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  3. I say reach out to him and see what happens. It may work out, maybe not, but you need to let yourself explore this and if it doesn't work out, THEN you can finally move on. If it does, then you can either deal with the famoly fallout or keep it secret. My 1st cousin and I are in a relationship together and our family doesn't know. I don't care and nor does he. It's not any of their business.
  4. Actually our Father's are second cousins to each other, so I believe he and I are third cousins. I live in the states so its not illegal to date or marry, but we don't even talk anymore because everyone made a big deal out of it (laughing about it, reminding me that it's incestuous etc.) when my mother found the information out (she also believes he already knew). I wanna talk to him so badly about how I feel but I'm scared. I've tried getting over him for the past two years. Even dated others but I don't connect with them as I do him. I don't know if they're real feelings or just chemistry from the blood relation. It hurts ..
  5. If you're using a nick name, you shouldn't need to worry about your friends. Most people here want to talk on the forum. Post a specific question, and see if you get an answer.
  6. I think that makes you 2nd cousins. If I remember correctly, 2nd cousins are not biologically related. You would need to find out if you can marry where you live. If your family and culture are against it, that can be difficult to overcome. You might want to read more on that topic on this board. If there is a will, there is a way.
  7. Ask a family member that you can trust, who is familiar with the situation of your cousin not being related, and ask that person what you should do.
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  9. I'm fairly new to this forum. I've needed help trying to seek advice on this because its a bit embarrassing to try and talk to peers. 2015 I was out one night with my sisters and we were sitting talking with a group of guys and I noticed one of their friends. We were exchanging looks so my friend got his number for me. It didn't really go anywhere, but fast forward to 2017 messaged me on Facebook then that's when we began really conversing. He had a legal commitment at the time so we could only see each other on weekends. One weekend during Graduation season for highschool students (We are not in highschool. I had friends Graduating) he came down and we all went out. As we were talking (same group of guys) it came about that a few were related to me, but I had alcohol in my system so it didn't really dawn on me that he could've been as well. The next time I talked with him I brought up that we should find out if there is relation. He got really defensive and asked where I got that info from (even though I had never asked in the first place, I was just speaking in regards to the info I found out at the bar). I told him nowhere and that I just wanted to be sure. We never discussed it again, and began to grow closer, until one day my mother happened to come to my house and he was there. She asked who his people were and he mentioned a last name that my mother immediately recognized but its my Paternal side of the family. She basically let us know that we're related. (My great grandmother and one if his great grandparents were siblings) We are in very close proximity in regards to cities we lived in and i was literally always with my Great grandmother as a child. I adored her, but i just have no recollection of him even though his grandmother is my great grand's niece. We were never physically involved but I was still so heartbroken. I really don't know what to do. He subliminally posted on Snapchat a few months later that read "There is this beautiful red girl I want, but our history won't let us." My sister said she saw him one night back in June and he asked about me. I saw him last weekend after not seeing or talking to him for months but we went back to the first time ever seeing other. No words, just exchanging looks. I'm not sure what to do. I've broken down in tears from this because I have no one to talk to about it. I don't know if we fell in love or just feel a deeper connection because of relation. I am also African American and that's extremely taboo for my race. If anyone has any advice or need more information on our history please message me or reply to this board. I would appreciate any advice right now ❤
  10. The thought has been planted in her mind. If you were to keep trying to get her to see you as a couple could backfire on you. Let it be, no pressure on her, no mention of it, and just be her friend, If she should begin to see you in the way you want, she will let you know. It might be by actions or maybe by words, but you will know. BUT you must also be prepared to accept that she may never see you in the same way. When she next visits, play it cool, just be a friend and enjoy the visit with no other expectations.
  11. I wish I saw this sooner, I enlisted Victoria's gay sister to bring up the idea that I could possibly have a crush on her. Long story short she knows and accepts it she said she loves me too but I don't know if it's the same way. Any tips I could get her to accept the idea of us a couple of any other helpful advise. This time I'll check before I tell my first cousin I'm in love with her... PS we're both 18, we talk everyday and everynight and send snaps saying how much we wish each other a wonderful sleep, she's also a hour away but coming to visit this Sunday. Big time freaking out.
  12. Ummmmm, what should you do? Go away. Far, far away
  13. Advice would be sort of dependent on your ages. But if you see each other often, are around each other and know each other pretty well, if the situation arises you could always use the line " if you weren't my cousin I would date you" or "you possess the qualities I look for in a girlfriend." If she gives you the EWW factor or shows shock or disinterest, you always have the out of telling her " I said IF" Gives you an out, lets you know if there is any interest, and/ or plants the seed of possibilities with her. Don't mention it again, let her take the lead on this after you have told her. Whatever you do, DON'T declare your love for her----- yet anyway!! Build a solid friendship, one a potential relationship could be built on. Best wishes.
