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  1. 6 points
    This is a post I've been meaning to write for a while, because I see so many people struggling with their feelings, and with how the world will/is responding. And I too struggled for years, and thought the idea of being with my cousin was impossible, and thought that if we were together, if by some chance he felt about me the way I felt about him, things would be impossibly hard. We've been married for about two months now. At the very least, members of our family(ies) accept us, and some of them are very happy we're together. Our friends all know and accept us. We are very lucky, and our world is not going to be what everyone gets, but I've learned that there are some advantages to cousin relationships that most relationships don't have, and I want to share that, because I think a lot of you don't know that, and are scared and confused, and I want you to know that not only are cousin relationships NOT impossible, but there are some things that make them special. So, for one thing. If/when your family accepts your relationship, here's a big plus: you are both invested in the same people. When our mutual grandmother (she just turned 87 and lives by herself) needs help, we are both right there to do everything we can. If one of us is more available than the other, that person spends the night at her house. If she's not feeding herself right, we both remind her of that, and if one of us decides to buy her nutritional supplements out of our grocery fund, the other one is happy about that. This is our family. We take care of them, and we both know why, and we both agree on that. Related, if there is a disagreement in the family, we send in the one of us who is best positioned to handle it. So, my husband/cousin's mother's husband (no relation to either of us) emailed the family saying he thought we should all come together and force our grandmother (again, no relation of his) into assisted living. And we talked about how to respond, and in that case my husband/cousin handled it beautifully. And I'm the one who calls our grandmother at least once a week, and tells her we both love her, and checks in on how she's doing, because I'm better on the phone. All of the above is about family, which is really important. But the personal is even more important. My husband/cousin and I saw each other a couple of times a year when we were kids. We didn't see each other for about ten years from adolescence to adulthood. After that, we saw each other again about twice a year, until I moved close to him and things got complicated. But at that point, I already knew him. I'd known him my whole life. We always talked freely about our relationships to each other. I watched him be a father to another woman's three girls, who weren't his, until she made it impossible for him. I knew what he would be like in a relationship before I was ever with him. I knew his strengths, and his flaws, just as he knew mine. And I knew that his strengths were exactly what I needed, and I knew that I complimented his flaws. I walked into this relationship knowing exactly what I was walking into, and loving him for who he is. To me, that's the most powerful potential about a cousin relationship. That you can know the other person, so well, on other terms, before you become romantically involved or commit to them. That's not something most people get to have. Anyone who reads this and is struck by it, or anyone who is struggling with the possibility of a cousin relationship, please feel free to respond here, or to message me directly. And for those of you who are in happy cousin relationships: anything to add?
  2. 2 points
    I was very scared when I found out I was pregnant with my first cousins baby. I was so afraid I would give birth to a baby who had defects. After discussing with my Dr. about why I was concerned about the pregnancy, he told me, I could have a normal & healthy baby like any other woman. He did the normal tests that you get done while being pregnant and everything was fine in my case. I gave birth to a very healthy 8lb 3.5 oz baby boy. To this day, we have a normal, healthy 40 year old. :-) I would suggest you talk with your Dr. first and see what he/she thinks. I am quite sure blood tests can provide the information needed so, you can decide what course of action you and your cousin should take with having a child. Wishing you all the best.
  3. 2 points
    We are heading to Arizona tomorrow, weather permitting in Amarillo!! Have a blessed and Happy New Year!! I will check in when I can.
  4. 2 points
    Well, my idea of fun is a bit "different": I have filed to be a candidate for a local election! Never, in my wildest dreams, did I ever think of doing that! LOL HUGS
  5. 2 points
    We travel with our 5th wheel trailer. Visit places, family and friends on the way to where ever. Have been in Missouri for about 3 weeks. Visited the Clydesdale horse ranch, the WW1 memorial and museum in Kansas City and several other historical places in the area where we are. Heading back to Texas in a couple of days and will be at a lake for some r&r and some fishing!!
  6. 2 points
    hi elie if you two have a child together, only the nearest kinship would be applicable. so he (or she) would simply be your child... and your cousin's child. the answer you're looking for would be first cousin twice removed... but like i said, that relationship is not one that would be counted or considered for any purpose other than curiosity's sake. but your child isn't going to be a freak show in a traveling circus, so that's just useless information! if you two get married, his dad will be your father-in-law. the fact that he's also your first cousin once removed is irrelevant. your family dynamic has changed. for the record, i'm also married to my first cousin once removed. his dad is my first cousin. we've been married for 19 years... i never could wrap my head around calling him "dad", so i just call him by his first name. but then again, i never called my in-laws from my previous (unrelated) marriage mom or dad either. your child would only considered the 'grandchild' of your parents and your cousin's. likewise, your child would only be the niece or nephew to any of your siblings or your cousin's... no need to count the generations and try to sort out the degrees of kinship or who is once, twiced, or not-at-all removed. always remember the nearest degree is the only one that counts. so the relational stuff would be exactly as it would be if the father were not related to you at all. hope that helped!
