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  1. I am thinking seriously about writing a book! About cousins? Why yes! But . . .   . . .   . . . 

    I do want the book to be about cousin couples, but that only scratches the surface. I need a broader topic and I need your help to develop it! Please!

    I do not want to rewrite "Forbidden Relatives" (in the book store). I want to write my own darn book. Right? What I am interested in is Anthropology, in a larger sense.

    I'm thinking of a book with maybe only 1 or 2 chapters about cousins. I want to write about marriage customs and weird customs around the globe. 

    I would love to compare/contrast arranged vs "love" marriages and why it is taboo is fall in love in certain cultures.

    There is soooo much out there to write about. I want my book to keep your attention from the word "go!" 

    So my question to you all, what you are interested in? How can I expand our tunnel vision of kissing cousins to write a book that will have a wider audience? 

    If you have a marriage or cultural question that could be applicable, please spit it out here. You guys could help me out SOOOO much.

    Writing a book about cousin marriages is so myopic. Let's add one or two chapters of that and that's it. It would be comprehensive but not on and on and on like "Forbidden Relatives."

    If you know a weird cultural marriage fact, please tell me. I've been talking with a lady who travels the world for a living and she tells me stories. Freaking incredible stuff. There are more interesting customs than cousin marriages. That is just normal in so many places. 

  2. On 11/4/2019 at 5:07 PM, Scorpiomoon04 said:

    I've been in a relationship with my second cousin for a year now. We live in a state where we can also marry as well. 

    We bought a house, and even got a puppy together. He makes me so happy and is the love of my life. My parents know about us and it took my father a while but he's coming along.


    I recently was pregnant but under certain circumstances I had a miscarriage. In the future should we go to a genetic counselor before trying again? Should we tell my obgyn? 

    Has anyone else had children with being related? 

    Please, I would really love anyone's feedback. 

    Thank you.

    According to Forbidden Relatives (in our store), miscarriages among cousins were lower then the general population. They assume it's because the parent't blood chemistry is more similar. Not too little or to much. 

    Here is what I would do. Forget the doctors. Go see someone from the National Society of Genetic Counselors. They will look a little bit into your background and order the appropriate genetic tests. 

    If I had the money I would do that. In the end they can only give you a percentage. What threshold would change your mind about having kids? What about a 10 percent chance of having a baby with a birth defect. Would that change your mind? Some people (not cousins) may have a 50/50 chance. Now that is gut-wrenching agony.

    So maybe it's a waste of resources to see a counselor of genetics. It's like I told my doctor once that I was going to buy a blood pressure monitor. He asked why, "If your pressure is high, there isn't anything you can do about it." He saw everything bass-askwards, but there is some wisdom in that. 

    Maybe you should stop looking for cause and effect and just try again. 

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  3. 15 hours ago, clumsilycopious256 said:

    I am sorry to hear about your divorce, KC. If your cousin/wife has been a large source of negativity on your life, then it's a good thing that you are separating yourself from her.

    Surround yourself with good people that can help you become better and stronger! Also, seeing that you are a fellow, Christian, seek God as well! Ask Him in what direction He wants you to take.

    [Sorry I've had little sleep in 24 hours or so. Working! Deliriou5]

    It's really been a dark place spiritually. I've heard of other pastors talk about going into very bad places where it seems that God can't be found. I scoffed at the idea. Some have even turned to atheism! That's not my style, but yeah, it's been that black at times. God doesn't seem to be a source of anything at the moment. I could care less if the Earth careened into the Sun. 

    I'm bitter bitter is how I feel. But don't feel sorry for me. Every good man is tested like this. I think I am doing well enough and also I do not scoff so much anymore.

  4. Things are very different now that I am alone. When you are with somebody for over 20 years, you tend to think you always will be. 

    I am rolling with the punches. Getting the divorce papers ready (yep it's that time). I can't wait to get these served. I want this marriage to be over so bad. My wife was a talker, so it has taken some getting used to -- the quietness! I like people who can dominate a conversation because it distracts me from myself and my own thoughts. It give me a break in other words -- from a racing mind, worries and whatever else is going on upstairs. Only God knows for sure. :D

    After a year, I am just now beginning to feel the L word. Loneliness. It's a weird thing for a middle-aged man to experiences this for the first time in his life. It's not so bad. I am not going to cry about it like I am in a lonely hearts' group. It's a good trade to get rid of that hateful witch that I was married to.

    So I guess that sums it up pretty good. My life is in limbo and it is kinda miserable. 

  5. Serendipity, I see. I believe in the shock treatment sometimes. Knowing when to use it is the trick. 

    I remember seeing a counselor suggested by a judge (made me an offer I couldn't refuse). This counselor hit the roof! Red-faced crazy yet somewhat aloof and professional.


    Oh boy! I was so mad I can't remember if I cursed him our or not, but I probably did. The F-Bomb! 

    This was a huge turning point in my life and the guy may very well have saved my life. He had a way of driving a point across. Let's just say!

  6. 1 hour ago, Serendipity said:

    Gthings:  You are married? You ARE disappointing God.  Either get thee divorced or get thee away from your cousin.  

    We have no judgement for cousin love; we do for screwing around on your husband.

    Well well well. I can't say adultery is ever tenable on hardly any level. But there is certainly a right and wrong way to say things and to communicate. Are you sure she needs the shock treatment, Serendipity?

