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  2. Serendipity, I see. I believe in the shock treatment sometimes. Knowing when to use it is the trick. I remember seeing a counselor suggested by a judge (made me an offer I couldn't refuse). This counselor hit the roof! Red-faced crazy yet somewhat aloof and professional. "YOU SIR ARE IN THE TOP ONE PERCENT OF DRINKERS WORLDWIDE!" ... "HOW LONG DO YOU THINK YOU ARE GOING TO LIVE?" Oh boy! I was so mad I can't remember if I cursed him our or not, but I probably did. The F-Bomb! This was a huge turning point in my life and the guy may very well have saved my life. He had a way of driving a point across. Let's just say!
  3. KC - if Gthings had not said that she wanted to vent and not be judged, I probably would've responded differently.
  4. Gthings, BOOM! You are exactly right. And who says it would work out with your cousin anyway? I hope your marriage survives and I hope you thrive.
  5. All, I appreciate your thoughts and comments. You're not wrong at all. I have already decided to not go there with my cousin. My relationship with God trumps and I am work in my daily on getting back on track. I was weak and put myself in a position I should've.
  6. I agree 100%. I've cried, journaled, prayed profusely. I think that's what's bothering me most. I wish we were both bold enough to have shared how we felt many years ago.....but reality is we didn't so now I'm trying to recondition my thought back to the "just family" way of thinking. So not easy. Thanks for responding.
  7. Well well well. I can't say adultery is ever tenable on hardly any level. But there is certainly a right and wrong way to say things and to communicate. Are you sure she needs the shock treatment, Serendipity? FWI- I would like to see her back with her husband as well. Actually the "shock treatment" is probably the best way to go here. Yo! Keep that thang zipped tight until you get a proper separation / divorce. Why do women sabatash their marriages? And how do to you resist his irresistible charm? Pretend you are a lady and stay the hell away from him. (Yeah, right?) Not only does adultery disappoint God, it causes people to go to an eternal pit of fire unless they repent. I'm not here to judge, on the last day there will be lots of mercy and grace, but also judgement. It only looks like people are getting by with all of the evils that we see and hear about. I want to see you in heaven. All the best to you my friend. Pray!
  8. While God allows the marriage of cousins, he does not allow adultery. Because you are married, I would kindly advise you to stay away from your cousin. Continuing what you are doing is going to lead you to a lot of serious trouble and problems in the long run.
  9. Agreed. God may allow cousin marriages, but he does not allow adultery.
  10. Gthings: You are married? You ARE disappointing God. Either get thee divorced or get thee away from your cousin. We have no judgement for cousin love; we do for screwing around on your husband.
  11. The article is in the Shoot the Breeze thread
  12. This is very very helpful. Thank you all!
  13. I am so frustrated that this Stigma of falling in love with a first cousin, makes it so we can’t just fall in love and be happy. There has got to be a way for us to be happy and not have this over our heads.
  14. Oh yes. I can relate. As kids my cousin and I would kiss and "hump". Over the years since the death of my uncle (his dad) and his mom. We grew apart, although speaking and writing here and there. Just to give you a time frame... we are now in our 40s. Over the last 2yrs, for me that childhood attraction has resurfaced (keep in mind I have been married for 2yrs now 3kids). We had been texting back and forth, testing our memories. Turns out he was just as nervous as I in bringing up what we did in the past and how we still feel now. Just last week, we discussed it (well after he kissed me and I didn't pull away) and even more recently we gave into our passion. For me, I'm at a place that I'm telling myself....no! You're married, he's your 1st cousin, this can't be...you're disappointing God. We haven't spoken about what happened yet but all I can say, is when I'm around him, the attraction I feel towards him is so strong....I've NEVER felt this attraction towards anyone like this before. I've gotta say, I'm grateful to have found this forum. I need to confess/vent and share with no judgement.
