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  1. 10 points
    This is a post I've been meaning to write for a while, because I see so many people struggling with their feelings, and with how the world will/is responding. And I too struggled for years, and thought the idea of being with my cousin was impossible, and thought that if we were together, if by some chance he felt about me the way I felt about him, things would be impossibly hard. We've been married for about two months now. At the very least, members of our family(ies) accept us, and some of them are very happy we're together. Our friends all know and accept us. We are very lucky, and our world is not going to be what everyone gets, but I've learned that there are some advantages to cousin relationships that most relationships don't have, and I want to share that, because I think a lot of you don't know that, and are scared and confused, and I want you to know that not only are cousin relationships NOT impossible, but there are some things that make them special. So, for one thing. If/when your family accepts your relationship, here's a big plus: you are both invested in the same people. When our mutual grandmother (she just turned 87 and lives by herself) needs help, we are both right there to do everything we can. If one of us is more available than the other, that person spends the night at her house. If she's not feeding herself right, we both remind her of that, and if one of us decides to buy her nutritional supplements out of our grocery fund, the other one is happy about that. This is our family. We take care of them, and we both know why, and we both agree on that. Related, if there is a disagreement in the family, we send in the one of us who is best positioned to handle it. So, my husband/cousin's mother's husband (no relation to either of us) emailed the family saying he thought we should all come together and force our grandmother (again, no relation of his) into assisted living. And we talked about how to respond, and in that case my husband/cousin handled it beautifully. And I'm the one who calls our grandmother at least once a week, and tells her we both love her, and checks in on how she's doing, because I'm better on the phone. All of the above is about family, which is really important. But the personal is even more important. My husband/cousin and I saw each other a couple of times a year when we were kids. We didn't see each other for about ten years from adolescence to adulthood. After that, we saw each other again about twice a year, until I moved close to him and things got complicated. But at that point, I already knew him. I'd known him my whole life. We always talked freely about our relationships to each other. I watched him be a father to another woman's three girls, who weren't his, until she made it impossible for him. I knew what he would be like in a relationship before I was ever with him. I knew his strengths, and his flaws, just as he knew mine. And I knew that his strengths were exactly what I needed, and I knew that I complimented his flaws. I walked into this relationship knowing exactly what I was walking into, and loving him for who he is. To me, that's the most powerful potential about a cousin relationship. That you can know the other person, so well, on other terms, before you become romantically involved or commit to them. That's not something most people get to have. Anyone who reads this and is struck by it, or anyone who is struggling with the possibility of a cousin relationship, please feel free to respond here, or to message me directly. And for those of you who are in happy cousin relationships: anything to add?
  2. 2 points
    I'm going to share and express my thoughts about cousin marriages... Stay tuned... Good subscribe to Sage Nation.... The episode will come in two weeks... I'm going to start my podcast again on Thursday March 15th.... Please subscribe and support my channel
  3. 2 points
    Hubby and I, second cousins, are very happy. Married over15 years, retired for over 4, and having a great time traveling wherever we want in our RV! Life is good!
  4. 2 points
    What is it with you guys that just want to have sex with your cousin!!!! Do you not think enough of these young ladies to either have a REAL relationship with them and treat them as they should be treated or are you just STUPID enough to think that they think you are the BEST thing in the world to come their way??????? Honestly I may be old, but if I were either of your cousins I would kick you to the curb, and be HIGHLY insulted that you think so lowly of me! Maybe it is time to mature in your thinking, it isn't all about you.
  5. 2 points
    How old are the two of you?? He sounds really young or maybe immature. All you can do is keep repeating that your aren't interested, don't waver or give in. You don't need to feel guilty that you don't love him. If his feelings are hurt that is for him to work through, not for you to feel guilty about.
