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  1. 3 points
    I can feel your pain and fully identify with it. My cousin is married to some else. Being in love with your cousin and having a relationship with someone else is NOT healthy - not to you OR to the someone else. My strongest advice to you is to build a life for yourself. Keep busy and find new activities to fill the hours. Try to keep from discussing your situation with others and look for ways to enlarge your hobbies. It isn't easy, it is painfully brutal but you need to care for yourself. I have walked in your shoes and I understand. Come back for sympathy and advice. HUGS Nat
  2. 2 points
    May I be frank, Frank? I realize that I am not answering your question but there is an elephant in the room. I think you are playing with fire. What you are pursuing is just as dangerous as smoking a little crack cocaine "just on the weekends." In the end, you may very well lose everything, and over what? A girl who has already rejected you once before. Let's say that you are just wanting a one night stand. Even with that, things can get out of control very quickly. You can't win this one, Frank. When the chandelier crashes to the floor, there is no putting the pieces back together. Think and look out for yourself; nobody else is going to.
  3. 2 points
    Well Boss - did I babble enough to you tonight???? Stop your whining and TAKE A TRIP LOL HUGS
  4. 1 point
    After a 13 hour drive to Florida to see Nat (for the first time) she took me immediately to her favorite coffee/craft beer shop. When I walked in I was greeted like royalty. Or so it felt. The owner is a model like you would see in Hollywood. She is a for-real drop-dead-georgous model and I was thunderstruck. She looks at me and says, "Hello KC. May I call you KC?" She already knew my story and who I am. Wow that is interesting. Nobody on Earth knows that I am KC save the adnins here, and this town is small like Mayberry lol. I would describe this place as Mayberry with a liquor store. Everything is cool; I am enjoying my vacation. It was 45F and raining when I left and down here it is 75 and freaking beautiful. And Nat is wonderful. She has mad cooking skills. So now I have met two admins - LadyC & Mark and now Nat. All of us admins are extraordinary heh heh. Sorry Sorry for typos. I'm being an insominiac tonight and I am using a mobile device. Keep yall posted and maybe I will post a Pic of the model with Nat and me.
  5. 1 point
    Thank you so much ☺. Everything else is fine.
  6. 1 point
    Glad you are enjoying your vacay! Maybe one day we will meet up too!!!
  7. 1 point
    Thank you very much sir, problem fixed :).
  8. 1 point
    Please try again and let me know if the problem is resolved. The problem is on my end. Sorry for the trouble!
  9. 1 point
    They're sick. He supports them and his brother helps out.
  10. 1 point
    check out the "letter to mom" post pinned to one of these forums. i'm actually not sure what it's titled, but it's something like that. maybe 'how to tell your mom'. that will give you a lot of good ideas. but honestly, cousins can marry throughout canada and you are adults. my advice is to politely respond to any criticism with "this is not up for discussion" and change the subject. if she won't let the subject drop, politely tell her that you enjoyed seeing her again, kiss her on the cheek or give her a hug or whatever you usually do, and then leave. by the way, you're in your mid 20's. i'm assuming you and your cousin are not still living with your parents, right?
  11. 1 point
    Well. . .alot of ppl doesnt approve something like this. Especially those with strict religion(well mine have a specific order that u may marry ur cousin). And those who really disgust over dwarf child or disable ppl. side aside that. I just want to ask u 1 thing. Do u really love him? Like u really dare to take all responsibility and a great stress for him? Try to run from ur house(not really recommend this. Since its so childish Lol). As i know, ppl with narrow minded cant be talked to. They wont accept any weird thought of other. So, maybe u cant keep playing that pretend that ur love to him died game so u still can be in a good relationship with ur family or u can just run from ur house. Give me an update of what u done later please?
  12. 1 point
    I agree with LadyC! Man up and do what she suggests! Or ask her out to coffee, no need for the liquid courage, and use the tried and true line, "if you weren't my cousin, I would like to date you ( or whatever your words might be)" Or "You possess all the qualities I look for in a date, mate, etc..." Get the idea?? If she gives you the ewwwww factor, remind her you said IF!!! Then say no more. Let her think it over, you may or may not get the answer you want, but you will get an answer in time. Don't push or rush her for an answer. Best wishes on your journey!!
  13. 1 point
    i was reading this and thinking dang, this sounds SO familiar! so i checked your history and found that you posted almost the exact same thing back in october. apparently i was the only one that responded, and my advice hasn't changed. so i'm going to copy/paste exactly what my previous response was, and i do hope others will weigh in and give you their thoughts. damaged, you're a grown man. she's a grown woman. at this age (and i'm also at "this" age), women aren't interested in wasting a lot of time playing games. especially games like getting buzzed just to ease some of the awkward tension. seriously, you need to man up and just tell her you'd like to take her out without the liquid courage, and be willing to risk her rejection. THAT will show her that you're sincere, and that you're willing to be vulnerable. she's far more likely to give you a chance that way.
