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  1. KC

    California Residency

    You may talk to a lawyer from CA. Off the top of my head, it seems that if you marry your cousin in Mexico, it should be easier to get her to the States. I would contact an immigration lawyer.
  2. Just a heads up: our TOS has been slightly modified. I will post the important changes below. It may be slightly offensive, but it is necessary, I'm afraid. [ Note from KC/Owner: I would like to make one point crystal clear: if you are a pedophile, you are at the wrong website. The moderators here have over 100 years of combined experience with computers and computer security. Some are experts. I can and will hunt you down and turn over all incriminating evidence to the police, any local gangs, post your information on public perv websites or worse. If you abuse children, I am your worst nightmare. That's my word. ]
  3. KC

    California Residency

    You would have to search their laws, but I'm guessing 6 months. If you move there and rent/own a home, you are golden. I wouldn't worry too much about it. You do not need to be a resident to marry your cousin there.
  4. KC

    Out of state marriage

    No, not unless you stay in Mexico. If you come back, then it is technically a felony. Everyone of you who live in Tx needs to be raising cain with your state representative until they change the law. The lawmakers had no clue that a particular child abuse bill would change the marriage laws. It was enacted and you guys have to do something about it. Be aware that if you write your rep, the letter may be public record and available to journalists. But do not be sissies. Write them anyway and write them often. Another great option is to write to some prominent political writers and tell them your story. If you can get the media behind you and to tell your story, this gets the lawmaker's attention quicker than anything else.
  5. Thanks for your question. On this website, and most forums, your password is encrypted in a way that it can't be decrypted. I can't read it. The login procedure can only compare the stored password with the newly encrypted copy of the one you provide. If they match, you are golden. In theory this is great. However, these days hackers have a database/dictionary that can decrypt many these encrypted passwords (they just match them up). Sites like Paypal and Bitcoin websites have 2 Factor Authentication (2FA). You enter you username/password and then enter a number from your cell phone. I think this is the direction we are heading with all websites of import... any banking website. My best advice is to use a password manager like LastPass, or StickyPassword. They can generate a unique password up to 30 some characters long. Hackers can't break this. If the website allows 2FA, you might turn it on. Be advised that it is a pain, esp if you loose your phone or change your number (or can't pay the bill!). This forum does not offer this feature at this time. I'm sure there is an addon if I looked. Make sure your password is not recycled (used somewhere else) --- just let the password manager create the password and you will be safe here. This forum will lock your account after so many failed password tries. The ten mill per second password trick will not work unless they can download the whole forum database. Even then it will not work with a good unique password. Again, they can only download your encrypted password. The answer is a password manager.
  6. I make $240 last night in 45 mins! I'm so happy that I could kiss the sky!

  7. Oh cool. I was afraid that I had the settings out of wack.

  8. Wazzz up peeps? Am I the only one who can use the update box?

  9. KC

    Getting Divorced

    Thank you for not taking offense! It's just that I feel my pending divorce ruined my life. I refer to my marriage as "my old life." Things are certainly different now. This is a new kind of normal. It's taken me a good year to get my bearings straight. I'm actually kinda liking the single life for now. So -- it really pains me to hear of someone divorcing for a frivolous reason. I mean if you were not a good cook or didn't know how to make grits, I could understand divorcing you in a New York minute. But to satisfy a mother-in-law? Are you kidding me? That woman has mental problems and you should not let her control your life. Do not give her one inch, and if the sister wants to write you guys off as well, so be it. I'm afraid that you two will never be happy until you rid yourselves of these vipers! Once they realize that they can no longer control your lives, they will come around and cease the nonsense. This holds true most of the time. I wish you luck, but please do not divorce to please anyone. You are kidding yourself if you think a divorce is just a little bump in the road. Your family unit is important and precious. You do not throw that away for anybody in the world. Good luck. I am praying for your family.
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    Personality disordered cousin

    I hope you don't say in 10 years, "man, I wish I had listened to KC!" I hope it works out for you. The last I heard was my wife was living in a tent -- homeless. She chose that lifestyle and she is no longer my responsibility. I would be lying if I said I don't worry about her a bit. It is dangerous out there. But it is just too bad. I can't live the way she wants to live. I refuse. You need to set boundaries for HER and if she crosses them, get rid of her. Life is short bro. We don't have to put up with this crap. I understand the falling in love with the one girl thing, but it is all a mirage. There is no such thing as a soul mate IMHO. Good luck and I truly hope everything works out.
  11. KC