  15. As kids my cousin and I would kiss and "hump". Over the years since the death of my uncle (his dad) and his mom. We grew apart, although speaking and writing here and there. Just to give you a time frame... we are now in our 40s. Over the last 2yrs, for me that childhood attraction has resurfaced (keep in mind I have been married for 2yrs now 3kids). We had been texting back and forth, testing our memories. Turns out he was just as nervous as I in bringing up what we did in the past and how we still feel now. Just last week, we discussed it (well after he kissed me and I didn't pull away) and even more recently we gave into our passion. For me, I'm at a place that I'm telling myself....no! You're married, he's your 1st cousin, this can't be...you're disappointing God. We haven't spoken about what happened yet but all I can say, is when I'm around him, the attraction I feel towards him is so strong....I've NEVER felt this attraction towards anyone like this before. I've gotta say, I'm grateful to have found this forum. I need to confess/vent and share with no judgement.
  16. A few times a year I do this. Let me know if you like any of these song please. I usually just run across them on YouTube. Let me know if you hate these and I will stop posting them! And you can do the same. . . just use newish music that the masses have missed. Anyone know any of these groups? All new to me. Big Head Ted has me hooked. Feedback? This group has lots of great songs. (But I don't agree with the lyrics). My gal is never coming home. Where did this guy come from? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpXTK7HD2Ls&list=LM Alabama Shakes Black Stone Cherry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VNthEJlSdw&list=LM So Well This is cousin couples, right? Well here is what ya bee waiting for: This song is so dark and heartbreaking, I hated to post it. I also hate not to post it. I think they clipped this guy at an early age. Wow, he has such a beautiful head voice (high voice). Let's end on a positive note! Almost forgot about the "Golden Boy." This guy's sister just got kicked off the show and called a "lounge singer!" The pressure cooker!
  17. KC

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    Thanks for supporting or at least suffering our newest sponsor, Grammarly. They paid me a few nickles for writing that . . . actually they were quite generous. I will leave the link up for some time and see if is profitable. So you are welcome to try them out. Their free package is very generous. It's the first plugin I install in a new browser. It's great to find a sponsor like that. 3/4 of the merchants deny cousincouples.com application to become an affiliate because of their "standards." What year is it again?
  18. Please message me too! Talking to you helps me feel less alone.
  19. Omg I'm so sorry. I definitely understand those hurtful words and how bad it can sting to hear them. But again I'll speak from what I would do. He seems to just be honestly scared. Especially if you've guys are inlove and at one point really happy, these words are probably rooted and coming from fear of judgement! It's hard to accept having to understand why they put the family's judgment before our genuine love but it's a really scary feeling. They're afraid and nervous and I really think that causes them to act a certain way. I'm hoping that somehow you guys can rekindle and he comes to some kind of realization and acceptance. Because you guys deserve to be happy, you shouldn't sacrifice the strong feelings you have for eachother for the comfort of others. It's really not fair and I just wish I had more advice to give. But then again I'm still trying to keep things together in my own situation. I'm really hoping that things look up for you guys really soon. And again please feel free to message me, it would be nice to talk to someone dealing with similar issues☺️!
  20. Thank you for replying. After I told him we were pregnant it has gotten pretty bad.😢 At this point I have no idea if we even have a future. His initial reaction was get rid of it. What if it’s Special Needs? I can’t do this. Then he started freaking out about everyone knowing the baby is ours. It went so deep that we even talked about me raising the baby on my own and telling everyone I had a one night stand. I melted down after that. How can he allow his fears to justify our baby growing up without knowing her father? There has to be a way to get through this stigma and for us to just find happiness. This is killing my Soul.😢
  21. Wow! Your situation is lot more complicated now that you there is a baby involved. I think that you should push the idea of you guys relocating If that is really a do-able option for the two of you. I can only speak from the perspective of what I would do: I would definitely sit down/contact him to discuss our options...especially with you being pregnant. It isnt just about you two as a couple it's also about him being a father to a child. So this is a serious situation and I really hope that you guys can figure something out! I would love to be able to talk more on a different forum sense we're kind of in the same predicament!
  22. I am in the middle of the same type of situation, somewhat. My cousin and I have been together for a while in secret and he has started saying that there is no way we could be together openly. He is seriously hung up on what the family will say. I recently found out that I am pregnant and it has sent him over the edge. He has completely pulled away and I don’t know how to help him accept our situation. I am freaking out that he is going to run scared because of his inability to see past his fears of the stigma of our relationship. I even suggested that we relocate and start over in a new place that no one knows we are cousins, he seems to consider it but then he pulls away again. any advice will be extremely helpful and appreciated. I am desperate.
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