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  2. I like my cousin a lot he is my first cousin and I consider us best friends. We have always been close but i actually feel like we would be a good couple. I got catfished by a guy online I was talking to for a year and found out yesterday . I told him about it cuz i had no one else and he talked to me for like 6 hours over text about it . Shared some deeply personal stories about his heartaches and hookups that ended badly . I dont think He has ever told anyone those and he wasnt going to tell me but then he did he opened up to me for pretty much the first time. He told me 3 personal embarrassing stories . I figured he had relationships but he never talked about them. we shared secrets and it was really nice. Heres the problem i think he also might feel a attraction too but he would never act on it . I am getting more close to him and it cant go anywhere just like the other online relationship. I am in limbo and the last stop is heartbreak guys . I mean i know i mean a lot to him but I dont know if that could ever be in the romantic way.heres an example :It was valentines day but that dont mean anything as e were going to a movie premiere(he asked me ) that just happened to be that day. (he said he didnt even know it was V day ) We decided not to and i asked if he still just wanted to hang out so we were just driving around listening to music and were both single and being sarcastic i said " who has a significant other anyways what a loser " just joking around and he said "hey youre my significant other you are significant to me shannon . I just thought thats a weird thing to say a significant other is a couple in a relationship right ? does he wish we were together ? He has done other things to such as fake mocking me and saying "oh look at me im shannon im so pretty and everyone loves me ". We also talked about moving into together when he makes enough money to buy a house . It feels like were already together but no one wants to be the first to just say it. Am i crazy or does he like me back ? We joked about it one time actually i was asking if there was anyone single at his work and he said there is but he is kind of a player and a jerk .He then went on to say other than that there is me (meaning him ) and that might be a little bit awkward we laughed and i said hey i would already have met your parents and we just laughed about it but he didnt seem grossed out by the idea . He is technically my half cousin because our moms have different dads if that makes a diference lol. I told my mom about the things he says because i tell her everything and she agrees its weird . I liked him in a non friendly way since i was like 17 . I am 24 he is 25 and we still hangout and have this special connection we always got along and he is my best friend honestly and i think we would be great together.I just dont know if we ever can actually be together. I dont know guys its proabably all in my head and im ust romantasizing a friedship because i want it to be real.
  3. Yesterday
  4. I like my cousin a lot he is my first cousin and I consider us best friends. We have always been close but i actually feel like we would be a good couple. I got catfished by a guy online I was talking to for a year and found out yesterday . I told him about it cuz i had no one else and he talked to me for like 6 hours over text about it . Shared some deeply personal stories about his heartaches and hookups that ended badly . I dont think He has ever told anyone those and he wasnt going to tell me but then he did he opened up to me for pretty much the first time. He told me 3 personal embarrassing stories . I figured he had relationships but he never talked about them. we shared secrets and it was really nice. Heres the problem i think he also might feel a attraction too but he would never act on it . I am getting more close to him and it cant go anywhere just like the other online relationship. I am in limbo and the last stop is heartbreak guys . I mean i know i mean a lot to him but I dont know if that could ever be in the romantic way.heres an example :It was valentines day but that dont mean anything as e were going to a movie premiere(he asked me ) that just happened to be that day. (he said he didnt even know it was V day ) We decided not to and i asked if he still just wanted to hang out so we were just driving around listening to music and were both single and being sarcastic i said " who has a significant other anyways what a loser " just joking around and he said "hey youre my significant other you are significant to me shannon . I just thought thats a weird thing to say a significant other is a couple in a relationship right ? does he wish we were together ? He has done other things to such as fake mocking me and saying "oh look at me im shannon im so pretty and everyone loves me ". We also talked about moving into together when he makes enough money to buy a house . It feels like were already together but no one wants to be the first to just say it. Am i crazy or does he like me back ? We joked about it one time actually i was asking if there was anyone single at his work and he said there is but he is kind of a player and a jerk .He then went on to say other than that there is me (meaning him ) and that might be a little bit awkward we laughed and i said hey i would already have met your parents and we just laughed about it but he didnt seem grossed out by the idea . He is technically my half cousin because our moms have different dads if that makes a diference lol. I told my mom about the things he says because i tell her everything and she agrees its weird . I liked him in a non friendly way since i was like 17 . I am 24 he is 25 and we still hangout and have this special connection we always got along and he is my best friend honestly and i think we would be great together.I just dont know if we ever can actually be together. I dont know guys its proabably all in my head and im ust romantasizing a friedship because i want it to be real.
