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KC

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  1. No more guests!

    Glory! No more guests! They can read the board but not participate. There is now some kind of express registration process. I haven't had time to check out all of the new features yet. I also disabled attachments for my own safety. Who knows when a perv will upload some sickening garbage. I would hate to be responsible for it. Actually I do not know what's what. I need to create a regular member's account and check it out. As an admin, I can do anything.
  2. Important pt II

    Thanks for all of the suggestions for keeping this site financially sound. When I started, I was dead against charging members a penny, but over the years the costs and upkeep just keep mounting. I am putting on my "Boss" hat for a moment. I must be decisive sometimes. I have nearly ran the site in the ground by putting it on the back burner while I was in school. In keeping with the original spirit of cc.com, I am trying to find a way not to charge those that may not have the expendable monies. That means two things : 1} we that pay will pay a hair more. 2} there will be an imposed subscription fee starting soon I'm sure we can keep 80 percent of the site fee and open. We will see how many support us before I can give a firm answer. It's still possible that we will not get the needed support and end up with a read-only site. We are funded through the next year thanks to a generous administrator. I will not be waiting, however, to implement changes to shore up our beloved website. I have a few questions that will be very helpful when going forward. "Cousincouples.com" should never be on your receipt. Many of you have expressed concern about this. How many refuse to use PayPal? Would "kc education group" be acceptable on your receipt? Remember you can get these disposable visa gift cards so if it's not critical. finally, what is the max you would pay for a monthly membership? What if you could get "forbidden relatives" at a discount with with your membership? Sorry I am writing this with my phone. The problem is that sites are never finished with. This website needs a good 40 - 60 hours of work at the moment. Sometimes I feel like a car mechanic who refuses to change his oil because he's not getting paid. Lol. It is nice to get paid. I would not mind getting a few wooden nickels just to keep this website updated. And now maybe I am dreaming, but it would also be nice to have finding to keep the wiki updated. we need to leverage this website to the Max and maybe reconsider how we interact with the media. Ideas?
  3. At the bar

    On my wife's birthday, we went to a nice restaurant. I'm officially a non drinker, but this was her birthday so we were both drinking a little bit. Two women and a guy was sitting beside of us at the bar. I was challenging them to a game of pool. I was talking $ hit to them all in good fun. My wife told the women that they looked alike and asked if were they sisters. They replied "No we are friends." Then they decided "hey you two look alike -- are you brother and sister?" My wife replied, "No! We are husband and wife!" Then I retorted, "She is my cousin!" We all laughed like crazy.
  4. Advice required from girls

    Only advice from the girls huh? Well what if I put on my high heels and don't man spread in my cute summer dress? Can I answer then?
  5. Help

    Yea, slow down my friend. You have plenty of time to grow into the confident woman that only comes from living. OK, so we know your hormones are indeed working. Do not put yourself in those situations until you are ready for more than just kissing. How old are you? Your cousin will probably marry much younger than you would typically in the States. The sooner you can tell your cousin how you feel, the better. My advice : do not marry younger. You are worth waiting for. Make him wait until you finish school. good luck
  6. invalid url for ssl cert

    believe it was a problem with the SSL certificate. It's very easy to make a mess with them. I think I might have fixed it, I will take a nother look. At the moment I only have my phone and not a computer. If you still see these problems please tell me again and I will make sure they are fixed. Thank you for pointing this out!
  7. it all sounds very familiar. It is typical to have feelings for one particular cousin only, and not any other cousin. Best wishes on the huge decision that must be made by you two. Be strong. Hold your head up high. Wife and I had little support also. We said, F it, let's get married. Well, it wasn't that easy but yea it all worked out.
  8. kissy-face this!