  7. 2 points
    When we got married 16 years ago my wife and I decided we would try to do something we've never done, or go somewhere we've never been at least 3-4 times a year. We've taken vacations in D.C. , Idaho, an Alaskan cruise, and many other places.In February we went snowmobiling for the first time. Next weekend we're going to a Celtic festival. And whether we enjoy it or decide "Never again" the point is we are experiencing and sharing it together. There is so much to see and do in this world I'm sure you'll find something you'll both enjoy.
  8. 2 points
    I'm going to share and express my thoughts about cousin marriages... Stay tuned... Good subscribe to Sage Nation.... The episode will come in two weeks... I'm going to start my podcast again on Thursday March 15th.... Please subscribe and support my channel
  9. 2 points
    Hi Sir Pooch! Sorry for the late reply hehe kala ko po kasi wala ng active dito kaya di ko siya naccheck daily. Napadpad po ako dito kasi curious po ako kung may mga ibang cases katulad ng akin at syempre gusto ko din po ma inspired sa mga sucessful stories nila. Yes sir bale 5 months na po this december. For your 1st question po, nag break po kami kasi napuno na po ako nun eh bale nahuli ko po siya. Nakakita po ako ng photo na halos magkiss na sila nung bakla niyang ka work na napag-awayan na din namin dito at inaway din ako. Haha di ko alam kung ano meron sa kanila pero i don’t care na po haha tapos kasi since almost years na kami nun parang nagtatagal na lang kami kasi nanghihinayang kami na matagal na kami. Madaming beses niya na din po ako pinagsinungalingan at nahuhuli ko po siya na may kalandian minsan ang masakit pa dun may mga asawa na. Kaya ayun nauntog na ako sabi ko tama na. Di naman po ako nagpaligaw agad agad bale parang nirespeto pa din ni L yung fresh ako from break up basta nandyan lang siya di niya ako pinepressure na maging kami. Tsaka ayoko po maging unfair din sa kanya. Mas naging malalim po yun samahan namin mga Late Feb or March na parang nahuhulog na ako sa kanya nanaman kasi napakabait niya talaga as in lalo na saakin kahit dati pa nung childhood/ puppy love days pa lang kaya di po nakakapagtaka na naging kami agad haha ayaw ko na din po siya pakawalan kasi sobrang mahal ko na siya at alam ko ganun din po siya.
  10. 2 points
    This is a difficult subject for me to answer without all up in arms because it gets me a little angry, to be honest. Everywhere you have the gay pride flag waving around...and gay marriage, to my knowledge, has never been legal in US history until a few years ago for everywhere. You have pedophilia that's trying to gain acceptance and there are people/groups that will actually defend pedophilia, saying Pedophiles are just like the LGBT in wanting to love who they love...*eyeroll* Then you have cousins....cousin couples were actually in the bible! Unlike Pedophilia....it's not sexually exploiting and taking advantage of children.....yet it's still looked at as disgusting and vile? Pedophilia's still looked at as disgusting and vile...and it's still against the law, which it always was and always should be. Polygamy and open relationships are celebrated. These are different groups trying to fight for the right and privilege to love and be accepted for who they love(Pedophilia never will, it just can't fly) Why can't that be cousin couples again? At one point in history, it was legal all over the US....but at some point down the line, states started making it illegal...I guess out of concern for how future generations would turn out. It just irks me though....why are is the LGBT being made legal and...well, I don't know what to say about pedophilia....and cousin couples are still looked at by the social circle, the media and legally as 'ick'? To me, this is so unfair....I have trouble comprehending it. So, to answer your question KC...I don't think so. For some reason, the western culture still considers this taboo and seem like they don't even want to acknowledge it or treat it like any other issue. It has to be hush hush and kept under the rug like it's something to be ashamed of.
