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  2. I agree with KC. Don't try to "fix" the relationship - it is not fixable and you should move on to a better life. Good luck to you! HUGS Nat
  3. He is just your partner, not your husband? You tell that hateful demon to get up, get dressed and get the hell out of your life. There is no other option. He has zero respect for you and never will.
  4. I think LadyC is correct, although she and I both know that sometimes marriages come to an end. If that is the case, now is a very good time to break the news to your husband. You should do this before you are any more wrapped up in your cousin. You really put us in a bad spot when asking "should I leave my husband for my cousin." The short answer is no, of course. My wife and I have been on and off for years. Two years ago, I decided to try again with her -- not because it was easy but because it was hard. There was a whole lot of crap to get past and to process. The experiment didn't work out but I am glad that I gave it one last shot. Is that an option for you? I suggest that you give it another try with your husband, maybe go on a cruise. In my opinion, you should keep the affair to yourself and take it to your grave. Look, if it doesn't work out, then do it right. Leave your husband before you start back with your cousin. Second marriages statistically are more likely to fail than first marriages. If you keep carrying on with your cousin, you may very well end up with nothing but a lot of heartbreak. I would hate to see that.
  5. Guest

    Two issues

    First, that’s a stereotype across a lot of our society. The stereotype is that “out of all the fish in the sea.” Falling for a cousin is not a “choice” for many. That’s why we’re on this board looking for others who understand how we feel. It’s not a situation we grow up hoping to be in when we find someone we really like and could possibly see ourselves involved with. If your relationship with her progresses to a point you both decide to be romantically involved I’m assuming you’ll either want to go somewhere where it’s easy for you to be together without others knowing the relation or you just keep it undercover in your current community. The last option is the least appealing one if you ask me. As for her being in a another relationship, you can tell her your feelings but make clear to her that you’re not expecting an answer from her. You just wanted her to know. Let her make the choice on who she wants to be with and be understanding (not just with her but yourself) if she chooses to stay with the other person. Many choose the other person because it’s safe and not wrought with the same social challenges as the cousin relationship. Just keep that in mind if she stays in her relationship. It may be a choice that has more to do with that than you as a person. Good luck,
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  7. Guest

    Two issues

    Hey guys, I have two issues I'd like to ask for advice on. The first is anyone on here who's a country person having to deal with the stereotypes of country people interested romantically in their cousins because "they have no other options" which in my opinion is just complete ignorance. Which makes me feel I can't tell anyone I know about my feelings for her. And the second is that she's currently in a relationship. Which I'm supportive of her and just want to let her know I'm there for her. Anyone who read this, thank you and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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  10. Thank you for helping people get the information they need. Good stuff as usual. Keep up the good work!!! http://maps.google.rw/url?q=http://kazkomkredit.kz/budut-napravleny-poluchennye-dengi/
  11. The suggestion of a lawyer was to try and find out if cousin marriage would effect his job in the military. I'm in Canada, and in my province, one can phone a lawyer and the first half hour is free. Check to see if you have something like that in your State with your law society. If a lawyer could not answer your question about cousin marriage affecting his military job, perhaps the lawyer would know where you could get that answer. Ambra
  12. I live in Florida - cousin marriages are legal here. there would be no no notation of "cousin marriage" on the certificate. If you want to make sure, call the Clerk of Court in any county and ask to make sure. You could do that in any state for verification. No need to pay an attorney fee. Good luck. HUGS Nat
  13. Perhaps wait for what others have to say, but I think you should find a lawyer who can answer both your questions. Perhaps a lawyer could answer your military question too. Good luck Ambra
  14. So many questions. But first let me give you an insite on our relationship. We are 1st cousins once removed, currently living in our home state of ohio, where marriage is prohibited. We have been together for 5 years now, and he is in the military. We have contemplated getting married in a state that allows marriage but were concerned with what the marriage certificate would say. Like is it stamped "cousin marriage " or ? Are their any red flags? Our family is aware of our relationship and have been very supportive however we do not want to risk his job.
  15. you're married. that means your cousin is off limits. you need to find a way to reconnect with the man you vowed to share your life with, and that means you're going to have to walk away from the sexy cousin.
  16. Well...I work 40 plus hours in town and I along with my husband also farm 200 head of beef cattle, my husband just throws low blows constantly. We live in a little town where everyone knows us and our families, etc. that also includes my cousin. "Rugged" to me is a sexy thing. To me it means long hair, scruffy, tattoos, i don't really know other then that's how I would explain it. For the kids, the farm, divorce is not an option at the moment. Honestly my kids will be out of the house (hopefully) by the time I'm 40 so I initially wanted to hold out until then but the last 2 months have really thrown a wrench in that. Until i found this website, honestly, i thought i was a freak but clearly this is more "normal" then I could have imagined and that does put my heart at some ease. ***I live close to Arkansas so unfortunately have always heard the "cousin" jokes my whole life* I am not botheted by KC, I'm a very smarta**ed person myself and Nat, thank you, I may just take you up on that. Also, sorry for the double post. It wasn't loading (or that's what I thought anyways)
  17. Hey thanks for the advice guys. I'm actually very embarrassed so I haven't posted for awhile. I don't know what was going on with my mind when I typed those words. I've gotten busy since and it helped tremendously, but yea, that was a very low point in my life. But I've mostly moved past the shock and grief stage and now I'm in a much calmer state of mind. It's definitely difficult to cope since this isn't something you can share freely with other people who aren't in the same boat. Looking back I realize how stupid and weak I sounded, I wish there's an option to delete posts haha.
  18. You are in the same boat I am in.
  19. Graypmn

