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  1. What do you guys do to have fun or for hobbies? I used to love to fish and prospect for gold. Fishing now seems a bit boring for a nondrinker. Also, I'm realizing, after 20-some years of marriage, how self-centered I am. I would especially like suggestions of things my wife might enjoy. Wife loves Rollercoasters. I believe in self-preservation. She does not hence a small dilemma. I'm thinking of taking her to one of those zip line outfits. Anyone done this? Also does a broken neck actually hurt as bad as it sounds?
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  3. You have that ublock running! Rascall! 😀
  4. KC

    Need some advice

    I'm surprised there isn't a 12 step like group for your situation. Maybe there is. I remember when my wife and I don't up for 2 years it was incredibility painful. I'm not sure you can get a lot of help out there, but we will try to help you here. Just spit it out. if you can be more specific, I can be more helpful.
  5. This forum is twenty years old. Many of us have known each other about that long. So you are gonna ride in here and demand that I never add levity to my posts again? I refuse. Ok take care of yourself.
  6. Yes Ladyc! That is exactly what's happening. It's poor writing, and i wonder if the director is on lsd. The overriding homosexual theme is a deal breaker for me. A big $&@##@ goes out to Netflix! That is how I feel after watching the rest of the season. Netflix turned a great series into the "Arrested Queens."
  7. Anyone following Arrested Development? I've watched two episodes of season 5 and I am a little confused. It doesn't seem nearly as funny as it was before Netflix bought it. They are still stringing the kissing cousin theme along. Even that is getting tired. Another thing they do to a successful series is to never let it end. Netflix is ruining it.
  8. KC

    Thought of sex turns me off

    Ouch, that is even painful to read. Now I can begin to see the real problems. The porn is your demon to fight; we all have them. Never trust a man who claims to be above humanity. I suggest that you set up your WiFi router to use opendns. You can set it up to block the porn websites. If that doesn't work, take your computer to the landfill or a Goodwill store You must quit living the way you are. First, you have to figure out what you want in life. Who do you want to spend the rest of your life with? If you want to stay with your cousin, you have to break the news to your family and let the cards fall where they may. If you can't do that then you should leave her. After 20 years you owe her that much.
  9. Lol! SOME of it is my wry sense of humor. That is my story...
  10. Ken, this post/topic is all about you, not me. What does it show about me? I think it shows that I am just a normal guy. I am not going to think or write differently (abnormally) just because you think I am a smart arse. You have got me figured all wrong. You aren't the first one to do that. What can I do? Get it all out of your system in this thread please.
  11. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    @pooch I wonder about childhood friends too. I have read that best friends have been looked at genetically and are typically found to be more similar genetically than random pairing. Most of these studies support positive assortative mating. Does the same mechanism cause us to find a woman 'hot'? I bet it is! I'm not certain if that has ever been studied precisely. I would like to do that study. It might teach us something profound about ourselves. It looks like @JackQ is oddly somewhere in the middle, being pulled in different directions. I can see how this would be terribly confusing.
  12. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    @pooch yeah! studies have suggested exactly what you are saying. When we grow up together, a built-in mechanism usually stops us from becoming romantically involved.
  13. Apologies are not forthcoming. It's just another rant against "toxic masculinity" and anything that is decent. If I assumed that your cousin was butt-ugly, would you be less offended? Well I didn't think so. Lighten up or you will give yourself a coronary.
  14. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    Ken, relax man. Maybe I should give that line up! I made the remark on the assumption that nobody chases after an ugly cousin. On second thought, it probably wasn't appropriate.
  15. KC

    What degree of cousin?

    She is your first cousin. Other terms that apply are parallel cousins and maternal cousins. But she is just your regular 'ol cousin. Probably cute too.
  16. KC

    Thought of sex turns me off

    I just want someone to pinch me. It sounds like you have been playing for the wrong team the last 20 years. I can't say you should go for it, but you should definitely quit stringing your cousin along. Counseling? It is too little too late.
  17. KC

    Docu-series - looking for couples!

    This is a great opportunity to inform a lot of people. Staying in the shadows of society will not affect change. We have to stand up and be counted; otherwise, the taboo will thrive.
  18. KC

    33 years and still counting

    It is a great story but very old thread. I will lock this thread since the poster probably isn't around.
  19. Two couples, including wife and I were interviewed for this article. The other couple, unfortunately, decided to drop out and asked that their story not be included. The article still came together well. Let me know what you think! https://www.vice.com/en_au/article/zmg3aj/cousin-couples-talk-about-keeping-it-in-the-family
  20. KC


    I am so sorry to hear of your tragedy. It would be a huge mistake to assume that one or two people from your family are representative of the whole. It is another mistake to assume they have the power to split the family. In my experience family members can be quite shocked initially but they soon get over it. It's rare that a family member never comes back around. I think it is good to give your cousin some room to breathe and contemplate. She may decide that you are worth all of the trouble. If not, say good riddance and find you someone who cares deeply about you. You deserve that.
  21. KC

    What do you guys do to have fun

    Concerts is a good one! I just read where one study found that attending a concert could make one live longer and is better than yoga. Within the past 2 years I saw two of my favorite bands play live. It was pure bliss.
  22. I can answer a few of your questions. First, there is nothing wrong with you. Most marriages, historically, have been between cousins. We should be asking what the heck is wrong with the rest of the world! Why do people believe stats from crazy Aunt Maud who doesn't know the difference between a gene and a genie? It's funny how everybody turns into a genetic expert the moment they think you may be interested in a cousin. Check out the rest of the site for some solid info. Look, if you can ignore and forget about your cousin, I suggest that you do. You would actually be considered very smart in my book. I feel that too many in the West suspend their critical thinking skills as soon as they feel that they may be in love. This site is for the people who cannot forget or ignore their cousin lol 😃
  23. Ken, the best advice I have ever gotten was from a marriage counselor. He would tell me what's what, and I would, in turn, get red faced and tell him to go do something anatomically impossible. Our sessions were very short. Man was I a hothead back then! He gave me some great advice which took me years to realize how correct he was. Often the best advice is the advice you do not want to hear. Your problem isn't unique at all. Take the fact that she is your cousin out of the equation and see how simple it all becomes. The quote I'm including is so correct. Cousins do have this built-in compatibility, and just perhaps the small amount of genes we share can awaken the gods of romance and incense. I hope you can get everything back on track and salvage your marriage. You can't put the genie back in the bottle. You will have to distance yourself from her and reexamine your boundaries. You truly have my best wishes. I'm glad you posted your story.
  24. Fight crass with crass! Lol. Stay long enough and you will get the response that you are looking for. The truth is that we don't have all of the answers. However, I know the answer isn't to cheat on your wife like vermin. GSA seems to be a real thing to me. I have never admitted it before but I do have another cousin that is hot as a firecracker. I purposefully try to avoid her because I do not want my life any more complicated than it already is. It appears that you have already crossed the line with your cousin. Taking one more step could spell absolute disaster for both of your marriages. Are you trying to ruin or sabotage your marriage? If so, you are on the right track. If you are a gentleman, you will turn around while you still can. Mr. Ken, what can I say?
  25. Isn't she freaking adorable? And your soulmates too! Mr. Ken, I know it's hard to believe, but I have heard this story before. Alright, sorry for being so crass. There just aren't any easy answers. The bottom line is serious. You have both made commitments to others and you both should keep them. There is no such thing as a soul mate. You can't use that as an excuse to cheat in your wife. Kate Winslet is my soul mate, but I'm not chasing her around. If things were different, you would have different options. But if frogs had wings, they wouldn't bump their arse every time they hopped. Right?