  11. 2 points
    Hi Roze, Unang-una sa lahat, welcome sa forum. Bibihira lang ang mga Pinoy dito kaya natutuwa naman ako na may isa pang naririto. Paano mo nalaman yung forum? Anyhow, to respond: 21 years old ka and siya naman ay 22. Anong ibig mong sabihin sa nagpahinga? Please be honest with us. After all, anonymous naman dito. Walang may kilala sa iyo. Pero isang bagay ang maipapayo ko sa iyo: Wag kang padalos-dalos, Roze. Mag-antay ka. Don't do anything kasi mas lulubha pa yang sitwasyon mo once na may gawin ka pang mali. Lahat ng tao nakatingin sa iyo at lahat ng mga mata nakatingin sa kanya. Sunday itong post mo and Wednesday pa lang sa ngayon. 3 days pa lang ang nakakalipas. Relax. Second point: She is a big girl already. SHE IS 22! Don't worry about her too much as if she cannot take care of herself. Pare wag ganun. Girlfriend mo yun -- hindi batang paslit. Let her shoulder the same burden. Kasama mo siya sa buhay. Pinasok niya rin naman yang sitwasyon niyo eh so 50-50 lang. 50% akuin mo, and 50% naman akuin niya. Yan ang fair. You cannot just put it all on you. Hindi ka si Prince Charming na ililigtas siya sa Nueva Ecija. Por pabor. Now having said that though, IKAW YUNG LALAKE. Brad, ikaw yung may bayag. I know this will be hard pero treat this as a challenge. This will separate you from the boys so talagang pakatatag ka. I am not saying na mag-iiiyak ka papunta sa kanila na "huhuhu..kukunin ko na siya sa kanila.." Parang awa mo na, huwag na huwag mong gagawin yun. Kasi hindi ka irerespeto ng mga magulang niya (tiyuhin at tiyahin mo). Tapos gusto mong kunin (ano yun itatanan mo?) Kailangang ipakita mong lalakeng-lalake ka. Eto para sa iyo. Nawa'y lumakas ang loob mo. Sabi ni Pablo, 1Co 16:13 (13) Magsipagingat kayo, mangagpakatibay kayo sa pananampalataya, kayo'y mangagpakalalake, kayo'y mangagpakalakas. Panghawakan mo yan brad. Kasi ikaw ang magiging padre-de-pamilya eh. Ikaw ang magiging husband. Ikaw ang magiging tatay. Ibang level na ito brad. Hindi na ito laro-laro, if you know what I mean. Entering a relationship for a Christian is a very serious thing...aba mas lalo na kung it's with your cousin! Pooch
  12. 2 points
    Nagkausap na po kame, all we have to do now is earn. Thanks mga ka CC, and all couples out there, we can do this! FIght!
  13. 2 points
    You don't say a word to him. You're 14 and he's 20. And he's about to be married. And BTW, it was most inappropriate for him to give even a hint of attraction toward you. Wait 4 years and if you still have feelings for him and he is not married, come back here and we will steer you in the right direction.
  14. 2 points
    Tell her, "If we were not cousins ..." and see how she responds!
  15. 2 points
    Hi, share lang ako background, married kami first cousin ilang buwan na, may baby na kami 1month old. Ganyan din ginawa namin inabot, kami ng 4 years hanggang naging ganito. Ako yung guy, tapos sya parati nakikipagbreak pero hindi rin ako matiis, haha. Advise ko alamin mo kung ano talagang rason nya kasi kung ang rason talaga nya na maghiwalay ay dahil magpinsan kayo, magagawan pa yan ng paraan kelangan lang may mag take ng lead. Pagmay love parati yan may paraan. Sayang 5 years of memories kung maghiwalay pero massayang pagdagdagan mo pa ng years tapos mali din reason nya kung bakit kayo magBF/GF. Emphasize ko ha, alamin ang totoong rason, pagmali immediately layuan mo, masasayang oras mo when you could be really happy.
  16. 1 point
    This request should be fine. I'm approving it but moving the topic.
  17. 1 point
    Its actually good. But, the orange header colour is too bright and the yellow colour of the logo is not clearly visible.
  18. 1 point
    My dad and her grandfather are either first or second cousins what would that make me and her?
  19. 1 point
    Why do you only work 30 hours a week? Are you crippled or something? If you don't like the fact that your husband keeps pointing out that you're lazy then I would just tell him so. I I would try to make my husband happy. Get a second job. He probably knows you are running around like a little busy bee. Yeah too much time on your hands. Well obviously he is right. You have enough time to chase after your rugged cousin. What does rugged mean anyway? I like to think of myself as rugged. Sometimes I skip a day without shaving. Go do some work please. Something constructive.
  20. 1 point
    For those of you who are or have been openly in relationships with cousins: what reactions do people outside your family have when you tell them about your relationship? For us, it isn't something we announce to everyone, but eventually the "so how did you two meet?" question usually comes up with friends, and we're honest. I reply with something like "well, actually, we've known each other all of our lives. We're cousins." The reaction from that point on has been so similar with every exchange that I am curious about what others have experienced. This is my experience, basically word for word every time: Friend: "So, like, first cousins?" Me: "Yes, my father and his mother are siblings." F: "Oh. Do you have the same last name?" M: "No." F: "Well, have you guys thought about if you want to have kids?" M: "Yes, actually the genetic risk is much lower than you would think, only about 2-3% higher than the general population, and from what we know about our family history, there is nothing that should worry us." F: "That's good!" [pause] "I actually used to have a crush on one of my cousins..." At which point they tell me about their crush. Well, the crush part only happens with about two thirds of them, but that's the part that surprised me the most. The rest of it happens every time. All of our friends have been accepting, and no one has been judgemental, at least to our faces. In fact, the more people I've told, the more confident I've felt because of how well they've responded. What about you guys?