  14. I'm in love with my cousin Victoria, and I wake up in the morning hoping I'll hear from her. And spend my nights worried if she's happy rn. We have humor, music, and so much more in common. But my biggest issue is, if I tell her how I would even bring it up. I don't want it to hurt or relationship because I know the pain would crush me. But she's family, I'm so confused and feel like I could crumble from these feelings. I need answers 😢
  15. I have a relationship with my cousin and I am so happy with him. If it's wrong, I don't want to be right.
  16. I totally don't think so,,My aurt married her cousin,,they been together 20 yrs or so with two kids a girl and a boy,the boy is my age,,and he awesome handsome,,,i could fall in love with him,,and be happy about it,,,When he hugs me,,,i get crazy hot,,he even kisses my lips now and then,,,We spend a lot of summer together,,and so handsome and masculine in a swim trunks,,,my inmagination go bonkers,,think how I wish we could make love,,,he one hot guy,,,If he ever ask me,,I,m sure I'd say Yes and go all in with him,,,so I can see why cousins fall in love. DorathyJayne
  17. Is it wrong to be in love with your cousin.
  18. Hello me and my cousin wants to get married 2021 . I hope we don't have any problem. His mom is my dad first cousin .why do we fall in love with or cousin
  19. 1 When the next time Moslem Fanatics kill and maim innocent people, our Govt will "hang out to dry" the remainder of the Moslem population as they have to innocent legal firearm owners, I think not.
  20. I was wondering what the music that plays in the dance scene of this short is?. Is it a popular piece of the time or just something unknown?. Whatever it is, it has a nice bop to it
  21. I also have a question: Does he have a girlfriend? Pooch
  22. how old are you NOW? you said you moved into their house when you were 11. how long ago was that?
  23. I still have a hard time texting on my Touch. Too many mistouches. I have been forcing myself to use the touch screen, but maybe its time to break out the qwerty board.
  24. I am glad we had a dual cooker when we came over. I bought it in France but there were 3 rings LPG, 1 ring was electric and so was the oven... Bon Chance
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  26. Hello, CC. I've been in a relationship with my second cousin (or so that's how I was told we're related.) for almost two years now. While we're still young (between 18-25 years old), this is definitely the most loving, healthy, balanced and caring relationship I've ever been in and she can say the same for herself (I'm a female and she's a MtF transgender. She's on estrogen and testosterone blockers and is infertile as a result). I believe with all my heart that she's the person I was meant to be with. Growing up, we were always told we were second cousins by our family members and when things started getting romantic, we were very relieved that second cousin marriages were legal in every state in the U.S, where we reside. We've both always loved the idea of getting married and having families of our own and when our relationship started to get a little bit more serious, we decided to do our own "homework" so to speak, just to make sure we had the legalities figured out. Well, apparently, we didn't. Apparently your parent's cousin is your first-cousin-once-removed (1stCOR), not your second cousin. Which is fine, because 1stCOR marriages are legal in every state but 6. We'd statistically be in the clear, right? Wrong. Of course we had to reside in one of those 6 states (Washington). Not to mention, we can't even get married in a state where it's legal and then come back, as the state will consider the marriage void. Now, it's legal for us to be in a sexual/cohabiting relationship. Just no marriage. When I first read that, I first got angry and defensive. How the heck would the state even know? We don't do blood tests or anything so how would they even know? Then I found out when you apply for a marriage license both parties have to record their parent's first and last names on the application. Now, neither of our parents have the same last name, but my girlfriend's mom is my maternal grandmother's sister. They both have the same maiden names. Then my mind started racing and I got anxious, thinking "during the three day waiting period the state must do a background check where they check your family tree to make sure you're not related so if we apply for a marriage license we're gonna get denied and that'll be a whole other level of embarrassment and I can't deal with that." So now I'm in bed at almost midnight being drinking tea. I'm no longer angry and defensive, and I somewhat understand why the law is in place. It still just sucks and I'm super sad. I just want to marry my best friend. I wish I didn't look it up because at least I could claim ignorance, blame it on the terminology used by my family my entire life. I don't know why I'm posting this. I guess to just... get it out? Since I can't talk to my family about it (they know of the relationship but 95% of them are very unsupportive).
  27. If the candidate isd that religion or whats to be supported by a religion then so be it. I mean, its their canpaigne, if they wanna have a religious supporter then go right ahead i say.
  28. Hello, I am from north India and am in love with my mom's uncle's son. We are first cousin once removed. Is it legal for us to get married in India? please help me out. Thanks, Danisha
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