  5. Last week
  6. I'm a 35 year old male and I have kissed 4 of my cousins and each experience was unique but there's one that stands out. My cousin is very attractive and has a great body you can't help but notice. It's hard really hard not to stare at her at family gatherings. She is the one that makes you think "if only you weren't my cousin!!" This is the cousin I had a "crush" on as a kid but never told her. We lived in different states but we have always been really close and flirty with each other and would always tell each other our love stories. We would only see each other about twice a year but she would tell me that she always dated losers and I would tell her I was a hopeless romantic. Anyhow I'll get to the point. We were both 31 and I was staying at her house for a couple of weeks. One night after a party and everyone left I helped her clean up. We were still pretty tipsy in the backyard talking as I was finishing a smoke. She said she was gonna go inside really quick and would be right out. I waited for about 10 minutes and I figured that she probably fell asleep. I went inside and as I opened the door to my room she was laying in my bed!! She told me to lay down next to her. My heart was racing. She grabbed my hand and as we locked fingers I rubbed my body against hers and I grabbed her face with my other hand and turned her around and gave her a deep gentle kiss! It was amazing. I felt goosebumps and we just kept kissing and caressing each other. I slowly unbuttoned her pants and started rubbing my hands against her smooth arse and over her thong. She started moaning and for some reason I decided to stop. I think it might have been because her kids were also in the house but something just didn't feel right. The next morning it was pretty awkward but nobody mentioned it. I really enjoyed it and I know we would have had sex if I wouldn't have stopped. We have not spoken about it ever but I really want to do it again but again for some reason I can't make the move on her. We have hung out by ourselves and she still acts flirty. We only usually hang out when she is not dating a loser though. Should I tell her how I feel? Should I remind her of that one night? Also I got 3 more stories with other cousins so let me know if you want to hear them! Thanks!
  7. Earlier
  8. Hi, i know this isn't my post but um i kinda need so help. Ok so heres the story, when i was younger me, my aunty and first cousins used to come over all the time to our house, i was extremely close to them. They were like bestfriends to me. Even when i was only young, i ended up having a little kiddy crush on one of my cousins at first(i wont say their real names for privacy reasons but i'll just call them tyler and bradley). So at first, i had a small seen as "innocent crush" on my crush tyler, which was bradley my other cousins older brother. But sadly something bad happened in the family which i wont get into as its about my aunty and stuff and its not my place to say anything but what happened tore not only my family but also but friendship apart, with the whole family. My feelings for tyler during the years apart, faded but only for a short time.. I didnt see them for a good two years maybe even a bit longer then that. But at lot changed within just a short two years. I grew up alot, i was so much more mature. As when i was younger i was quite annoying and weird. So anyways one day, my mum tells me that she had a talk with my aunty and after two years away from my bestfriends (cousins), i could finally see them. At this point i was happy but extremely nervous bc i hadnt seen them both in a long time. I went from seeing them everyday to not having any contact whatsoever with them. So then a few days later, we arrived that their house. It was so arkward at first for a few days but when we actually talked and bonded... I noticed something different. I'd never liked bradley cousin or not, he just wasnt my type in general. Not that he was bad or anything but i was into those more tougher, rebel type boys, as most teenage girls were haha. And let me tell u something about my cousins, well first off tyler was definitely a rebel/bad boy type and bradley was NOT. he was that typical "nerdy" kinda sweet guy (not that theres anything with that, i am a nerd myself i guess i just dont outwardly look like one). Bradley got picked on for his glasses, got called four eyes which when i was younger i secretly thought was funny, but i didnt like the fact that he was bullied for it. Eventually i found it cute, and sweet haha. Anyways, me and bradley became super close, like SUPER close. We were inseparatable. I started slowly developing very very strong feelings for him. At this time tyler though so freaking HOT!, was kinda jerk.. He was a playboy and always had a new chick. My feelings for tyler became dislike very fast. He was mean to me and rude, i was attracted to bad boys not pricks. He was being a prick, nothing attractive about that. So anyways, i fell so deeply in love for the first time actually ever and with my cousin. But... There was a problem... 