or Tallasse. I will definitely never leave the south. The South is the $hit y'all. Does Socal have grits??
  24. KC

    Happy Valentine's Day y'all!

    That's cool grandma LadyC. We have known each other for so long that grandma makes me flip out a little bit. I bet Mark has a ball with the grandkids. Tell Rana I said hi! I would love to meet her husband someday. And the kids!
  25. Vito91

    Ok

    It is a long story but let say my feelings where not reciprocated. There was some fighting, ignoring from both sides and most importantly we haven't really ever discussed the issue in a calm and friendly matter mostly because my cousin would just turn and leave. Now I know the advice would be for me to let go and move on ( I tried) but the problem is she is still my cousin and I care for her as one but the tension and unresolved issues are creating some stress on our family. + to say I can't really cut her completely from my life. So I am looking for a way to approach her and make her open up and let go of all bad feelings she keeps inside so maybe we can move on as normal cousins.
  26. Timothy

    Similar physical appearance

    On the other side of this, the chemistry between you two should be sexually gratifying. With similar makeups, the desire, you would think, would be similar.
  27. Hello to all! 

    I'm wondering just how many cousin marriages take place in the US alone, as of last year? 

  28. LadyC

    Happy Valentine's Day y'all!

    hi! mark and i stayed home and had rana's family over, but that's pretty much like every other night
  29. LadyC

    My first day with Nat

    sounds like so much fun! wish i was enjoying some of nat's mad cooking skills!
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