  6. 2 points
    Well, my idea of fun is a bit "different": I have filed to be a candidate for a local election! Never, in my wildest dreams, did I ever think of doing that! LOL HUGS
  7. 2 points
    hi elie if you two have a child together, only the nearest kinship would be applicable. so he (or she) would simply be your child... and your cousin's child. the answer you're looking for would be first cousin twice removed... but like i said, that relationship is not one that would be counted or considered for any purpose other than curiosity's sake. but your child isn't going to be a freak show in a traveling circus, so that's just useless information! if you two get married, his dad will be your father-in-law. the fact that he's also your first cousin once removed is irrelevant. your family dynamic has changed. for the record, i'm also married to my first cousin once removed. his dad is my first cousin. we've been married for 19 years... i never could wrap my head around calling him "dad", so i just call him by his first name. but then again, i never called my in-laws from my previous (unrelated) marriage mom or dad either. your child would only considered the 'grandchild' of your parents and your cousin's. likewise, your child would only be the niece or nephew to any of your siblings or your cousin's... no need to count the generations and try to sort out the degrees of kinship or who is once, twiced, or not-at-all removed. always remember the nearest degree is the only one that counts. so the relational stuff would be exactly as it would be if the father were not related to you at all. hope that helped!
  8. 2 points
    This is a difficult subject for me to answer without all up in arms because it gets me a little angry, to be honest. Everywhere you have the gay pride flag waving around...and gay marriage, to my knowledge, has never been legal in US history until a few years ago for everywhere. You have pedophilia that's trying to gain acceptance and there are people/groups that will actually defend pedophilia, saying Pedophiles are just like the LGBT in wanting to love who they love...*eyeroll* Then you have cousins....cousin couples were actually in the bible! Unlike Pedophilia....it's not sexually exploiting and taking advantage of children.....yet it's still looked at as disgusting and vile? Pedophilia's still looked at as disgusting and vile...and it's still against the law, which it always was and always should be. Polygamy and open relationships are celebrated. These are different groups trying to fight for the right and privilege to love and be accepted for who they love(Pedophilia never will, it just can't fly) Why can't that be cousin couples again? At one point in history, it was legal all over the US....but at some point down the line, states started making it illegal...I guess out of concern for how future generations would turn out. It just irks me though....why are is the LGBT being made legal and...well, I don't know what to say about pedophilia....and cousin couples are still looked at by the social circle, the media and legally as 'ick'? To me, this is so unfair....I have trouble comprehending it. So, to answer your question KC...I don't think so. For some reason, the western culture still considers this taboo and seem like they don't even want to acknowledge it or treat it like any other issue. It has to be hush hush and kept under the rug like it's something to be ashamed of.
  9. 2 points
    I will most definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers ❤ Sounds to me your family has a lot of growing up to do
  10. 2 points
    here's the thing, too. and i don't know if your mom is a woman who lives her faith or just gives it lip service, so i'm not criticizing her specifically. but in general, people who don't stand up for God's law when it comes to other issues don't have the right to use the Bible to point fingers. especially since their fingers don't know what the Bible says to begin with.
  11. 2 points
    Tell her, "If we were not cousins ..." and see how she responds!
  12. 1 point
    I feel Dr. Phil was very rude to this couple. I hope they are keeping strong, and anyone else Dr.phil discouraged.
  13. 1 point
    LOL well my fave is the gum on the shoe one. i HATE stepping in gum!!! the site looks nice, KC. really. and great prices!
  14. 1 point
    Hi, I am in love with my first cousin and we want to get married but I am confused about the law. Well, I now we will face alot of problems becuse we are hindu and our society and family will never accept this but we can't live without each other and love each other very much. But the main question is. Is it legal or illegal for first cousin to get married. I did some research and found that according to the Hindu Marriage Act of India "the childern of brother and sister can't marry". But people in the south India tell it is legal to marry first cousin in India. Also, it is normal and first cousin marry in India everyday. Can you help me with this. What is true and what is false. Thank You, Shah
  15. 1 point
    First of all - take several very deep breaths and RELAX! This is a new relationship and you need to take time to figure it all out. You aren't teens so you can make your own decisions. If the families have problems they are their problems - not yours. The one thing that is most important, in my opinion, is his small child. How old is the child? That problem can be handled as well. Don't give in to fear and risk losing happiness. We are here to support and encourage you. HUGS Nat
  16. 1 point
    Question: Does she have a boyfriend? If you say no, how do you know? Pooch
  17. 1 point
    If you are wanting more than a friendship with her, that should be out of the question, you are both married and that means hands off for both of you.. There is no need to tell her of your feelings because of the afore mentioned reason.
