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  4. LadyC

    Moderators needed

    LOL sorry, i know you've kicked him out, but this just made me laugh! and yeah, i remember when we got positive feedback. it made it feel like what we did here made a difference. i think that's why we're all burnt out, because there is so little appreciation from those we try to help. for what it's worth, it's not just here that i'm suffering burn-out. i just "quit" the pantry, too. it's not that i don't care anymore about the hungry people, i am just ready for someone else to feed them. i guess that doesn't sound very Christ-like.
  5. lmknjbhvgc

    How should I tell my cousin...or should I

    Here is what happened to me this year: I saw my cousin at two different occasions and the way he stared at me, I thought he was interested in me. At that time, I was not 100% sure that he was still talking to his gf. I picked up the wrong signals and ended up looking like a fool. My cousin is really stupid, he don't mind staring at me in public and he don't mind listening to my conversations (his behaviour is sneaky). All of sudden, this guy decides to show up with his gf at my house (not going to forgive him for what he did). Some people are stupid and coward, don't make yourself look desperate and stupid. Maybe there is nothing to lose for you, but I lost my self respect, I was so disgusted because I ended up looking like a desperate person. My advise is not to trust his flirtatious behaviour, some men just like to take pleasure in flirting. I am not going to look into my cousins eyes, he broke my trust.
  6. A.R Wright

    How should I tell my cousin...or should I

    From my blurb it definitely sounds like I have. And for the past little while I definitely feel like Imy only indication that he did is that we did actually have a sexual encounter some time ago. We didn't go all the way but things happened. I won't go to an explicit detail and I will keep this PG-13 but it didn't make me feel like maybe there's something between us. As children we summered up north and spent all of our time together. I imagined we were just close friends which we were. so there is a possibility I'm letting my feelings run away with me. It's me that's been in love with him for years and I never knew if it was the other way around or not. It's hard when you're so blinded by love you can't really see proper perspective. I think in a way I was just being a bit selfish. It destroys you to feel a true deep overwhelming unrequited love for somebody for so many years and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I figured what have I got to lose? We don't see each other often anymore. We used to see each other Thanksgiving and for 2 months when my family spent summers at our home up north. But that is very much in the past. I think what led me there was more the dynamics that we've had with each other's last time we've seen each other. He spends most of his time staring at me and maybe that's just him being awkward. on the one awkward date we had allowed me to touch his hair and stroke his hands. There was one strange moment where I thought he was going to kiss me and didn't. So this could just be another case of a runaway heart. I'll keep things like this Christmas and see how it goes. I guess it's more like a twisted knife that I just wanted to pull out of my chest.
  7. Romalee

    How should I tell my cousin...or should I

    Just my .02 worth, but is there a chance you read way too much into his behavior and let your imagination and feelings run away with your heart?? Maybe he never had any other feelings other than cousin-ly towards you. I'm not trying to be harsh or rain on you, just another perspective. My advice would be to not tell him anything about your feelings until you have had a chance to see what is going on with him. There may be a chance he never meant to lead you on and didn't realize or feel his "flirtatiousness" ( is that a word? :)) was being taken wrong. I wish you the best in coming to terms with your situation.
  8. Romalee

    Moderators needed

    Ok thought I had missed something with "Ken". Just a little FYI KC, I have been here about 15 years. Just a short while before hubby and I married in 2004!
  9. A.R Wright

    How should I tell my cousin...or should I

    Thank you for your response! I've been so nervous about this day. we're going to a family gathering in the suburbs where he lives. I guess that's what I don't want to find out. I have no idea if he started to see somebody. I guess I'm just so in love with him I'm hoping that's not the case. for about a year we talked flirtatiously and he became progressively more stoic as the months went on and more formal in his response. it is very confusing when someone acts one way when you were with them and communicates with you another. When I saw him he was very warm and loving. But now I feel out in the cold. I am very nervous but I think you were right the only way to tell him is in person. It's challenging because it's a big family gathering but I'm going to try and build up the courage and take him aside and tell him how I feel. but before I do that I will definitely ask about what's going on with him. And why he's been out of contact. I'm going to try not to be too confrontational but I just want to know. Why the switch from warm loving man too cold and stoic and formal. I I'm very grateful for this forum. My family is especially conservative and saying that I am in love with my cousin would not go over well with them at all. So this is the only place I can really discuss it. 🙂
  10. KC

    Moderators needed

    Sorry folks. I flagged Ken as a spammer instead of just banning him. He disappeared. I don't miss him.
  11. KC

    Moderators needed

    Ken, what happened to your status as a mod on the other website? I'm not certain why you keep on with your whining about churches and comparing me to past church leaders you had to "deal" with. If you dealt with them as you deal with me then I don't blame them for kicking you out. Personally, I don't owe you a damn thing. Seriously, GFU! This isn't the Waffle House. Goodby. Happy holidays to everyone!
  12. KC

    Moderators needed

    I'm feeling it too! Remember when we used to get positive feedback on the forum? Good grief!
  13. KC

    Moderators needed

    It's always great to read your caustic remarks, Ken. Some of us have been here for 20 years trying to make a difference. I guarantee that when we get new or unique questions, we answer them. CC.com just welcomed a new member to our moderation team a few weeks ago. Romalee graciously accepted my request to help after I decided that we didn't need moderators in addition to the admin team. What a jackass I can be! I can't count the number of years Romalee has been with us. So, Kudos to us despite the growing (or shrinking?) pains. Merry Christmas everyone out there!
  14. LadyC

