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  1. Are folks in the Western World becoming more or less accepting of cousin marriages... say within the past 25 years.
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    been a while....

    Hi Jessie my friend. It's good to see you drop in. You are one of us and I wish you the best. 21 years is a long time and I can't imagine the pain of such a loss. I will keep you in prayer.
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    Around the world

    Anywhere in the Middle East, they typically PREFER a cousin vs. a "stranger." Europe has no prohibitions against cousin marriages. Many US states allow cousin marriages.
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    Introduction and Advice

    At what age do they typically marry in Columbia? In the States, we think 18 is a magic number but that is not the case everywhere. The reality is if you do not express your feelings within (?what the next year?) she may be snatched up by some fast-talking Columbian who is on the cartel's payroll. So my friend, you really are in a situation. Your options appear to be: 1) Let her go 2) Have a longer than normal courtship, which is a wise thing to do (and you need to get the ball rolling) I nearly always advise people to wait until you are both mature and settled-in somewhere after college. That is the ideal, but this not going to work for you. I am not advocating anything here, but I live in the South (and no I will not apologize; I love the south :D) folks used to marry very early. I have an aunt who married at 14 (or was it 13?) and she seemed to have the greatest marriage of all. 40 years later, if you saw them, they were always holding hands, hugging or whatever ... very much still in love still. I do not advocate marriages of this nature, I am just musing about young marriages in my own family. If I were you, I would not put all of my eggs into one basket. There is no such thing as "the one" for you. No soul mates. In reality, you have billions of wild women to choose from. So be more honest with your cousin and the other women you will find attractive.
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    Introduction and Advice

    (If you have never seen The Big Lebowski you may not get my little jokes) My cousin is nearly 5 years younger than I; it's not a biggee. You mentioned torture! Bro, you are torchering yourself by keeping this all bottled up. You have to be brave and bite the bullet, like all of us. I do love the women who are so sure of themselves that they peruse their "prey" and fearlessly express their feelings. They are hard to come by because they get "snapped up" pretty quicky. Most women, unfortunately are not this way. As the Big Lebowski, uh, The Dude would advise, drink one White Russian and call that girl up, man. Or KC might say, grow a pair! What are you waiting for? Is she not worth a little disapproval from people you do not care for anyway? Who cares what "the family" thinks? They are not marrying her, you are. Wow you little nihilistic cousin lover, you hold to every excuse in the book! What a wimp! You wouldn't last in 'Nam for five seconds. Don't get Walter upset with this nonsense. It's best to take a page out of those fearless womens' book and spill everything to your cousin; otherwise, you are just pissing on the rug, man -- the one that ties it all together.
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    Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    The study of man and psychology too! Two of my favorite subjects. I have a degree in religion and will have another one if I keep it together long enough. So, that is where I am coming from. I jolted you on purpose but I see you are dead-set on trying out this new experiment. You have to ask yourself some difficult questions. I would ask, "What will you tell your friends" but I am afraid you may have none. I'm sure your family will flip out. The first person who knows your plans will tell everybody; you will not have to tell a soul. It will be one hell of a day when the dam breaks. Are you sure you want to give up everything to do this? I'm afraid that is what it will come down to. You sound like a nice catch to me -- a prize. Hmmmm. To put it differently, you are worth more than this. It's just a dumb idea and you demand support that I can't offer you. Hopefully someone else will jump in and tell you something brilliant.
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    Shocked by friends reaction

    I married a first cousin, so people's reactions were worse than what you experienced. I can understand how the experience has caused you to rethink your relationship of 15 years. I can assure you that it will go away. Most people in history married a 1st or 2nd cousin, so you are not exactly alone in your decision to marry a cousin! It seems to me that 2nd cousins are so distant that one can't even ridicule you Lighten up. Sometimes, you just have to allow others revel in their abject ignorance. You can't take it to heart. One relative , before we married, stated that I should be "found in a ditch somewhere." I've heard the same jokes and the seen the same reaction from Neanderthals. My cuz and I went through hell. We were young and the drama was at a fever pitch. All of this just made us stronger. I'm sure that will be the case with you guys as well.
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    Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    Sometimes the best advice that you will ever get will initially sound harsh and judgemental. My intention was just to give it to you straight, like I do everyone else.
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    33 years and still counting