  18. 1 point
    We are second cousins, married 15 years. No problems with family, except for a few comments in fun. We just don't announce it to the world. It isn't any of business of others unless we want them to know. I'm not sure what you are struggling with, but if you have been married that long, something must be working. Did your families have any problem with your relationship? Personally speaking, you may be borrowing trouble where there is none. Because the Utah couple chose to be so public, doesn't mean you have too. Of course many of those cruel/mean comments that are made toward them are behind the anonymity of the internet and very well might not be so cruel/mean in a face to face situation. Also most of them are not aware of the state laws and biblical recognition of cousin couple relationships. They speak from ignorance of the correct information. Don't let the negativity integrate into your relationship. At the end of the day they get no say in your life. Best wishes as you work through our struggles.
  19. 1 point
    It’s a tricky one Asteriia, I think when you are younger stuff is already very intense and confusing before you add in something like this. You both have a long way to go in life and there is a risk a mistake now could make things hard for you both and for your family. A strong friendship is also a special thing to share with someone and a good foundation for the future if that is still what you feel is right down the track. It’s hard to imagine how much time you have when you are young but you have lots. Also if it’s the law where you are you should follow that for now even if you don’t agree with it.
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    No no no.. Don't put this on you, Angel. Besides, I don't think you even rejected him. And if you did (from his POV), then it's on him. What you can do though is make sure you distance yourself around him. Sure, don't change anything and don't be awkward.. but at the same time, treat this thing as a "harmless crush"... Just care for him as a brother and that's it. Also, just a quick question, do you have a boyfriend? Coz if you do, then focus your attention to your boyfriend and not to your cousin.... Your cousin can deal with his crap by himself. Yes he is shy and has baggages and all but that's fine.. From his POV, it's better for him to tell you his feelings anyways rather than bottle it up and regret it. So I guess that's cool. Pooch
  22. 1 point
    I think you fellas might be being a bit harsh here. Obviously there is additional risk in this kind of relationship at the onset that makes people unsure so all you need to add to that is a fairly moderate level of female insecurity and it gets hard to see the forest for the trees for most men. It’s not easy to put yourself out there like that and without being able to see a persons response it’s even harder. I’m imagining you are getting these declarations in emails and in a different time zone so by the time you read it, work through your own stuff and are ready to respond she’s panicked and feels rejected and pathetic. It’s a very real possibility she doesn’t know how you feel but maybe senses it then talks herself out of it thinking she is imagining it. Irrespective of the current status I would tell her you feel it too. Maybe it doesn’t go anywhere, maybe it opens up a conversation you need to have, maybe it’s to best thing you ever do. They are all better outcomes than maybe I should have said something once it’s too late. we (women) are basically all a bit crazy in love so if you think you have found one that isn’t, it probably just means she a better liar. That’s much worse. Be that strong man KC and Pooch are talking about, channel your inner Billy Joel and tell her about it I say.