    Personality disordered cousin

    I'm sorry that I do not understand the black and white thing you were talking about; it went over my head. But yea, I do know about personality disorders and frankly, insanity. LOL. It runs on my cousin's side of the family, not mine. Her dad spent ten years in prison for burning houses down and attempted murder. He is a classic psychopath. I could go on. He once drug his own momma around the yard by the hair of her head. You decide if he is insane. I am certain these "disorders" are genetic. Fast forward --- I married his daughter. All I can tell you bro is that we have had trouble from day one. However, about 5 years ago, she started doing and saying very bizarre things. I would accuse her of being on the "pipe." She acted hopped up on something. Bizarre things led to even more bizarre things (and unforgivable things) until it was a living hell trying to stay with her. I'm a fairly private person, so I will shut up now. But not before I dispense some advice. My advice is sometime terse, concise and shocking so brace yourself. It is mitigated by my great wisdom, so here goes: Get the H-E-Double-L away from that woman! Pray that she goes back with her husband where she belongs. It will not be without lots of pain and agony, but you must put your own sanity first. We have 6 billion people on the planet, 3B females. You can do better my friend and I am afraid that you must.
  12. KC

    Getting Divorced

    If I may chime in, I would like to point out a few things. Don't take offense at anything please. I'm a straight shooter, and generally concise. First, if you are a Christian, your mother-in-law's disapproval is not a valid reason to divorce. If you are not a Christian, then I would say that it is just a dumb idea to divorce in order to "walk out of someone's life." Hold your head up high and just walk out. That woman is poison and neither you nor your husband need her in your lives. You have already married your cousin which tells me that you have ALREADY MADE THE DECISION. So stick with it. You will never be able to satisfy her, no matter what you do. Now you have your own family, incl children. It is time to be a family and do whatever it takes to preserve a healthy marriage. Your husband needs to grow some and be a man. He is acting like the biggest sissie I have ever hear of. It's his job to fight for his family and he is being a complete failure. He is a failure to you, your kids, and a failure to men everywhere. I had a lot of trouble with family when I married my cousin too, but I had to tell people, in so many words, to go %$#$ off. It's time to stand up for yourselves and quit playing this sick game.
  13. KC

    I'm just wondering

    Do us all a favor and don't have any kids. There is no rule that says you must!
  14. Oh boy, it does sound like your relationship is in real trouble. It makes you wonder what the heck is wrong with people, huh? Don't they not know that when the pieces break, sometimes there is just no putting them back together? Unfortunately, I know about the trust issue. It is no small detail. It is essential in any relationship. Without it, the relationship is simply over. So, there is your answer. You answered it yourself. Some people sabotage their relationships and I am not even sure they know why they are doing it. But that is not for you to figure out. You have to have some piece of mind. You are just going to have to put an end to this abuse and leave. And yes, it is abuse, the same as if he had busted you square in the mouth. Trust is something that can take 40 years to build and and be shattered in a minute. It doesn't sound like you can rebuilt this essential ingredient for your relationship to ever work again. FWI- you should have told the counselor to kiss your #$% and left immediately. I wish I had a penny for every quack counselor out there. I have given you a lot to think about, so I will stop here. I wish I had a magic bullet or at least some good news for you. Be strong. You have some hard decisions to make.
  15. I think there are two types of cheaters. One where two people end up getting too close, maybe a boss and secretary. The other kind is the serial cheater, who aren't good for anything except everlasting torment. You have to decide which one your cuz is! I can feel your pain and I'm very sorry you have to go through this. My personal opinion is that you should give the person another chance. One -- and that is it. You should make that crystal clear to him. You can get past this. A lot of marriages last so long, not because they had a perfect marriage, match made in heaven. They lasted so long because they stayed together even when things were unbearably difficult. It helps to talk it out. So feel free to talk to us. We are here for you.
  16. You are just kids. Enjoy your youth and stop worrying about such silly things.
  17. I just added a fun (I hope) board called "Questions and Answers." The answers will be rated until the best answer is found. The forum software supports this feature and I thought we would at least try it out! So please go participate!
  18. KC

