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  1. KC

    Need some advice

    I'm surprised there isn't a 12 step like group for your situation. Maybe there is. I remember when my wife and I don't up for 2 years it was incredibility painful. I'm not sure you can get a lot of help out there, but we will try to help you here. Just spit it out. if you can be more specific, I can be more helpful.
  2. Yes Ladyc! That is exactly what's happening. It's poor writing, and i wonder if the director is on lsd. The overriding homosexual theme is a deal breaker for me. A big $&@##@ goes out to Netflix! That is how I feel after watching the rest of the season. Netflix turned a great series into the "Arrested Queens."
  3. Anyone following Arrested Development? I've watched two episodes of season 5 and I am a little confused. It doesn't seem nearly as funny as it was before Netflix bought it. They are still stringing the kissing cousin theme along. Even that is getting tired. Another thing they do to a successful series is to never let it end. Netflix is ruining it.
  4. KC

    Thought of sex turns me off

    Ouch, that is even painful to read. Now I can begin to see the real problems. The porn is your demon to fight; we all have them. Never trust a man who claims to be above humanity. I suggest that you set up your WiFi router to use opendns. You can set it up to block the porn websites. If that doesn't work, take your computer to the landfill or a Goodwill store You must quit living the way you are. First, you have to figure out what you want in life. Who do you want to spend the rest of your life with? If you want to stay with your cousin, you have to break the news to your family and let the cards fall where they may. If you can't do that then you should leave her. After 20 years you owe her that much.
  5. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    @pooch I wonder about childhood friends too. I have read that best friends have been looked at genetically and are typically found to be more similar genetically than random pairing. Most of these studies support positive assortative mating. Does the same mechanism cause us to find a woman 'hot'? I bet it is! I'm not certain if that has ever been studied precisely. I would like to do that study. It might teach us something profound about ourselves. It looks like @JackQ is oddly somewhere in the middle, being pulled in different directions. I can see how this would be terribly confusing.
  6. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    @pooch yeah! studies have suggested exactly what you are saying. When we grow up together, a built-in mechanism usually stops us from becoming romantically involved.
  7. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    Ken, relax man. Maybe I should give that line up! I made the remark on the assumption that nobody chases after an ugly cousin. On second thought, it probably wasn't appropriate.
  8. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    She is your first cousin. Other terms that apply are parallel cousins and maternal cousins. But she is just your regular 'ol cousin. Probably cute too.
  9. KC

    Thought of sex turns me off

    I just want someone to pinch me. It sounds like you have been playing for the wrong team the last 20 years. I can't say you should go for it, but you should definitely quit stringing your cousin along. Counseling? It is too little too late.
  10. KC

    Docu-series - looking for couples!

    This is a great opportunity to inform a lot of people. Staying in the shadows of society will not affect change. We have to stand up and be counted; otherwise, the taboo will thrive.
  11. KC

    33 years and still counting

    It is a great story but very old thread. I will lock this thread since the poster probably isn't around.
  12. Two couples, including wife and I were interviewed for this article. The other couple, unfortunately, decided to drop out and asked that their story not be included. The article still came together well. Let me know what you think! https://www.vice.com/en_au/article/zmg3aj/cousin-couples-talk-about-keeping-it-in-the-family
  13. KC


    I am so sorry to hear of your tragedy. It would be a huge mistake to assume that one or two people from your family are representative of the whole. It is another mistake to assume they have the power to split the family. In my experience family members can be quite shocked initially but they soon get over it. It's rare that a family member never comes back around. I think it is good to give your cousin some room to breathe and contemplate. She may decide that you are worth all of the trouble. If not, say good riddance and find you someone who cares deeply about you. You deserve that.
  14. KC

    What do you guys do to have fun

    Concerts is a good one! I just read where one study found that attending a concert could make one live longer and is better than yoga. Within the past 2 years I saw two of my favorite bands play live. It was pure bliss.
  15. I can answer a few of your questions. First, there is nothing wrong with you. Most marriages, historically, have been between cousins. We should be asking what the heck is wrong with the rest of the world! Why do people believe stats from crazy Aunt Maud who doesn't know the difference between a gene and a genie? It's funny how everybody turns into a genetic expert the moment they think you may be interested in a cousin. Check out the rest of the site for some solid info. Look, if you can ignore and forget about your cousin, I suggest that you do. You would actually be considered very smart in my book. I feel that too many in the West suspend their critical thinking skills as soon as they feel that they may be in love. This site is for the people who cannot forget or ignore their cousin lol ?
  16. KC