  14. 1 point
    Where is everyone! Man! Do I have BO or something? <sniff sniff>. Have I finally ran everyone off and the website into the ground? LOL I've finally deleted Facebook and now I have too much time on my hands. I have volunteered as a tech support person at Mozilla. I try to help out the idiot programmers and webmasters at Stack Exchange. I help out on a Christian forum. I do this just to break the monotony of my own computer projects. Anyone else deleted Facebook recently? I'm sick of all the mindless memes. If you make an intelligent post, people scroll on past looking for the next picture. And don't get me started on the data breaches incl our personal pictures. Maybe this forum is slow because there are no more kissing cousins in the world. Perhaps I am the last one. Could be!
  15. 1 point
    Please PM me the details! I'm interested! I was having trouble posting Youtube links on the forum a few days ago but I thought fixed the problem (site has too much security). Let me know the link you are having trouble with.
  16. 1 point
    Stack Exchange has like 50 (I'm guessing) forums. https://stackexchange.com/sites#
  17. 1 point
    I have allergies and bad eyesight yet my parents were not related. Sometimes we can get hysterical about being related for no good reason. Years ago, when I was drinking too much, my blood pressure was extremely high and my doc was perplexed because he could not get it down. We tried for 6 months. One day I asked if I should monitor my blood pressure at home. My doc said, "Why do you want to do that? It's just going to tell you if it is high or not, and what are you going to do if it is high?" I thought my doctor saw everything backasswards but his logic was irresistible. Let's say that a cousin couple went to a geneticist and the doc said, well, because of your family history, you have a 5 percent increased chance of having a baby with a birth defect. Maybe the couple is already pregnant. So what is the knowledge of these stats going to change? To me, it is a time waster. Another example - I go to church with a medical doctor. He has two kids with some sort of profound genetic disorder (they can hardly walk). The doctor is not related to his spouse. Now, after the first child was born with the disease, the doctor had to know very well that having another child would be extremely risky. Well he did have another child and he lost the genetic lottery, unfortunately. I'm sure his colleagues berate him behind his back. I don't hold it against him, although I am sure I would have made different decisions. I guess I see things differently.
  18. 1 point
    If I lived in a big city, I would start such a group. There is not a cousin couple support group anywhere that I am aware of. We have kicked around the idea of having a big event in Vegas (annually?) but it would require wherewithal that I do not have. Also, I don't think we have enough people. Maybe on the website's 30th anniversary we could do something special.
  19. 1 point
    Update MY cousin and I now have an apartment together and are VERY happy. We haven't gotten married yet. Arizona law is both parties have to be over 65. He has 3 years.
  20. 1 point
    Hello everyone, Im giving an update onto this whole situation. So basically, I finally got over the fact that she was dating someone else, but more importantly, she has shown that she does indeed have feelings for me. I chickened out of telling her my true feelings, but sooner or later, she will know,. I want to thank everyone who tried to help, I really appreciate it. I have since stopped taking the pain pills and feel great. Thanks everyone!
  21. 1 point
    DillerDahl: Welcome to cc.com and thanks for your question. I am afraid that LadyC is correct and doesn't need a lesson on genetics. Hey, there is certainly room for all of us to learn more about DNA and kinship. You are so distantly related that I can't determine what your relationship is. You are not double cousins and you certainly are not inbred. You are just uninformed. The Brittish Pakistanis that you referenced are an anomaly -- a fluke resulting from the founder effect. Feel free to look that term up. Your stats are too wacky to correct. Good luck to you and please take a chill pill.
  22. 1 point
    it does not make you inbred. your parents are 2nd cousins. that is genetically no more similar than two UNrelated people. as for what relation that makes you to your parents? THEIR CHILD. oh, and your grandparents' kinship to each other doesn't change anything about this equation. get a grip. it sounds like you are trying to find something to resent them for. i get it. it's a teenager's role in life to hate their parents. but you're going to have to find some other excuse, because this one is just plain stupid.
  23. 1 point
    This is the letter that I wrote to her. I know, it is very revealing on a personal level, but this is a place with people who I think would understand. Edited to protect privacy
  24. 1 point
    Update: My cousin called me back yesterday evening after reading the letter I wrote her. She said she was moved and touched by my words, and that she could not think of a better partner to walk with. It's the "cousin" thing that has her freaked out, mostly, IMO, out of ignorance of the legality of such a union (in our state anyways) and the long, ancient as well as modern historical normalcy of such matches. She is a very smart woman, and I have no doubt that she will start to do her own research and seek to become better informed. I need to step back, and not bombard her with links and information, or appeals to the love that we have for one another, and let her come to her own conclusion, whatever that may be. It is out of my hands, and for Creator to deal with.
  25. 1 point
    Daughter just told me we live in the Paradise area my thought was.. How can it be. I found a short clip of you and Mark.