1: he had a gf.. 2: my family is religeous, never would of accepted it 3: at that time i was only 14 4: he didnt know and i wasnt 100% sure he felt the same way. I truly thought he did... But... I told him... And he didnt... Long story short, i fell for tyler again and he showed me a side of him id never seen before. I didnt wanna fall in love again but i did, and again my heart was broken. Its been years now... I havent spoken to bradley in years and well tyler and i... He ignores me and he has a girlfriend, whom he said he plans on spending his life with.. Bradley and his girlfriend broke up a long time ago though, so he is currently not in a relastionship. One thing that still puzzles me today is that i remember when he was with her, and me meeting her i realised so was almost my twin... She looked like me, only a but taller and maybe a bit skinner, sounds weird but same type of personality as well... Why would he date someone who was basically so much like me? I even have a recording of him saying he loves me, then when i ask him what he said, he denies it..? Now... Even still after all this time... I havent moved on fully from both of them. I am still deeply in love with tyler and as for bradley theres still a part of me that will probably love him forever(he was my first love after all). A piece of my heart no matter who i am with in the future or if i am with no one, a small piece of it will always belong to them my cousins, especially bradley (i still feel like i fell harder for bradley then i did tyler) I still have so many questions, yet no answers. I wanna know why would bradley say he loves me then denies it months later, i wanna know why. What do u think i should do? I cant get over them, i still think about them constantly... Pls help me
  9. Hey Epshi, thanks for your response. Are you sure ? Because she stills keeps calling me her brother in texts and over call, whereas i have minimized to almost zero. She is now saying she wants us to be the coolest bro sis ever. So, I have doubts now that she may just see me as a brother for protection. :/
  10. I'll have to look into this now that we're quarantined. Wishing everyone health!
  11. Pretty hateful stuff in a world where changing your sexual orientation is starting to be considered normal. I figure if God ordered and blessed marriages between first cousins and knew each of us before He formed us in our mother's womb, and the world says first cousins being in love is sick and weird but changing your sexual orientation is fine, I'll stick with God's thinking. Thanks for the input anyway, world.
  12. I and my second cousin once removed are deeply in love. My family found out and they were horrified saying that she is my father's cousin sister, so my aunt. There is nothing more shameful and they are making me feel very bad and suicidal.
  13. The EARN IT Bill is an attempt to squash encryption that would circumvent the government to read every bit of data coming from your computer. Interestingly, they now frame the issue in a child protection bill; it is not! The bill could possible be the demise of websites such as this one. Per the bill, if I do not play ball, I could be sued for content that users post on this message board. There may be a way to host the site outside of the USA. In any case, the USA will be following great ideals such as communist Russia, China, N. Korea and Iran. This could be the end of free speech as we know it.
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  15. I feel u girl at less he is willing to go thru the struggle of people opinions. My cousin gets on my nerves and I’m about have his baby . girl in like 4wks. I wish I had what u have fo real when I have my baby I’m never being with him in that way again on god. my aunt in my mom knows About are secret but the rest of the family don’t in they will be so mad at me but good luck with everything
  16. yet the problem does not have any solution..what we should do how we can live without our beloved one..we all have the same problem.how this problem can be solved
  17. This is not clearly a normal brother sister relationship . I have not heard a brother or sister who are obssessed with each other. You can trick her & know how is her feeling & open your heart..
  18. Hi everybody,There are post from 2009, 2010. Now it is 2020. Those who are from india & Bangladesh have you succeded to marry your desired ones & how?? I m from Bangladesh & me & my first cousin are in love for 7 years. Now we are facing difficulties from our families & society.
  19. Hi everybody,there are posts from 2009,2010. Now it is 2020. Have u succeded to marry your desired Ones & how? I want to know because i m facing the same problems
  20. As a seasoned veteran of family love, my recommendation is: Next time he enters a room, greet him in bubbly fashion. Put your arms around his neck and - with wet lips - kiss him near the corner of his mouth, but not on his mouth. Hold the kiss for about 3 seconds and see how he reacts, if at all. If he turns his face toward yours, extend the kiss to his mouth. YOU’LL KNOW!