  21. 1 point
    Please try again and let me know if the problem is resolved. The problem is on my end. Sorry for the trouble!
  22. 1 point
    Merry Christmas everyone! Thank God for Jesus, who selflessly gave Himself so that the whole World may know God and escape hell's eternal punishment. This Christmas, I would like to thank God for his inexplicable grace that pursued me when I was yet agnostic and on my way to hell. I am still here and God continues to bring me long distances from the man that I once was. May the Lord bless everyone who reads my reflection.
  23. 1 point
    Hi! 😊 Bago lng ako sa page na ito....good to know na meron pala ganito para sa cousins couple. We're live-in partner, for about 13yrs. & may binata na kaming anak. Kami ay 1st cousin sa mother side, at tanggap na kami ng aming pamilya. Even sa lugar namin kilala kami as a couple, sa una pinag-usapan ang relasyon nmin, hindi nag tagal nagsawa na rin sila pag-usapan kami. Long story ang aming journey as a couple. Pero may time pa rin na may awkward moments, for example: pag nag Census, mga bisita na matanong, usaping kasalan at etc. Mahirap ma-maintain ang isang relasyon na hindi tanggap sa lipunan natin. Pero sabi nga ng "asawa koh", as long as nag-mamahalan kami at tanggap kami ng aming anak at ng pamilya namin, ay dedma na lang sa sinasabi ng ibang tao. Wala nman kami tinapakang tao or ginawang masama, faith in God na lang cguro. Si God, lng nman nkaka-alam ng lahat. Basta thankful kami na nalagpasan nmin lahat ng pagsubok. Hindi nman kami aabot ng 13yrs. kung di kami nagmamahalan.
  24. 1 point
    My first cousin crush was when I was fifteen. Thirty five years later I am still so in love with him. We've never managed to publicly commit, but we are closer now than we've ever been. I won't give up hope that we can eventually overcome his fear of the family response.
  25. 1 point
    Same Sky. Ganyan din feeling ko. Pero yung akin naman is di namin alam kung pang ilang pinsan na kami kasi sabi ng papa ko kamag anak daw namin sila. Ayun natatakot ako na malaman ng ibang kamag anak namin na may relasyon kami kasi diba nakakahiya. Pero mahal namin isa’t isa. Ayaw naman natin biguin yung mga magulang natin. Siguro ang mabuting gawin nalang is makapag tapos ng pag aaral. Mag hanap ng magandang trabaho. After nun doon nyo na ipag laban yung nararamdaman nyo sa isa’t isa.
  26. 1 point
    I do lol, but not with my cousins. I go out with friends, make random plans and when we all meet we normally talk about spooky stuff lol. Sometimes we don't plan but we just go on trip and jam in the parking lots until police come to stop us lol (No alcohols or drugs, we just play loud music nd enjoy). Normally well planned trips do not turn out as great as the random ones do.
  27. 1 point
    ok ito muna, PT una ihi sa umaga dun nyo malalaman kung positive o hindi...remember unang ihi sa umaga to confirm...ilang weeks ng delayed? or days...may work naman kayo. may work ka...up to you paano ikaw tatayo para sa inyo at ikaw ang lalake...but PT kayo uli, and this time, unang ihi sa umaga...cannot believe i am saying this...condom men, condom...o d kaya withdraw and ejaculate mo nalang....medyo complicated kasi situation nyo at may syota ang cous mo, im sorry but im against it...d kc aq napatol sa may bf, literal, naranasan q na kc ang maturotot at masakit, anyways andyan na yan...check everything first at pag usapan nyo ang plans nyo...keep us posted 9/9/2004 pooch, ke hirap ng deutsch language sakit sa ulo...anyway pare, good luck sa study mo rin dyan
  28. 1 point
    Welcome to the forum, Hasan! You may find good answers to your question in the "Shoot the Breeze" or "Help/Advice" forums on the page. There are some pinned posts at the top of those forums and many people have also asked this question and received some really good answers. Honestly, it's hard to say for every situation, but at 16, you're a little young to start a relationship with her, especially if she's 20. I'd say you're at least two to four years away. Also, I do not know where you are or your family or religious background, and these definitely play a major part in how you should approach discussing this with her. If I had one piece of advice that's universal, I'd say treat her as your best friend and become her best friend by being a person she can talk to who listens. You have to be willing to listen to anything she talks about (even other guys) without giving any judgment or advice unless she specifically asks for it. I hope that helps give you some direction. God Bless & Best Wishes, CM