    Hey you are very much are Somebody. Most of us have been in your place before. there is no way through pain except through it. but your day will come. One day you will realize that the birds still sing and you are glad that jackass cousin of yours is gone.
  9. No, not with that fact alone. If you are being investigated and charged with incest then who knows.
  10. This year marks our 19th year online. I appreciate every one of you who makes this site necessary. Cuz and I have been married for 22 years now. It's crazy how time flies. I hope this website has been a blessing to you all and I consider every one of you friends. Although this has always been a free website, it's not like you can't show some love during the holidays. I prefer my love via PayPal or Bitcoins. Admin_kc@protonmail.com (PAYPAL) 1KBYfvLjNoEBYipCoKkj7jxvCgLDGSH3pp (BTC)
  11. Ibotta coupon app

    For those that don't know, Ibotta is a cash back app. It gives you cash back when you shop. It also allows teamwork. If we are all on the same team I bet we could make some money. It's easy you just buy the same stuff you normally buy and you get cash back. Use my link and we will all become team members. You will also get a $10 credit when you use the app. So let's try this. https://ibotta.com/r/rzqueq
  12. I wouldn't talk to my family doc. There is no telling what kind of advice he/she will give you. Opinions run the gamut in the medical community. You should read Forbidden Relatives or contact a member of the NSGC (https://www.nsgc.org/). Personally, I would not bat an eye unless something in your family history needs to be looked at. All the best to you.
  13. Aunt

    Sober up and put your head in the toilet. Run around the house nakkid with your hair still wet 10 times. Call home and tell your momma that is going on in your mind.
  14. Help please. Anxiety through the roof

    Hi RRj, I can relate to everything you are saying. Everything will be OK, you are just going through a phase. I'm sorry that you are questioning your relationship because of your distant kinship. There is no need for it. It will go away. You are being silly. Hang in there. I married my 1st cousin. We just spent two years apart after 20 years of marriage. Wow that was tough, but I found out that I could be happy being single...after the first year. My mind was scrambled for the first year, like a TV on channel 3. We are back together again now. We have made fresh commitments to each other and hope to start another 20 year chapter. You have no idea how much hurt we are working through. But we are committed to fulfill the vows we made before God and will give it another go. Nobody said it would be easy, right? Things are not great yet. I am in a new city trying to find us a better place to live. I just had my first job interview today. Hmmm. I will say one thing that is amazing. Hey, I was indeed happy being alone but after being back with my wife for two months, I feel like I have my zen back. I can't explain it but it is a sweet feeling of peace that makes me smile for no reason. And when I do, the heavens open up and I can hear the angels singing. I didn't have that when I was alone. As LadyC pointed out, marriages take a commitment to each other and to God. You can't make it alone. Look at the stats. I am a Christian and only went back to my wife because I felt led to. It's as inexplicable as the peace I am feeling -- the Zen! Zen isn't a Christian term I know... but maybe we should adopt it. This Christian has Zen! I'm praying for you and wish you the best. You guys are so distantly related that it is silly to worry about it. Do not let it play in your mind like a broken record. Play some Rolling Stones I'm not proofreading or correcting anything......
  15. This forum update was a big one! Here are some highlights: You now have the opportunity to opt for 2FA (2 factor authentication). It basically uses your cell phone to add a layer of security to your account. It will send you a SMS, phone call, or ask for the code from Google Auth or Authy. It may just pop up a screen on your phone asking if you are trying to log in. If you are going to do this, I suggest that you purchase "Authenticator Plus" from the App Store. It will back up everything. If you don't use it, you will be sorry. You can change your settings in your profile. You can also set it up, as I recommend, to ask one additional question that only you would know. I recommend your first crush in primary school. Nobody will know that. There is also a new feature that allows users to create "clubs." I don't know much about it, but if you have an idea and think enough people would join, let me know and I will check it out. The chat room is gone for good. I have made an official one... the last one lol. "Google Hangouts" yall. You may join by following this link. https://hangouts.google.com/group/S4qIjAKbhhp7Kr9D2 If you do not want your real name revealed, you can change your nickname/name at Google+ account page: https://aboutme.google.com/ Just click on the pencil thingee at the top to the right of your picture. Join us! We can have some fun! You may use your mobile or your desktop
  16. https://www.cousincouples.com/?page=states Is the only page we maintain. Wikipedia is not an academic source and should only be used as a reality check.
  17. Are folks in the Western World becoming more or less accepting of cousin marriages... say within the past 25 years.
  18. been a while....