    Big crush

    Hello There, never thought I would used this but it's worth a try. I have a big crush on my older cousin, I am 21 year's old and Idk how old she is. She's looking to become a nurse she's in college. We've always had a deep connection together and I would always check up on her very sweet girl. We live in the state but different cities we only get to see each other in funerals and special events so every 4 year's we stay connected and I told her she was my favorite cousin and she told me she love me but I doubt she love me more than family but in my eye's I think she is the greatest girl ever. She don't be going on dates and don't be sluting around she have way more class than that and idk what to do. I would love to be with her but with my luck if I confess she probably won't talk to me no more.
  20. I'm getting ready to smack KC up side the head! Of all the idiotic comments! I've been through sometime similar and got a divorce. which, I think, saved my life. I found a book that is very helpful in dealing with difficult people in a positive manner. It is Nasty People, How to Stop Being Hurt by them without stooping to their level/ You can get it from Amazon. I do agree with Hawk that you should sort out your marriage before continuing with your cousin. Pay no attention to KC's humor - I'll be sorting him out. LOL Send me a message if you want to know more. I'm on your side!!! HUGS Nat
  21. Why do you only work 30 hours a week? Are you crippled or something? If you don't like the fact that your husband keeps pointing out that you're lazy then I would just tell him so. I I would try to make my husband happy. Get a second job. He probably knows you are running around like a little busy bee. Yeah too much time on your hands. Well obviously he is right. You have enough time to chase after your rugged cousin. What does rugged mean anyway? I like to think of myself as rugged. Sometimes I skip a day without shaving. Go do some work please. Something constructive.
  22. FreeSpirit, Since this was double posted, I deleted the copy. Now, as to advice. You will find this community to be very supportive of cousin relationships, UNLESS one or both are married/in other relationships. Our advice is going to be to stop the shenanigans with the cousin, do everything you can to salvage your marriage, and should that NOT be possible, divorce BEFORE continuing to carry on with your cousin. Kinda the TL/DR version of our standard donation to this sort of party, so don't be surprised if this is elaborated on by others.....
  23. Here I sit, at work none the less and allllllllll I can do is think about my amazing, funny, handsome, rugged, adventures...cousin. I have been married for over a decade, in my early 30's with kids and I have been having an affair with my cousin for a couple of months. My husband constantly has me on an emotional rollercoaster. He comes out of nowhere gripping at me, tells me Im lazy, I never do enough, etc. I work 40 plus hrs a week, volunteer, very involved in our community, etc. Since this affair began I have been so much happier, my cousin too! I have reallt been considering leaving my husband but am so afraid of the consiquences. Help!
  24. i think denver is pretty also. but i've only driven through!
  25. Guest

    In love with my cousin

    I am 17 years old male and my cousin is 26. I always was attracted to her but it wasn’t until a little more then a year ago, that I started really having feelings for her. We text a lot but it’s never flirty but i do find that she is usually always the one to start the conversation. We have a lot in common and whenever I’m with her in person, I feel a strong vibe and I can tell that she follows me. If I go inside she goes inside and if I go outside, she goes outside. We always make strong eye contact and it’s just ways I feel when I’m looking at her that are unique to her. She acts different when we’re around other people and when we’re texting it’s like she’s a different person. I really want to tell her in someway how I feel but I’m afraid that she doesn’t feel the same way. Perhaps I see only what i want to see. When I’m honest to myself I remember how she’ll be talking about other guys to my other cousins when I’m around her. Just the way she looks at me and try’s to talk to me tells me different. I don’t know if any of this makes sense. I just don’t know what to do. A little context: like i said I’m 17 in high school but really mature for my age. She’s 26 going to college and she isn’t a very social person, she has her small circle of girlfriends and that’s it. She’s very close to her family and still lives with her parents. Whenever I go to hangout with my guy cousins, she’s there. She definetly treats me different as opposed to my other cousins. I’m not the best at telling things, but I just want to know if anyone can help me with my life. I suppose I’m a little depressed too
  26. KC

    What Is the Deal?

    i have sent you a free emails. Did you not get them? send your current email in the contact form. or you phone# if you like
  27. Guest

    What Is the Deal?

    I’ve been banned from CC. Somebody please tell me what’s going on. Natanna banned me for being abusive and a troll?? I admit this has hit a sore spot with me. Obviously I don’t want this to be posted. I’m on the site as a guest through my phone.
  28. KC

    Chat Room

    Forum developers dropped that feature. I may install a third party chat mod someday.
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