  29. 1 point
    I miss u dude! hahahahaha! *apir* Pare, I feel you.. Alam mo ba, nakwento nga kita sa cous-gf ko eh. Kasi may favorite kaming lugar dito kung saan kami nagde-date. Sabi ko sa kanya, "Walang hiya ka. Pag pinagpalit mo ko sa isang nagmamountain-climbing, susunugin ko itong restaurant na to". Bwahaha.. Tawa siya ng malakas eh Anyhow, with all seriousness though, I pray that you don't give up pare. Minsan kapag nadedrain ka, it's a spiral down yan eh. Sometimes, you have to force yourself to go out, wag magstay sa bahay and really experience another chapter in your life. Alam mo yun? Eventually, it should not be a fight... Call some of your friends again and enjoy your freedom, gawin mo kung ano ang gusto mong gawin noon na hindi mo magawa nung kayo pa kasi nirerestriktahan ka niya. lol. You have to learn to make yourself happy. Si Miss Model, oo nga, di na ata bumalik. I hope she's okay though. Pooch
  30. 1 point
    I see.. Thanks for sharing. So sa US ka pala naka-based. Ako naman sa Canada. Same situation tayo ate when it comes sa 'reputation' sa clan. Pero the difference siguro is parehas kami ng cous-gf ko ng sitwasyon reputationwise. Walang discrepancy unlike you na it seems like nasa ulap ka and siya naman nasa lupa. When you said na "...at the end he backed off", kasi masakit din sa kanya yun. But I think na both of you figured it out naman na and so that closure was really needed. I'm glad that you had experienced yung ganung emotional love. I mean, if it worked edi good; but if not, like what happened to you, I mean, it's not like everything else have fallen eh, diba? Those stuff were still real, no.. Kahit papaano.. The fact is, you loved and that felt good and so it's all fair game... Shrug it off na lang ate and "lose like Pacman". I mean, lose 'like a boss' -- and not a sore loser, ika nga. hehe.. diba? Natuwa ako dun sa 'twin flame'. lol. Anyhow, are you still looking ba ate? I know that you are open on dating at this point and stuff.. May manliligaw naman ba as of late? Or sarado pa muna si puso? I just want to ask kung ano na ang state ng puso naten. hehe. Sabi niyo kasi 2 years na eh and so I'm pretty sure, isang dosenang drum na ng luha na ang naiiyak ninyo sa kanya -- aba worth it na yun! hehe.. *peace* Pero seryoso, I feel like kayo yung tao na she knows herself eh and is mature na to handle atomic bombs of emotions like this. And so you can just bank this episode in your experience and then hope for a brighter next one. Whiiiiiiiich brings me to my next point. Napansin ko kasi yung handle ninyo is "Kulasa Manila". Were you in some kind of other forums before if you don't mind me asking? Or itong CC ang una ninyong forum na sinalihan -- ever? Kasi I was a member ng ibang forum din kasi and may nakainteract din akong Kulasa na taga-US noon like way back 9-10 years ago. Lol. I know it's a long shot so more likely na hindi ikaw yun but whatever. hahaha. San ka sa US ate naka-base? BTW, Okey si Barry Manilow ah! hehe.. Pooch
  31. 1 point
    Wow!!!!!! This is gold. Ate Esmeralda, can you tell us some more sa story mo? I am very interested. Kailan nangyari? Paano? Baka pwedeng konting details pa.... Natutuwa po kasi ako everytime na may successful cousin relationships eh. Pooch
  32. 1 point
    If you are as serious about your cousin as it sounds like you are, and you are both currently single, you should speak up! We don't get many chances in life to be truly happy with someone, and if you think that highly of her, and are willing to commit yourself to her like that, then she has the right to know that someone loves her like that, and you have the right to give yourself a chance at that dream. I carried a secret torch for my cousin from childhood, but never thought he would return those feelings. I was 29 when I finally told him, and he kissed me. We got married last spring. We've had to deal with some very difficult things since we got together, but what's never been hard is us. Being together is what gives us both strength and meaning. I spent years trying to tell myself that my feelings for him were a fantasy, that I wanted him because I couldn't have him, etc. That wasn't true. When you find the right person, you know. Don't let her slip away and be less happy with someone who cares about her happiness less because you are too afraid to take a chance.
