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  1. been a while....

    Hi Jessie my friend. It's good to see you drop in. You are one of us and I wish you the best. 21 years is a long time and I can't imagine the pain of such a loss. I will keep you in prayer.
  2. Around the world

    Anywhere in the Middle East, they typically PREFER a cousin vs. a "stranger." Europe has no prohibitions against cousin marriages. Many US states allow cousin marriages.
  3. Introduction and Advice

    At what age do they typically marry in Columbia? In the States, we think 18 is a magic number but that is not the case everywhere. The reality is if you do not express your feelings within (?what the next year?) she may be snatched up by some fast-talking Columbian who is on the cartel's payroll. So my friend, you really are in a situation. Your options appear to be: 1) Let her go 2) Have a longer than normal courtship, which is a wise thing to do (and you need to get the ball rolling) I nearly always advise people to wait until you are both mature and settled-in somewhere after college. That is the ideal, but this not going to work for you. I am not advocating anything here, but I live in the South (and no I will not apologize; I love the south :D) folks used to marry very early. I have an aunt who married at 14 (or was it 13?) and she seemed to have the greatest marriage of all. 40 years later, if you saw them, they were always holding hands, hugging or whatever ... very much still in love still. I do not advocate marriages of this nature, I am just musing about young marriages in my own family. If I were you, I would not put all of my eggs into one basket. There is no such thing as "the one" for you. No soul mates. In reality, you have billions of wild women to choose from. So be more honest with your cousin and the other women you will find attractive.
  4. Introduction and Advice

    (If you have never seen The Big Lebowski you may not get my little jokes) My cousin is nearly 5 years younger than I; it's not a biggee. You mentioned torture! Bro, you are torchering yourself by keeping this all bottled up. You have to be brave and bite the bullet, like all of us. I do love the women who are so sure of themselves that they peruse their "prey" and fearlessly express their feelings. They are hard to come by because they get "snapped up" pretty quicky. Most women, unfortunately are not this way. As the Big Lebowski, uh, The Dude would advise, drink one White Russian and call that girl up, man. Or KC might say, grow a pair! What are you waiting for? Is she not worth a little disapproval from people you do not care for anyway? Who cares what "the family" thinks? They are not marrying her, you are. Wow you little nihilistic cousin lover, you hold to every excuse in the book! What a wimp! You wouldn't last in 'Nam for five seconds. Don't get Walter upset with this nonsense. It's best to take a page out of those fearless womens' book and spill everything to your cousin; otherwise, you are just pissing on the rug, man -- the one that ties it all together.
  5. Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    The study of man and psychology too! Two of my favorite subjects. I have a degree in religion and will have another one if I keep it together long enough. So, that is where I am coming from. I jolted you on purpose but I see you are dead-set on trying out this new experiment. You have to ask yourself some difficult questions. I would ask, "What will you tell your friends" but I am afraid you may have none. I'm sure your family will flip out. The first person who knows your plans will tell everybody; you will not have to tell a soul. It will be one hell of a day when the dam breaks. Are you sure you want to give up everything to do this? I'm afraid that is what it will come down to. You sound like a nice catch to me -- a prize. Hmmmm. To put it differently, you are worth more than this. It's just a dumb idea and you demand support that I can't offer you. Hopefully someone else will jump in and tell you something brilliant.
  6. Shocked by friends reaction

    I married a first cousin, so people's reactions were worse than what you experienced. I can understand how the experience has caused you to rethink your relationship of 15 years. I can assure you that it will go away. Most people in history married a 1st or 2nd cousin, so you are not exactly alone in your decision to marry a cousin! It seems to me that 2nd cousins are so distant that one can't even ridicule you Lighten up. Sometimes, you just have to allow others revel in their abject ignorance. You can't take it to heart. One relative , before we married, stated that I should be "found in a ditch somewhere." I've heard the same jokes and the seen the same reaction from Neanderthals. My cuz and I went through hell. We were young and the drama was at a fever pitch. All of this just made us stronger. I'm sure that will be the case with you guys as well.
  7. Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    Sometimes the best advice that you will ever get will initially sound harsh and judgemental. My intention was just to give it to you straight, like I do everyone else.
  8. 33 years and still counting

    That is very nice. Thanks for sharing.
  9. Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    If you want to find individuals with like-minded ideas, I hate to break it to you but Woodstock is over my dear. I think your plan is wayyy too far out, even for them. If you want to ruin your life and your reputation, well-sir-re-bob!! Who am I to judge? Some free advice: if you do not want answers to your questions, do not ask the question. If your cousin had an ounce of respect for you or himself, he would divorce his wife and peruse you. Now what does that tell you? Oh, it's not my job to pat you on the back and tell you all of your plans sound great! They are not! Wake up and smell the coffee. I could not dream up a plan any worse. I want to pinch myself to see if this message will just go away!
  10. Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    Wow Allison, it is not often that I am speechless, but this comes close. If this is part of some religious thinking on your cousin's part, just run like hell. You do not need to join a religious cult. Five years from now, he may have 10 wives. So, how many more will he want? If he is part of the runaway Mormon sector, just run. If he won't share a large White Russian with you, just so no! I'm not sure what conventionally religious means. If you marry this man, you will not be conventionally anything. If you don't need friends or family in your life, I guess this is the way to go. I hate to be negative, but this is how it will be Allison. Is this really what you want?
  11. Title for mods

    Done
  12. No more guests!

    Glory! No more guests! They can read the board but not participate. There is now some kind of express registration process. I haven't had time to check out all of the new features yet. I also disabled attachments for my own safety. Who knows when a perv will upload some sickening garbage. I would hate to be responsible for it. Actually I do not know what's what. I need to create a regular member's account and check it out. As an admin, I can do anything.
  13. Title for mods

    these are good... keep them coming !
  14. Ads

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  15. Ads

    Yo! Everybody! We have made a nickle in the last seven days! I guess I should go ahead and cancel my trip to Eastern Europe.
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