  23. 1 point
    It sounds to me like this is actually blackmail. Win a lottery jackpot and see how they talk THEN!! They have NO right to control you lives. Hang in there and good luck! HUGS Nat
  24. 1 point
    The book of Leviticus in the Bible gives a detailed definition of incest, and cousin love is NOT there. It is legal to marry your cousin in Canada and parts of the U.S., and other parts of the world, so I imagine that places that allow it, know it's not incest. Read other cousin-marriage facts on this website to learn other things about cousin-marriage. And perhaps think about how you would feel if you broke off your engagement to your fiancee. Would you regret losing him for any reason, including the fact that you let people dissuade you because he was your cousin? Those people who say "incest" aren't going to help you find someone else you want to marry if you break up with your cousin. Critics can be good at criticizing, but they're not there to help you put your life together years down the road. Those people are usually gone by then. Live your life on your own terms. Be prepared to face the consequences of any of your actions, knowing that there are advantages and disadvantages to everything you do and choose. Best of luck Ambra
  25. 1 point
    Oh wonderful. looks like another Tyra blind side hit piece. From here on out, if I see a producer in here asking for "volunteers", I am going to reply to NOT be looking for victims here, and that they will be smacked with the banhammer if they ignore me. I am beyond sick of good people being used in these hit pieces for ratings. I'll not be a party to it, and I'll not allow our members here to be further abused by these scallywags. If you are a producer, or from a production company, consider yourself warned........ the junk yard dog is back.....🐕
  26. 1 point
    Why do you only work 30 hours a week? Are you crippled or something? If you don't like the fact that your husband keeps pointing out that you're lazy then I would just tell him so. I I would try to make my husband happy. Get a second job. He probably knows you are running around like a little busy bee. Yeah too much time on your hands. Well obviously he is right. You have enough time to chase after your rugged cousin. What does rugged mean anyway? I like to think of myself as rugged. Sometimes I skip a day without shaving. Go do some work please. Something constructive.
  27. 1 point
    @ladyc, they are trying to see if they can post spam. Hey bums, you can't!
  28. 1 point
    Thank you very much sir, problem fixed :).
  29. 1 point
    DillerDahl: Welcome to cc.com and thanks for your question. I am afraid that LadyC is correct and doesn't need a lesson on genetics. Hey, there is certainly room for all of us to learn more about DNA and kinship. You are so distantly related that I can't determine what your relationship is. You are not double cousins and you certainly are not inbred. You are just uninformed. The Brittish Pakistanis that you referenced are an anomaly -- a fluke resulting from the founder effect. Feel free to look that term up. Your stats are too wacky to correct. Good luck to you and please take a chill pill.
  30. 1 point
    I don't mean to be negative, but TBH, from your post, I don'e see anything from her that isn't just cousins? Ok, so maybe the massage request was a bit much... but she is young. If I were you I'd try to stop focussing on it while you're still so young and move on. I've spent 35 years in love with my cousin - I had a lot more to go on in the beginning, but Im still waiting and it's been extremely painful. My advice would be, if you can, move on. Sorry x
  31. 1 point
    Yes Ladyc! That is exactly what's happening. It's poor writing, and i wonder if the director is on lsd. The overriding homosexual theme is a deal breaker for me. A big $&@##@ goes out to Netflix! That is how I feel after watching the rest of the season. Netflix turned a great series into the "Arrested Queens."
  32. 1 point
    Nagbalik ako ulit dito para ishare ang story ko. Sana natatandaan nyo pa yng kwento ko. March 05, 2018 tinanong ko na talaga yng cousin ko kng bakit nya ginagawa sakin na pra lang dapat sa mag syota yng gnagawa nya skin. Diko sya tinigilan hanggang napaamin ko sya. Inamin nya sa akin na. First year high school plang daw sya may nararamdaman na daw sya sa akin. Hindi nya alam kng paano. Basta nung daw natutulog ako at bigla daw akong humarap sakanya bigla daw syang kinabahan haha. Dun daw nag umpisa na halikan nya ako habang natutulog. Yng gf nya pla ginamit nya lang daw para magselos ako kaso wala man daw sa akin kay nafall din daw sya dun sa babae. Pero ngayong engineer na sya may gusto pa daw sya sa akin. Akala ko kapag umamin sya magiging masaya ako. Kasi nung naguguluhan ako at hindi pa sya umaamin. Mahal ko sya. Pero bakit nung umamin sya. Nawala yng pagmamahal ko sa kanya?