    Moderators needed

    Wow, that's a sad commentary for churches. I wish I could just say you're wrong, or most churches aren't like that, but I can't. The last two churches I belonged to (one where I used to live years ago, and another that just never had enough members to keep the doors open) and the one I'm attending now are certainly not that way, but my husband and I visited lots and lots of churches to find ones that were truly welcoming. You're right about this forum not really being very welcoming either, in that a lot of threads don't ever get comments. I can only speak for myself when I say that after 20 years here my heart really isn't in it anymore. I wish it wasn't like that, but it's true. The site seems to be on life support and *this* piece of equipment is worn out.
  15. Thankyou everyone great words of wisdom xxx
  16. lmknjbhvgc

    Dealing with telling family

    Ouch! Family is a pain in arse! Been there, but hey that's their reaction and over the time their opinion will change. It would better if you two just get used to it and literally IGNORE! IGNORE! IGNORE! Just don't pay attention to what they are doing or saying to change your mind. They will try hard and let them try all their methods and when they are exhausted they will have to shut up! Lol
  17. lmknjbhvgc

    How should I tell my cousin...or should I

    I strongly suggest you to wait, until you see him and find out about what is going on in his life (whether he is seeing someone or not). You might be tempted to share your feelings, but don't be a fool. Someone might tell you to take a leap of faith, because it sounds so nice and positive and it is encouraging. But, honestly don't make a move unless you are 99% sure that he is into you, why do you want to risk your current relationship because of your temptations? Just a couple more weeks and you will see him, until then hold on!! Lol
  18. Believe me life is much better now! I love the way I am, I may not be living my life as per their expectations but, I know I never did anyone wrong :) and knowing that I am at peace with myself! I think it's okay to be not loved by everyone lol. I have realized that people are not bad and I am not calling myself perfect, it's just we don't share similar values. I don't like to hurt people, yet I may be the one perceived as the most rude and cruel of all in my family. It's just some people bring out the worst in me, I have just distanced myself from them and I am at peace.
  19. I second the motion! 👍 Pooch
  20. KC

    Free VPN Beta testers wanted

    It encrypts your Internet data. We have the public, private and government sectors all vying for control over encryption. I suspect in the years to come, it will become a bigger issue.
  21. LadyC

    Moderators needed

    hi hawk! i've also missed seeing you around!
  22. yep, i'm here. i see no problem telling people you were married to your cousin, BUT, i see no reason to lead with that, either. when you put yourself on the market and start dating again, you're just getting to know people. it takes a while for them to move from the category of 'acquaintance' to 'soulmate', and i think the telling of things like that, if they're told at all, should be somewhere in the middle of those two. after you know him well enough to decide if he's someone you might want to consider long term, but before you're so deeply invested that your whole world would be turned upside down if you found out he just can't accept your past.
  23. LadyC

    Free VPN Beta testers wanted

    i don't even know what vpn means.
  24. pooch

    malayong kamag anak na daw kami

    Try mong isagot ate ganito: "Sino mama't papa mo?" "Ay si ganito ganyan po. "E si hubby?" "Ay si ganito ganyan po. "So diba medyo malapit kayong magkamaganak?" "Di man! Malayo na rin po sabi nung judge." (Sabay change topic) 😉 Usually naguusisero lang naman ang tao dahil walang maitanong.gusto lang na kausapin ka.. pero as soon as nasagot mo siya na "as if wala lang" magiging kumportable ka rin at wala lang din naman yun sa kausap mo.. eventually it will get better... yung pagkakaparehas ng apilyedo, di masyadong malakas ang stigma lalo na pag di mo naman na kelangang gamitin.. hope my comment helped. 😊 Pooch
  25. pooch

    malayong kamag anak na daw kami

    Yup! Pwedeng pwede po. ang bawal po sa pinas ay 1st cousin...kasi 4th consangyinity po siya as per family code of the phils.
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    malayong kamag anak na daw kami

    Asawa ko po malayong kamag anak na mamin sabi pero parehas kami ng apelyedo nag sasama kami ngayon ng patago at may isang baby na kmi na super cute . Subrang na dedepress Ako Dahil Sa sitwasyon namin don't get me wrong love ko ang asawa ko pero di talaga maiiwan na mag isip na kung ano ano . AnOng sasabehin ng mga tao Sa paligid ano ang sasabihin ko Sa anak ko pag laki nya pero na buhayan Ako Dahil na meet ko tung web. Alam mo yung bigat ng dibdib ko nabawasan mag 3 years na kmi nagtatago Gamit namin ay ibang pangalan at apelyedo naririnig ko lang Sa radyo na pwedi s batas at simbahan ang 2nd cousin and so on. Pero dko pa nacoconfirm Subrang nag papasalamat talaga Ako na nkilala ko kayo ngayon ko lang nalaman na pwedi pala talaga na relieve Ako Hindi sang ayon ang pamilya namin kaya nag pakalayolayo nalang kami galing Ako Sa broken family Subrang hirap kahit San lang Ako nkikitira na kamag anak palipat lipat dumating nga Sa point na gusto ko ng mag suicide ee . kaya nung meet ko siya insan tawagan namin dati alam niyo naman Sa probinsya pag mag same ng last name mag pinsan na pero malayong na talaga Sabe nila . First namin non magkita ,alam ko pangalan nya pero diko pa sya nakikita di kami nag tatagpo Sa barangay namin e kaya yun don nag start ang lahat.. AnO kaya gagawin ko? Di alam ng kapit bahay namin na ganito yung sitwasyon namin tapos panay pa tanong lalo na nung nanganak Ako Panay tanong ng magulang namin .
  28. pooch

    newbie

    Active na active pa rin syempre! 😊 Pooch
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