  21. i think i have this deep crush on my cousin. he is 18 i m 17 he is really cute and the way he plays with my hair gives me feels. but the thing is idk if he wants it or not. he probably is just friendly and considers me as sister. but he does give me these feels lets me play around him and he is sometimes clingy. today he was talking about his first crush and kinda nmnot getting over it and i thought okay i got ny answer its never gonna happen. but then he kept playing with my hair and we talked in a flirty kind of way he blushes etc and sometimes looked at me i saw it fromm y perioheral.. wanted to take me out as last treat since he was leaving tomorrow. idk i wanna kiss him so bad. also i m a bit ugly but he made ny hair and called me pretty and holy crapoly! ok. i dk i really wanna kiss him he gets close to me and i always feel that way but the thing is i cant approach or even make him know what i feel. becz there is a possibility if he knows and is not happy or wants to do the same then he would directky be liek " AYE ARE U CRAZY U R MY COUSIN SIS ' or like never talk to me again. idk worse. i really dont want to lose the closeness i have with him its like butterflies in my stomach. he also does this only with me. i swesr to my god i want to kiss him atleast once. idk what the kissy-face to i do .how do i do it or where's the fries? should i even do.
  22. When I was like 4 I told my mom I thought I'd marry my (2 years older) cousin. She freaked and said we'd have a crippled/retarded baby. That cousin had a hysterectomy when she was about 20, but by then we were friends, no attraction. We were just friends, hung out and told each other dirty jokes back then. But now, my 2nd cousin's daughter is hot AF. 2nd cousin is about 2 years younger than me. Daughter is maybe 20-21. I'm 46. She is a babe - even a Miss America contestant (Hallie Jacobs.) I would LOVE to kissy-face her. I'd be happy to be her husband.
  23. I have a cousin I would love to be with and think she might feel the same. I'm 46, she's 35 and already has 4 kids. I can trust her and that's a big thing. When I was 7 a 12 year old girl - daughter of a friend of the family - molested me. I still have nightmares about it, PTSD. I even freaked out when nurses had to touch me in that area for a medical procedure. I think an unknown woman I might freak out but I'd trust Jasmine to do anything. I generally can't get it up anymore.
  24. My 2nd Cousin's daughter is now 20 or 21 I think (at least 19) and VERY hot - she's now the winner to go onto my state for Miss America. I would LOVE to let her do anything she wanted to me (I'm also a submissive.) I'm 46 myself.
  25. 2nd cousin is fine and legal almost anywhere. In the US half the states you can marry your 1st cousin. Don't know of any where 2nd cousin is forbidden, let alone further.
  26. Hey, I just want the community's advice on my situation. I am 25, my first cousin Z is 21. TL;DR : If your cousin says she is obsessed with you(its mutual), in the sense that we cannot go much long without talking, and promises that I am and will be the most important person in her life no matter what, is it love or that is just how strong a brother-sister bond is. Because, I have never felt the same way with any of my other cousins. I am just confused. Scenario (apologies for explaining in detail but I need a proper advice based on everything) : Part I (The foundation) From a young age, I always felt a different bond with Z. We were open and used to share many things.I would light up anytime she would text or call. We live on different sides of the country and used to meet once a year in our childhood. She always wanted to "know something about me that noone knew" and would look forward to talk to me. I did feel special when she used to say this, but I used to console myself by telling "She's just a cousin. She is just saying this as a sister, dont start having weird thoughts". During my last college year, I had visited my aunt's place and when I was leaving, she cried took my hand and put it on her head and just sobbed. She made me promise, I would try moving to her city. That small gesture affected me so much that I made it a mission to find a job there and succeeded. I was 22, she was 17. I just hated myself for feeling so strongly attached to her. Her mood and all her opinions affected me very deeply. After moving, I used to visit her place on weekends, and we used to just chill like normal cousins. Couple times she would just lay her head on my lap and I would stroke her hair. (Nothing intimate, again I used to console myself "She's just a cousin"). During those times, I realized she had many male friends and used to feel a painful jealousy and insecurity(It was childish, I know). Gradually, I dont know if I created it in my head or not, I started feeling that for her friends were more important than me. I felt really heavy in my heart. Because, she was, in retrospect, quite normal with me, but due to scenarios I had created, I felt hurt that I didn't mean as much to her as she meant to me. I door-slammed her (an INFJ thing, read it here). Completely stopped talking and acting stone cold with her. I thought I did it for my own sanity, as we were just cousins and me catching unwanted feelings was wrong. Cutting ties was the only option I saw. I thought she will understand this. She tried asking me a couple of times what had happened, why