  33. 1 point
    Hindi po kayo pwedeng ikasal... prohibited nga eh. Ikaw na rin ang may sabi. Yung kasulatan ay magiging kasal-kasalan lang, mapapawalang-bisa po yun sa isang kisapmata. Pooch
  34. 1 point
    Hi Lextin, Welcome dito sa CC forum. Buti natagpuan mo itong site. hehe. Pano ka napadpad dito if you don't mind me asking? hehe. Anyways, matagal na akong member dito sa forum -- since nung college days ko pa lang eh matagal na akong sumusubaybay dito. Nung una, hindi pa ako nagpopost. Pero eventually, nagpost na rin. Pero matagal na ako dito sa site na ito.. siguro around 13 years ago pa... elementary ka pa lang. lol Anyhow, ito yung mga posts na gusto ko. hehe. Allow me to respond. Una sa lahat, congrats sa 4 months ninyong dalawa. I really do mean that. Can I call your cous-bf, Mr. L? Una ko muna tanong, bakit kayo nagbreak nung ex mo? Nagcheat ba siya? May third party? Hindi ka pinapansin? Bakit? Sabi mo kasi, nahuli mo siyang parang may ginagawang milagro eh. Dec. 2016 kayo nagbreak. Then ayon sa very reliable standard na alam natin lahat na "John-Lloyd rule of moving on" (JLROMO) sa box office hit na "One more chance", 3 months daw ang MINIMUM (take note minimum) before ka makipagdate muli sa iba. lol So ipagpalagay nating July mo sinagot si BF mo kasi 4 months na kayo eh. Ibig sabihin eh 3 months ka niligawan ni Mr. L mula sa JLROMO.. Tama? 12 weeks... Labindalawang linggo... Can you follow? I will respond sa iba later on. okie? Pooch
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    Hi! I am now in a 4 months relationship with my second cousin. Here’s our story.. He is 22 and I am 23. Actually, matagal na pong may something samin, i forgot na kung ilan taon kami nun pero elementary days pa lang kilala na namin yung isa’t isa so ayun parang mutual feelings na din crush ko siya nun tapos crush niya din ako pero di ko pa alam nun na magpinsan kami since tiga province siya at tiga manila ako, umuuwi lang kami pag bakasyon ganun. Every year kami ako nagbabakasyon edi every year ko din siya nagkikita then na open ko sa mga pinsan ko na close na crush ko siya tapos sabi nga nila kamag anak daw namin sila na second cousin nga daw. Edi ayun medyo gets ko na parang hindi pwede. Pero ewan ko ba... dumating yung time na high school days na at nauso ang phone nagkatext kami tapos ayun inopen niya yung feelings niya pero ako naman di ko sineseryoso kasi alam ko nun bawal.. Kaso talagang ewan ko ba bakit di ko mapigilan haha ang pasaway ko hindi naman naging kami NOON pero parang M.U. Kami sweet kami, nagkikita kami patago kasabwat ng mga pinsan ko kasi alam nila tapos ang bait niya kasi sakin para siyang best friend ko na din na one call a way lang andyan na kaya lalo ako nainlove sa kanya kaso nandun pa din yun takot na hindi kami pwede at baka mapagalitan kami kaya dumating na din yung point na iniwasan ko siya at di ko na tinext. Ang damng beses ko na siyang iniwasan pero nagkaka usap pa din kami. Year 2012 nagka boyfriend na ako.. at siya din nagka gf na din. Pero kahit may bf ako at gf siya may mga times pa din na naguusap kami pero madalang at kamustahan na lang pero minsa di maiwasan ma open nanaman yung tungkol samin. Pero syempre di namin pinilit kasi may mga sarili kaming relasyon. Basta alam ko na nandun pa din siya para sa akin kahit minsan na lang kami mag usap. Pinapayuhan niya ako at pag kailangan ko siya isang tawag lang nandyan agad. Di pa din siya nagbabago, ang lakas ko pa din sa kanya. Parang kahit nag ka bf ako di siya nawala sa puso at isip ko ewan ko kung bakit. Alam ng EX BF ko at nung mga taong malalapit sakin na kung hindi ko SECOND COUSIN yun. Siya ang pipillin at siya talaga gusto ko. Hanggang sa dumating na din yung point na nag break kami ng EX BF last december 2016. Alam na! Haha minahal ko naman yung ex ko na yun at seryoso ako kaso napaka sinungaling niya at katulad ng ibang relasyon nagkasawaan parang nagtatagal na lang kami kasi nanghihinayang kami magbreak at ilan beses ko na din siyang nahuling may something so ayun break na syempre move on na. Then ayun since magkausap kami ni second cousin parang kino comfort niya ako nun pero wala na siyang gf nun matagal na din silang break. Hanggang sa na open again yung feelings niya sabi niya liligawan niya ako at gusto niya maging kami at ipaglaban na daw namin this time yung amin... so parang ako din gusto ko na din kasi gusto ko talaga siya at mahal ko siya matagal na kaya sinagot ko na siya. Masaya ako ngayon masayang masaya pero minsan may doubt din na kung ano pwedeng mangyari sa future. Baka di kami tanggapin or itakwil. Ang hirap kalabanin ng familly. Pero I made a research na okay naman na magpakasal dito at legal naman kaso syempre ang mapanghusgang society pero wala akong pake sa sasabhin ng iba ang iniisip ko yung pamilya ko. Yung masasabi nila. Sana hindi. Lagi ko pinagdadasal na sana matanggap at maintindihan nila kasi mahal ko na talaga to. Meron din bang may ganitong sitwasyon and ano masasabi niyo or payo? Salamat po.