    Marriage and children

    I just spent 10 mins double checking the laws for NE. It appears you can leave the state and marry in a state that allows cousin marriages -- then return to NE legally married. Cousins are not defined as incestuous, so no criminal laws to worry about. You could run this by a family law attorney. As for genetic counseling, I do not recommend it unless you are tormented about something, for example there is a weird intolerable genetic disorder in your family. Even if the geneticist said you only have a 70 percent chance of having a healthy baby, would that stop you? I think it is a waste of time and money frankly.
  17. KC

    How does the government know?

    I just wanted to make this very clear: capitulate or surrender your constitutional rights at your own peril. I watched a trial at the local courthouse where a guy was fighting a DUI. When the cop pulled him over, the guy stopped, rolled down his window and stuck both hands out the window, as if to say "put some cuffs on my wrists!" His trial was going very good until the cop told this little story. So, never let them put words in you mouth and remain poker-faced while firmly declining questioning or any kind of search without a warrant. Contrary to popular belief, you can also remain friendly and pleasant during an interaction with a cop. I suggest that you do! A little respect goes a long way, of course.
  18. KC

    How does the government know?

    A spiteful in-law or whomever or a good 'ol frienemy. Otherwise, they would never know. A prosecutor would have to prove every element of the so-called crime and that would be tough, providing that you didn't confess/admit to anything. For example they may have to prove that you were in state when you married, or that you actually have sex in their great state. First, they have to prove that you are cousins which could even be tough. I can't see a conviction making it through the appeals process for constitutional reasons. Never answer questions from a cop, instead inform them that your attorney would be glad to speak with them but you refuse to make any statement at all. Only fools go down to the station to answer a few questions. This applies to all circumstances, not just dubious marriages.
  19. I just realized that we are 20 years old! This website is twenty years old. I'm not exactly sure about the month, but 20 years is a crazy long time for a website. So -- happy birthday to us! Cheers!!
  20. What is your primary languages. I'm trying to figure out be if you are bragging, complaining, or just asking questions.
  21. KC

    Happy birthday to us all!!

    That was interesting. Wow the old website design reminds me that I need to do some fresh work on the site just to keep up with web standards.
  22. Murder should be the last resort, not divorce. Kidding! Kidding! The reason some couples stay married for 50 years isn't because they are so compatible but because they have lived through total crap together. The problem here is that his wife is continuing to hold on to this inappropriate relationship. There appears to be nothing left to do except lace up the walking shoes.
  23. When your wife is chatting up another guy all day on messenger, it is not anywhere near normal. I can't see it even being normal in any possible parallel universe. Bro, don't make excuses for her behavior. She should be depressed. If you do not get rid of her, you are going to be depressed to the point of insanity. If your wife brought home another guy, took him to bed and told you to sleep on the couch, would that be ok? I'm just saying that it is fine to set boundaries as rigidly or as loosely as you like, but you have to set them. And when your wife goes beyond them, you pack her stuff up and set it by the curb. Don't sell yourself short. If your wife wants her cousin, buy her a$$ a one-way ticket to the other side of the world so she can be with him.
  24. The cousin is half way around the world; there is no need to sell the farm just yet. First, I will say that your wife is being so damn immature that it is apparently making me cuss outloud (wife is asking me why I am cussing). Your wife is being very hurtful to you. I wish I could give her some frank advice. Her indifference over the fate of her marriage is stunning. I would make it clear that this is an intolerable situation and that I was leaving if she ever installed messenger again. You have to have boundaries to have a healthy relationship and for your mental health. Set them, stick to them, and let the cards fall where they may. PS putting her phone in the oven on 400F overnight might make you feel a little better.
  25. KC

    My Story

    Good for you! It's not often we hear stories like this. It is possible that your cousin really doesn't remember. A gentleman would forget about the whole thing.