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  35. 1 point
    well, gawin nyo muna ang PT to know, remember unang ihi sa umaga
  36. 1 point
    My dinner today is chicken kabab with noodles
  37. 1 point
    I do. Not all guys lose interest in intensity.
  38. 1 point
    Someone send me a PM or like one of my posts so I have a notification and I'll tell you.
  39. 1 point
    Well I probably broke it, or one of the new features I turned on is buggy. I will make small changes until we get it right. You just gotta hollar at me when I do! Google is actually causing a JS error which may explain everything. I am working on that.
  40. 1 point
    Agreed, Betray me and we are done. If I really cared about a gal, she would know it. The passion I have for that person can move mountains. When a betrayal has happened... ,
  41. 1 point
    He very well could be. This is why we generally advise against FWB relationships and jumping into any form of relationship before you've given yourself enough time to grieve after a breakup. If you're done with having a sexual relationship with him and have made your self clear and talked everything out and he isn't over it then giving him space is probably the best thing atm. Maybe with time the two of you will be able to repair your friendship but it will never be the same. Let him have his space for now, he's obviously very emotional and he needs the time to process his feelings.
  42. 1 point
    9/9 Hahaha.. Ganun? Pangasinan pala parehas tayo. Ayos. lol Galing San Nicolas lola (nanay ng nanay ko) eh. Mga pinsan ng nanay ko ay galing Asingan. Nung bata pa ako (mga late 80s), nagkaroon kami ng maliit na negosyo sa Urdaneta habang pinapagawa ng tatay ko yung bahay namin sa Marikina. Yung nanay ko tsaka yung papa ng gf ko ang magkapatid (or half-siblings ata kasi still disputable eh). Quite an interesting story pero sa susunod na lang muna. lol Dito sa kung nasaan ako, mainit na rin -- summer na kasi dito eh. Ang summer dito ay hanggang September. Pagdating ng September, palamig na nun.. Pero wala akong karapatang magreklamo --- mas mainit tingin ko kung nasaan ka. Middle east ka eh! hahahahaha Pooch
  43. 1 point
    Hello, Uy pasensya na. Ngayon lang ulit ako nakabisita. Medyo naging busy ako the past days eh. lol. Pagtingin ko sa forum eh andaming reply! Wah. Basa-basa muna ako... Pooch
  44. 1 point
    hahaha! So saan mo siya pinsan? Sa mother side o sa father side? Alam ba ng ex mo yung sitwasyon ninyo? Wala ka na contact sa ex mo no? Pano nalaman ng mga kapatid niya? Siya nagsabi? Pooch
  45. 1 point
    Oh girl! You gotta buy a bottle. Get a big bottle, trust me. It's not a salsa, it is pure fire poured out of a bottle. A few drops and you are good to go. You know what I love salsa on? A ham and cheese omelette! It's like a shortcut to a Western omelette.