was I acting weird, I just made something up and deviated the topic. We stopped talking then. Forward 2 years, we had barely talked. I had shifted to my hometown. I had made peace that she saw me just as a brother. Then a trip of us cousins was planned. I was nervous but decided to act in a normal "nothing happened" kind of way with her in the trip During the last day of trip, she again asked what had happened. I said it was just some stupid overthinking on my side and its fine now(though it was not). She started crying badly this time. She said I didnt know how much it affected her (I am skeptical of this, as she was active on social media and was pretty normal, while I was the one who became private and started to hate life). I was touched, and I didnt know what to say. I was just always torn if she saw me as something more and till today haven't been able to figure it out. After a week it was New Years, and she texted telling me to explain what exactly had happened. I told her I felt for her friends were important and blah blah. She was furious. She said she had cried for many days after I had door-slammed her and was not able to trust anyone. She said, I was supposed to know how much I affected her and even now I was more important than her Bffs, BECAUSE family comes first. It was just so damn confusing. But i was also a fool, as I told her that she was the 'little sister' I had always wanted and will always pray for her happiness. It was just me forcefully telling myself she is a sister. We had a nice chat till dawn, we both said that we meant a lot to each other. I still was confused about myself and her too. Part II (Escalation) We then started sharing stuff again. I was careful not to fall by blocking any feelings. We sometimes chatted till dawn, when she was alone, we even used to talk on phone till dawn. Random things. I feel happy when we interact, but feel a gut-wrenching pain when I realize, she is going to be someone else's eventually. Being torn again amidst feelings of love and being a brother, I again started to drift away very subtly. By end of the year, we chatted barely once in a month. She was the one always initializing conversations. During Christmas, she gave a surprise visit with other cousin to my hometown. I was so frustrated. I didnt want to fight those feelings again. But i acted happy and pseudo-enjoyed their stay. Guess what, again at New Years' she texted me saying it was the best week of the year but she thinks I dont trust her. I slipped because could not control. I told her (not at all romantically), that she was the most important person and will always be my #1 priority forever. Was just afraid of future when we will marry others. I trust her the most and she affects me the most. She reciprocated the same exact feelings. On marriage worry, she said that somehow we will manage. I just couldn't in God's name figure what does she mean. Does she see me as more than a brother !! We used to write sweet messages when the other one sleeps to wake up happy. She used almost every medium to stay in touch. Text, call, snap. She says she is afraid to go into that space again where we weren't talking. She is very comfortable with me, and never wants my special place in her heart to change. After a month, I told her I was getting obsessed. Wanted to text every minute, and if she didnt reply for a long time, I was getting restless. She said she was going through the same and was going to confess soon. She was afraid of such thing, but could not control it. I gave her two options - decrease our interaction for a long term peace of mind or choose obsession. She chose the latter. For her, lesser interaction was more scary than obsession. I secretly felt happy but confusion too increased. We both got more close. Been texting a lot. Recently I had to travel for a few days, and we had a fight. So didnt text. After coming back, she said her mood was completely off and she was waiting for my text full time. Checking if I was coming online. I again gave her those two options. She again chose obsession. I asked her if I will remain her #1 no matter what, she said if I dont again do any stupid thing like distancing away, then definitely yes. Now we are trying to mutually find ways to reduce obsession. Btw there is definitely some sort of lust involved from my side, though I have skillfully bottled that up till now. And I am just as confused and exhausted about my feelings and hers too. -Fin- I need advice on : Do you all think this is a normal brother-sister relation or there are definitely more feelings involved. I am just afraid of opening my heart without getting clear on this first. Stuff I am sure of, and hence made peace with : Marriage is never going to happen, neither our parents will even remotely accept of this. Its such a taboo, that I will be jailed on some grounds even if I hint at such stuff. Best scenario : We are in a secret relation, admitting that this is love. True and pure love. (This brings warmth). Worst scenario : No interaction. I can live with this too. Just sadly. (This brings sub-zero darkness). Anyone who read the whole thing and advised, I sincerely thank you. You are kind. Getting a third person perspective is all I need right now.
  27. I had really like to start a message in Help/Advice to get proper advice. Waiting for some mod to reply and help me.
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