    Hi Jessie my friend. It's good to see you drop in. You are one of us and I wish you the best. 21 years is a long time and I can't imagine the pain of such a loss. I will keep you in prayer.
  19. Around the world

    Anywhere in the Middle East, they typically PREFER a cousin vs. a "stranger." Europe has no prohibitions against cousin marriages. Many US states allow cousin marriages.
  20. Introduction and Advice

    At what age do they typically marry in Columbia? In the States, we think 18 is a magic number but that is not the case everywhere. The reality is if you do not express your feelings within (?what the next year?) she may be snatched up by some fast-talking Columbian who is on the cartel's payroll. So my friend, you really are in a situation. Your options appear to be: 1) Let her go 2) Have a longer than normal courtship, which is a wise thing to do (and you need to get the ball rolling) I nearly always advise people to wait until you are both mature and settled-in somewhere after college. That is the ideal, but this not going to work for you. I am not advocating anything here, but I live in the South (and no I will not apologize; I love the south :D) folks used to marry very early. I have an aunt who married at 14 (or was it 13?) and she seemed to have the greatest marriage of all. 40 years later, if you saw them, they were always holding hands, hugging or whatever ... very much still in love still. I do not advocate marriages of this nature, I am just musing about young marriages in my own family. If I were you, I would not put all of my eggs into one basket. There is no such thing as "the one" for you. No soul mates. In reality, you have billions of wild women to choose from. So be more honest with your cousin and the other women you will find attractive.
  21. Introduction and Advice

    (If you have never seen The Big Lebowski you may not get my little jokes) My cousin is nearly 5 years younger than I; it's not a biggee. You mentioned torture! Bro, you are torchering yourself by keeping this all bottled up. You have to be brave and bite the bullet, like all of us. I do love the women who are so sure of themselves that they peruse their "prey" and fearlessly express their feelings. They are hard to come by because they get "snapped up" pretty quicky. Most women, unfortunately are not this way. As the Big Lebowski, uh, The Dude would advise, drink one White Russian and call that girl up, man. Or KC might say, grow a pair! What are you waiting for? Is she not worth a little disapproval from people you do not care for anyway? Who cares what "the family" thinks? They are not marrying her, you are. Wow you little nihilistic cousin lover, you hold to every excuse in the book! What a wimp! You wouldn't last in 'Nam for five seconds. Don't get Walter upset with this nonsense. It's best to take a page out of those fearless womens' book and spill everything to your cousin; otherwise, you are just pissing on the rug, man -- the one that ties it all together.
  22. Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    The study of man and psychology too! Two of my favorite subjects. I have a degree in religion and will have another one if I keep it together long enough. So, that is where I am coming from. I jolted you on purpose but I see you are dead-set on trying out this new experiment. You have to ask yourself some difficult questions. I would ask, "What will you tell your friends" but I am afraid you may have none. I'm sure your family will flip out. The first person who knows your plans will tell everybody; you will not have to tell a soul. It will be one hell of a day when the dam breaks. Are you sure you want to give up everything to do this? I'm afraid that is what it will come down to. You sound like a nice catch to me -- a prize. Hmmmm. To put it differently, you are worth more than this. It's just a dumb idea and you demand support that I can't offer you. Hopefully someone else will jump in and tell you something brilliant.
  23. Shocked by friends reaction

    I married a first cousin, so people's reactions were worse than what you experienced. I can understand how the experience has caused you to rethink your relationship of 15 years. I can assure you that it will go away. Most people in history married a 1st or 2nd cousin, so you are not exactly alone in your decision to marry a cousin! It seems to me that 2nd cousins are so distant that one can't even ridicule you Lighten up. Sometimes, you just have to allow others revel in their abject ignorance. You can't take it to heart. One relative , before we married, stated that I should be "found in a ditch somewhere." I've heard the same jokes and the seen the same reaction from Neanderthals. My cuz and I went through hell. We were young and the drama was at a fever pitch. All of this just made us stronger. I'm sure that will be the case with you guys as well.
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