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    Hi!!! Finally found this forum! Haayy same here I am in a relationship with my cousin for 4 months now.
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    good idea. i went in and edited the title for him.
  38. 1 point
    Are folks in the Western World becoming more or less accepting of cousin marriages... say within the past 25 years.
  39. 1 point
    Kwento mo naman pag may time ka. Musta trip mo lately? Alam mo may naalala akong sabi ni Florante eh, "...O pag-ibig na makapangyarihan,kapag pumasok sa puso nino man.hahamakin ang lahat, masunod ka lamang..." F. Balagtas Pooch
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    ang ganda ng story ni Roze. buti ka pa natanggap ka ng pamilya mo. buti natanggap ng mama mo. happy for you. umaasa ko na balang araw matatanggap din kami.
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    ang ganda naman ng kwento ni Roze, buti ka pa natanggap ka ng mama mo. nakausap ko mama ko tinakwil na nya ko. patay na daw ako para sakanya. sinubukan ko sya paliwanagan ayaw nya, matanda na daw sya at sarado na daw isip nya. pero masaya ako para sayo Roze, kasi may pamilya ka pa din. aasa ko na balang araw e matatanggap din ng pamilya ko relasyon namin.
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    hahaha! napansin ko nga. 9/9, I have been there too naalala ko... during when I was 19 or 20. hehe. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, ako ang lalake... siya ang babae. Kung may driver man ng kotse, it's going to be me. Nakakalito kasi parang mag-isa ka lang na magdedesisyon. Pero talagang ganun. Parang mag-isa ka lang pero sa totoo hindi. Kasi bukod sa kasama mo si Lord, kasama mo rin ang gf mo. Nasa tabi mo lang at nakasuporta lang. After that realization, I have become calm. Andami kong buntong-hininga. Pero sabi ko sarili ko eh kailangan ko ng clear mind before doing anything. Bago kami naghiwalay ng gf ko kasi papunta na ako ng Canada at siya ay maiiwan sa Pinas, sabi ko tuloy pa rin kami...kahit LDR. Pero sabi ko sa kanya "Magaral ka ng mabuti ha?" Yun ang last words ko sa kanya bago kami maghiwalay. Just last week, after almost 15 years na naming sa relationship, we looked back yung time na yun. Natatawa kami pareho habang nanonood sa tv kasi parang kailan lang. Pero sobrang vivid ng pangyayari sa NAIA nun. Bakit? Kasi hindi daw ako sweet. lol. Kasi hindi ko daw siya niconsole. Tapos sabay palo sa akin sa braso kasi para daw I don't care. And nagiging emotional siya pero ako parang wala lang.... Well, sa totoo lang, I do care...and I love her.. and I would want to take her kung pwede lang. Pero sabi ko sa kanya eh mag-aral siya ng mabuti kasi gusto kong magkaroon kami ng magandang kinabukasan once na nagkita ulit kami. Pag pinairal ko ang pagiging mapusok ko nun, susmaryosep, walang mangyayari sa amin parehas. Kailangan kong magpakatatag, magkapalakas at talagang i-carry ang relationship... In modern analogy, kung fan ka ng NBA, kung may Russell Westbrook ang OKC, dapat maging ganun ka. Personally, kasi I know na my girlfriend/cousin is worth it e. Worth it na magsacrifice ng luha, ng oras, ng pawis, even ng pera sa kanya. I want na magkaroon ng magandang trabaho, irerespeto ng both families namin at hindi kami maaapi ng kung sinu-sino. Alam mo yun? So now, after 14 years, no one dare say anything sa amin (I guess at least for now...kasi di pa kami nagsasabi eh). Yes, nandun pa rin yung social stigma..the this and that na kasama sa relationship.. But then I do believe that it is normal eh.. Ika nga eh, Lahat ng relationships ay may in-laws. lol So worth it ba kaya itong si gf ni Roze? He has to set your standards high pagdating sa bagay na ito. Kung hindi siya worth it, don't hesitate to drop the entire relationship... Wag kang matakot to lose her. And I am saying this as a man sa kanya. Alam mo yun? Roze, kung may nangyari na sa inyo, edi may nangyari na. Own it. If it is a sin, then own it. Kumbaga, kung nagturnover si Russell Westbook, it's gonna be on him. Not that you care ah. Of course, medyo serious thing ang premarital sex...maraming consequences yan to both of your bodies, your relationships, your spiritual condition, your view with her family and her view of your family and so on and so forth...bagay na hindi ko na kailangan pang iexplain sa iyo kasi matanda ka na eh.. Pero you have to own it pare. Kailangang akuin mo yan. Si David sa OT, nangasawa ng wife ng iba, pumatay pa (lol), pero inako niya eh. Nagkasala siya sa pangangalunya and he man up in owning it. I will continue sa next posts.... Pooch
  43. 1 point
    Hello, Uy pasensya na. Ngayon lang ulit ako nakabisita. Medyo naging busy ako the past days eh. lol. Pagtingin ko sa forum eh andaming reply! Wah. Basa-basa muna ako... Pooch
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    i'm bumping this up for you. i've got insomnia so i'm awake, but i'm about to pull my salsa out of the canner and then go to bed. but i noticed it hadn't been responded to yet since i approved it, and figured it might need a little nudge.