  46. 1 point
    Hope this one makes you laugh! There is not one dirty word in it, and it is funny. The Smiths were unable to conceive children and decided to use a surrogate father to start their family. On the day the proxy father was to arrive, Mr. Smith kissed his wife goodbye and said, "Well, I'm off now. The man should be here soon." Half an hour later, just by chance, a door-to-door baby photographer happened to ring the doorbell, hoping to make a sale. "Good morning, Ma'am", he said, "I've come to..." "Oh, no need to explain," Mrs. Smith cut in, embarrassed, "I've been expecting you." "Have you really?" said the photographer. "Well, that's good. Did you know babies are my specialty?" "Well that's what my husband and I had hoped. Please come in and have a seat". After a moment she asked, blushing, "Well, where do we start?" "Leave everything to me. I usually try two in the bathtub, one on the couch, and perhaps a couple on the bed. And sometimes the living room floor is fun. You can really spread out there." "Bathtub, living room floor? No wonder it didn't work out for Harry and me!" "Well, Ma'am, none of us can guarantee a good one every time. But if we try several different positions and I shoot from six or seven angles, I'm sure you'll be pleased with the results." "My, that's a lot!", gasped Mrs. Smith. "Ma'am, in my line of work a man has to take his time. I'd love to be In and out in five minutes, but I'm sure you'd be disappointed with that." "Don't I know it," said Mrs. Smith quietly. The photographer opened his briefcase and pulled out a portfolio of his baby pictures. "This was done on the top of a bus," he said. "Oh, my word!" Mrs. Smith exclaimed, grasping at her throat. "And these twins turned out exceptionally well - when you consider their mother was so difficult to work with." "She was difficult?" asked Mrs. Smith. "Yes, I'm afraid so. I finally had to take her to the park to get the job done right. People were crowding around four and five deep to get a good look" "Four and five deep?" said Mrs. Smith, her eyes wide with amazement. "Yes", the photographer replied. "And for more than three hours, too. The mother was constantly squealing and yelling - I could hardly concentrate, and when darkness approached I had to rush my shots. Finally, when the squirrels began nibbling on my equipment, I just had to pack it all in." Mrs. Smith leaned forward. "Do you mean they actually chewed on your, uh...equipment?" "It's true, Ma'am, yes.. Well, if you're ready, I'll set-up my tripod and we can get to work right away." "Tripod?" "Oh yes, Ma'am. I need to use a tripod to rest my Canon on. It's much too big to be held in the hand very long." Mrs. Smith fainted
  47. 1 point
    i don't think so. in spite of how gay marriage is being embraced, and how many people defend things like pedophilia or incestuous relationships all in the name of love, mention cousins and the world goes up in arms. look at how robi ludwig, psychologist, had to recently contact us to remove her chat transcript from our site because she was losing work, just for having counselled cousins!
  48. 1 point
    http://bookstore.trafford.com/Products/SKU-000144944/The-Good-The-Fast-and-The-Healthy.aspx this was written by our very own Nattana! Below is the description of the book from the website. If you're looking for a good cookbook with healthy recipes, this one is for you! This cookbook is for people who are seeking tasty, easy to prepare, and most importantly healthy recipes. Special emphasis is placed on using readily available ingredients to create great tasting and healthy dishes. Ideal for diabetics and the large font makes it easy to read!
  49. 1 point
    tama naman po yun.. pero just because na walang nakalagay na bawal ang magpinsan eh aprubado na ang relasyon ninyo para sa inyong dalawa per se. ang batayan pa rin eh ang pagmamahalan ninyo at ang pagtitiwala at ang commitment sa isa't-isa. Hindi naman ibig sabihin na walang pagbabawal ang bible eh liligawan mo na ang pinsan mo eh kahit hindi mo naman mahal, diba? So ang tanungin mo sa pinsan mo eh kung mahal ka ba niya o hindi. Yun ang punto-prinsipal dun...! Kasi pag mahal ka niya, ipapaglaban ka niya lalo't higit sa sitwasyon mo ngayon... Pooch
  50. 1 point
    Woy! Taimis! Mabuti naman.. Mabuti.. Tuloy, tuloy.. Welcome po kayo..hehe. dapat magpapakilala tayo isa-isa. Umpisahan ko nga. hehe. Ako po si Pooch. Tubong Marikina, laking Paranaque. Inlab sa pinsan, nagtataka kung ba't "di pwede". Itinanim sa kukote, kadugo ko ang sabi-sabi Ako'y naturete kasi ang tawagan namin ay 'baby'. Minsan mapait ang buhay pero kailangang lampasan Binigay ng Maykapal kaya tanggapin na lamang. Iniaalay ng tula... sa inyo'y kamusta'y wagas. May pag-asa kami ng mahal ko, para sa magandang bukas... Pooch
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