Ahem... Uh you are MARRIED, that means you do NOTHING about the cousin.
You need to be putting the energy into your marriage. If you are not wanting to do that then
you owe it to your husband to let him decide if he wants to stay married to you. You are essentially
cheating on him ad he doesn't deserve that. If you think I am being harsh or "old fashioned" that is fine.
Just because this is a cousin couples site doesn't mean you will get a pat on the back and a nod to
continue on this path.
Please reconsider and give your marriage an honest chance.