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    im not a drinker kuya, dinadamayan mo naman ako dito sa forum so okay lang po. its just that i cant afford na magkahiwalay na kame. im a doting boyfriend, im willing to take risks to be with her, so please lang Lord, tell her to reply to me na, para di ako natatakot na baka putulin na nya talaga ng relasyon namin pero di paren ako susuko
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    Haha! Good one! Sa sitwasyon ko naman, ako ang nagmake ng move. Matagal na kaming may feeling sa isa't isa then isang bagi basta hinalikan ko lang. Eh hindi pumalag, I backed off then inulit ko ulit. Then sparks at kuryente, daig pa sinturon ni hudas, hahahaha Then ayun na, first love eh. Pooch
  47. 1 point
    I don't know what to do, Because I'm falling so in love with you, I've never felt this way before, You are the only guy that I adore, I know this relationship would last, Because I've never felt this strong for someone in the past, & I know its wrong for us to be together, But I honestly think we would last forever, I've never loved someone so much in my life, I even want you to make me your wife, I know that sounds crazy, But what's even worse is that I want to have your baby, I just hope our family will accept us one day, & not make a big fuss right away, But if they do, I would gladly run away with you, You mean the world to me, If it wasn't for you I just don't know where I would be, All I ask is for you to give us a try, Please don't let this love pass you by, I promise it will all be worth it in the end, Because not only would I be your lover but also your best friend <3 -This is just a little poem I wrote for my cousin one night that I could not fall asleep because all I could think about was him!!! I hope you all like it.
  48. 1 point
    My partner/cousin was really reluctant to tell his closest (male) friend when we got together. Eventually he felt like he needed to, because he was driving two hours to see me on the weekends, and wasn't available to hang out like he was before. He was pretty sure his friend wouldn't approve, and he was avoiding him instead of telling him, and his friend didn't get why he suddenly wasn't around. Finally he did tell him, and his friend's response was basically "dude, if it makes you happy great; I thought you were avoiding me because you were mad at me or something". Since then, that friend and I have met several times and gotten along really well. I'm sorry you feel like your friends wouldn't understand, but I hope that if you decide to tell them, they surprise you.
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    Gud day CC Philippines, Mr retainer at lucksgjrl... Ako po c esmeralda almost 13 years n kami ng first cousin ko. Magkapatid ang nanay namin sk hindi kami magkaapelyido.. Ang ginawa namin kasi noong 2003 hindi p pwede sundin ng apelyido ng lalaki kapag nanganak ka n hindi pa kau kasal kaya ang nangyari sa bcert ng panganay namin prng blanko kang..ang ginawa namin nagpakasal kami sa manila city hall with out knowing ng judge na magpinsan kami. Araw ng kasal namin mdyo nakahalata ang judge kasi dw.magkatunog ang name ng nanay namin so nagtanong cya kong magpinsan kami alangan nman n oo sagot namin e di natulog kasal...sa ngayon mag 12 yrs n kaming kasal. Oo mali ang ginawa namin pero yan a g tama samin sinunod lang namin kong ano tama at dapat n gawin namin sa nararamdaman namin. Kasi dyan kami masaya eh ang magsama kami forever. Noong una mdyo mahirap kasi hindi tanggap both families pero sa husband cousin ko after a week nalaman nila n nagsasama n kami natanggap din nla. Ganun cla ka openminded they support us dhl.mahal nla anak nla pamangkin nla at kapatid nla. Sa family ko.naman mdyo.matagal kasi nag iisang anak lang ako at babae pa. Pero nong nabuntis n ako lahat cla tanggap na. Oo d maiwasan na pag usapan kami pero wala kami paki d nman kami kumukuha kanila.ng tulong at makain namin. Ang chismis ay una lang yan mamatay at mamatay lang yan. Sa ngayon 3 n anak nmin at lahat ay normal at magagaling sa school. Kaya kayo kong totoong .mahal nyo ang isat isa go for it wag kau matakot kahit s parents nyo sa.maniwala kayo sa hindi u a lang tampo at galit nla lilipas din lahat at matatanggap kayo. Dyan nyo makikita yan kong mahal.kayo ng pamilya nyo susuportahan kau.
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    Everything was exactly the way I had dreamed it would be. All of the dresses, the arrangements, the banquet hall where we had the reception, everything. The moment we kissed, I felt like I was lighter than air. We spent the night last night at home, but we're leaving for our honeymoon this evening. I'll try to get some photos up soon.
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