    That is very nice. Thanks for sharing.
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    Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    If you want to find individuals with like-minded ideas, I hate to break it to you but Woodstock is over my dear. I think your plan is wayyy too far out, even for them. If you want to ruin your life and your reputation, well-sir-re-bob!! Who am I to judge? Some free advice: if you do not want answers to your questions, do not ask the question. If your cousin had an ounce of respect for you or himself, he would divorce his wife and peruse you. Now what does that tell you? Oh, it's not my job to pat you on the back and tell you all of your plans sound great! They are not! Wake up and smell the coffee. I could not dream up a plan any worse. I want to pinch myself to see if this message will just go away!
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    Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    Wow Allison, it is not often that I am speechless, but this comes close. If this is part of some religious thinking on your cousin's part, just run like hell. You do not need to join a religious cult. Five years from now, he may have 10 wives. So, how many more will he want? If he is part of the runaway Mormon sector, just run. If he won't share a large White Russian with you, just so no! I'm not sure what conventionally religious means. If you marry this man, you will not be conventionally anything. If you don't need friends or family in your life, I guess this is the way to go. I hate to be negative, but this is how it will be Allison. Is this really what you want?
  12. Ask us in 7 or 8 years.
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    Admin status

    Rom, you do! But I just set them all up wrong. Let's all think of a better member group tho for you guys.
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    Admin status

    Nat, you got it! Looking good!
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    Just an update

    Hi guys! Long time no write! I just wanted to give a little update. I am still around. I check in every day but I really do not have time to participate like I would like. School and other projects are taking up my time. Plus, I haven't felt too well in a while. In fact, if God doesn't move, I may have a very rough road up ahead. They diagnosed me with severe COPD and I keep getting these upper respiratory infections. Would you believe that I am such a dumb-a$$ that I am STILL SMOKING! I am quiting smoking like I quit alcohol -- slowly. I have switched to lights and using my electronic cig more and more. Ok, sometimes I cut 1/2 the filter off of these light cigs. Smoking is the hardest thing to quit! I've quit drinking, getting high (years and years ago) and never had a bit of trouble. But cigarettes .... ahhh. I am still here, behind the scenes making sure this place is running smoothly. We just had an message board update. I'm not sure what new features they added but I hope you enjoy them I do see some nice cosmetic changes. Wife and I are going on two years apart now. We briefly tried to make it work. It didn't and it never will. I am busy, so not really looking for that special lady. New rule: ladies must pursue me. Seriously. I have some kind of date next week but after that, it's gonna be over. I may just stand her up, she is no prize. I rarely have encounters with women where there is romantic chemistry. Yea I see the honeys; I'm not blind. I'm just pretty happy being a bachelor right now. The chemistry between my cuz and I was crazy. The last time I was smitten was like 3 years ago out of the blue. I was at a bar... I mean restaurant. [cough] The waitress came and introduced herself. She was average, maybe a 6. I could immediately tell, somehow, that this girl had been through hell in her life. I was completely smitten like a little schoolboy which was odd because she was no prize. I could tell that she was just a party waiting to happen and the kind of girl I need to stay away from. Hey - I need someone to keep ME straight. Anyway, what am I thinking? I'm just prattling on and on like I'm on too much medication or something. I hope everyone is doing good and I hope to interact with you guys more very soon.
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    Missing side bar

    Guys! Guys! I'm trying to get three other sites off the ground! You are worrying me! LMAO! I'm teasing. Thanks for bringing this to my attention. I fixed it. Well -- you tell me. quarter25 - this is what you call responsive websites / templates. When they are shown on a smaller screen, like a mobile, some elements may disappear completely (like a sidebar). I am sure that is what is happening, so it is working correctly.
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    Missing side bar

    Well I probably broke it, or one of the new features I turned on is buggy. I will make small changes until we get it right. You just gotta hollar at me when I do! Google is actually causing a JS error which may explain everything. I am working on that.
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    Admin status

    That is a great idea C! I thought about that, or a special designation anyway. I like your idea better.
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    Admin status

    Yeah but it was nothing personal. We no longer have mods. Any mods. I know everybody is busy. I spent every 45 mins one day approving or deleting posts and I wondering, why do we need mods? Even though I am not seen too much, I spend a lot of time working on this site. About 8 hours in the last 3 days. I know you are enjoying your retirement, and you should. I do not hold that against you. I do not know where the other mods are, and as I stated in the admin area, I cannot and will not work with these people! As the founder, I have to make these hard decisions, and yes, I put myself in these positions sometimes. I no longer want mods and there will be no more. I do appreciate all of the hard work you guys have done. I hope you do what you do best and that is share you wisdom with these kids. Even if you are mad at me, you can't be mad at them
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    Missing side bar

    Let me know if it is fixed please.
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    password reset email

    Register again. We have changed forums and lost some members. Also, you could have been pruned if you were absent for a long time.
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  23. https://app.groupme.com/join_group/31728266/67YKGm If you want to help me check out a chatroom, click the link and let's do this thing!
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    Chatroom experiment

    anyway, let me know if anyone finds this useful; otherwise, it will go into the bit bucket at some point
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    Chatroom experiment

    you may also download groupme on your phone