    Question and Answers Forum

    The Old Timers forum is back, but nobody has enough posts to qualify! We lost a bunch of messages somewhere. If you were in the Old Timers' forum on the old board, drop me a PM! I will change your posts to meet the requirements.
  19. Let me explain the 6 main member groups: Admins: Owners / Tech People / We started the website and we run it Moderators: can delete, approve, move, ban and do all the things that make the board run smoothly. They really make this forum possible. Newbys - Less than 5 posts Members - Once you reach 25 posts, you may delete or edit your message up to 48 hours after they are posted. Then you will have to contact a mod or admin for help. Everyone else can delete, hide, or modify their post anytime. We have seen too many people ruin the boards by deleting their topis and replies just because they got an attitude. Advanced Members: When you reach 50 posts, you gain more privileges Senior Members: When you reach 150 posts, you gain more privileges Old Timers: When you reach 300+ posts, you can moderate the chat room and have the most privileges that any user has. There is even an Old Timers forum you will see become available to you.
  20. You should register because all guest posts must be approved by a moderator. We generally quickly scan your post and do not give you the benefit of the doubt. I (KC) delete posts almost as often as I approve them. (Anything about sex and I just assume the worst.) You have a 50/50 shot as a non-member to getting your message posted if there are links or sexual talk or any reason I can find to delete it. This is a quick guide to becoming a member here, and how to ensure your anonymity while registering here, or on any public forum. I am not trying to scare anyone or discourage anyone from becoming a member. On the contrary, I want you to register as a member here, but I would also like you to be an informed member, indeed an informed Netizen -- a citizen of the web. In general, it is a good idea to stay fairly anonymous on public forums because these forums are "crawled" by search engines. Everything you post will be captured by Google et al. (except for private messages). Thus, if you use your real name to post on a forum, anyone may search your name and come up with every post you have ever made on every website, including cousincouples.com. Google will now even capture your avatar. If you use a real picture of yourself, it may show up with a Google search as well. So, make up a "pen name" for your registration and upload an avatar that is not your real picture. Of course, we do have members here who use their real names and real pictures. That is good and fine, but this is a guide for those interested in staying anonymous. Please keep in mind that you should assume that everything you post, even on Facebook will be permanently stored somewhere. Certain government agencies probably copy and store every bit of this information before the actual website you are sending it to gets it. So, it doesn't matter if you delete a post or private message, somebody somewhere has a copy of it. This site uses SSL (HTTPS) to ensure that all of your communication to cousincouples.com is encrypted until our servers receive it. In theory, nobody can eavesdrop, even at coffee shops, hotels or any public Wi-Fi service. But that does not stop some governments from recording the encrypted data. Perhaps at a future date they will be able to decipher it. If they can do that now, they will not disclose that fact, so we do not know how secure SSL really is. I'm betting that it hasn't been broken yet. Further, many of these agencies have backdoors to Facebook, Microsoft, Skype et. al. They very well may have our private communications in unencrypted plain text/ VOIP or {shutter} web cam movies. In light of the information above, it may be prudent to not share personal identifiable information, like the name of your cousin or your grandparent's name. If you request that certain posts be deleted, please give us the actual URL of the post. We may or may not delete your posts. For additional security, I suggest the following products: Secure email (very secure email): Protonmail.com (Proton VPN is coming in the Spring!) Password manager (cheap and very good): LastPass, or StickyPassword Please note that you may be blocked (or "harassed -- prove you are not a robot ...") from this website and others (incl Google) if you are using a VPN or TOR. We request that you use only you real IP while using this forum. Security starts with very good virus and malware protection (I don't have a favorite) and OS updates. Also, there are some antivirus programs that scan your computer for outdated software which is a great idea. Also make sure any personal information is sent over an https connection. If you are at a website that wants credit card info or log-in information, and the site starts with http:// instead of https:// then leave immediately. You can also try to insert the S and see if that works on unencrypted websites. A FEW websites are fine to be unsecured, for example CNN.com. They do not offer an encrypted connection at the time of this writing. I hope this has been helpful! Now, please go sign up. It takes a lot of our time to approve guest messages. Members' messages posts automatically. This is one good reason to have a password manager -- so you can keep up with all of the passwords. If you don't have a password manager, install one today. Here is a comparison chart: http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2407168,00.asp of top password managers (just use the ones I have recommended; I have used them all). Please understand that the admins here are tech experts. We can track down anyone who is abusing children, and will go out of our way to do so. Any information obtained will be given to the appropriate law enforcement agency for prosecution. This is a family website and even the hint of child exploitation will quickly get you unwanted attention. Please read our "About This Website" page for our unwavering and vehement stance on child abuse of any kind.
  21. Please read "Before you become a member" in the Shoot the Breeze section. It has great information.

  22. Burned out and tired! Last week of semester! Cram time.

  23. KC

    Married cousins

    One lady from this forum asked her priest (in Canada) if it was OK to marry her cousin. He responded with, "Yes I hope so; I married my cousin too!"
  24. Please register Aiden. I have to approve all of these guest posts.
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