    FWI- I would like to see her back with her husband as well. Actually the "shock treatment" is probably the best way to go here. Yo! Keep that thang zipped tight until you get a proper separation / divorce.  Why do women sabatash their marriages? And how do  to you resist his irresistible charm? Pretend you are a lady and stay the hell away from him. (Yeah, right?) Not only does adultery disappoint God, it causes people to go to an eternal pit of fire unless they repent. 

    I'm not here to judge, on the last day there will be lots of mercy and grace, but also judgement. It only looks like people are getting by with all of the evils that we see and hear about. I want to see you in heaven. All the best to you my friend. Pray!

  7. A few times a year I do this. Let me know if you like any of these song please. I usually just run across them on YouTube. Let me know if you hate these and I will stop posting them! And you can do the same. . . just use newish music that the masses have missed. Anyone know any of these groups? All new to me. Big Head Ted has me hooked.



    This group has lots of great songs. (But I don't agree with the lyrics). My gal is never coming home. 




    Where did this guy come from?



    Alabama Shakes




    Black Stone Cherry




    So Well


    This is cousin couples, right? Well here is what ya bee waiting for:




    I think they clipped this guy at an early age. Wow, he has such a beautiful head voice (high voice).


    Let's end on a positive note!


    Almost forgot about the "Golden Boy." This guy's sister just got kicked off the show and called a "lounge singer!" The pressure cooker!


    Last one!  Try not to get broken up a little bit.


  8. Thanks for supporting or at least suffering our newest sponsor, Grammarly. They paid me a few nickles for writing that . . . actually they were quite generous. I will leave the link up for some time and see if is profitable. So you are welcome to try them out. Their free package is very generous. It's the first plugin I install in a new browser. 

    It's great to find a sponsor like that. 3/4 of the merchants deny cousincouples.com application to become an affiliate because of their "standards." What year is it again? 

  9. Not long ago, we had a poll on this site as to which browser plugins were essential. Grammarly made the top 1 or 2. I wasn't surprised. Even if you are a great writer, you may not be a great typist -- like me! Without Grammarly, I would look like a fool. Even if I am most careful, my English is littered with errors (before a good proofread). The Grammarly software is a lifesaver and there is nothing on the market like it because I have checked and double-checked. Most of you know me as a frugal guy. It's out of necessity.

    The Pros of Grammarly:
    One has their 7th-grade school teacher standing over their shoulder checking every word. Your college professor will observe your writings from time to time. I have six years in college and I would have never turned in a paper without first running it through Grammarly. Novice and expert writers alike need a second pair of eyes. From the time I started writing this report, I have corrected at least ten typos.

    The Cons of Grammarly:
    Grammarly Premium is $29.95 per month! I guess some college students can afford that, like the ones who paid millions in the infamous "College admissions scheme." If paid annually for the premium plan, the price drops to only  $11.66 /mo. That is not a bad deal!  Quarterly pricing is only $19.98/mo. That's it. That's all that I have against Grammarly. Except . . .
    Now and again, the JavaScript engine will get out of whack and underline the wrong misplaced/misspelled words. That can be frustrating but it doesn't happen often and certainly is no deal-breaker to me.

    I guess I do not have to say that I am a huge fan of Grammarly. I'm gushing like schoolgirls at their first Beatles concert. I do wish they had a reasonable monthly plan for us students and ex-students who can consider it a good day when we have gas money. According to Grammarly Premium, I have 9 (hidden) errors/warnings on this post. Since I am not writing for the WSJ or NYT, I think I can get by with that. Grammarly helped me make A's & B's in all of my essays in college. What is that worth? I really should not complain about the price at all. In fact, if it were not for my high marks in writing, I would not have a college degree. I still wonder where they came up with the questions for the quizzes -- from somewhere over the moon.

    The bottom line is that if you do a lot of writing, Grammarly is essential, especially for college students, academic writers, and anyone who wants their writing to look professional! It even has an excellent add on for MS Word. 



  10. I am wanting a product that is only sold in Canada because of politics. https://www.zpharm.ca/  Cravv is what I am looking for to help me stop smoking. I think I would do better on it than the antidepressants they have in the USA (Zyban, Chantex ...) 

    But the mean 'ol Canadians will not ship them to Americans. What I want to do is paypal someone enough to cover the cost and shipping to me. And you may very well save my life. The cigarettes are literally killing me. I'm going in the morning for an xray, shot of steroids and possibly my 4th round of antibiotics. 

    Smok 'em if ya got 'em,  I guess.

    Oh and these pills are not scheduled so there isn't shit the feds could do except possibility confiscate them. 

  11. Our store has ONE new copy of the paperback, Forbidden Relatives. It is getting expensive! Even some used copies are selling more than new/originals! That is a weird market.

    I will be leaving for a few weeks or months or years. I have put the book on sale so I do not have to carry it around with me. It's now only $20 with a two-year (additional?) membership. So shucks, go buy it. It is the cousin cousin bible. You know you want it.


    I can't get you a discount on the store products, but students and newlyweds (less than a year) get memberships for 1/2 price (today is just $2.50). Just explain this fact to: [email protected] Please sign up first and give me your username and use the same email that you registered with. 

  12. Well you always said you were a Christian and this proves. God doesn't let us get by with everything; Hebrews 12:6-11 was a paraphrase of a verse in Proverbs. With my  bigmouth and my bad attitude, it's happened to me. I know it's hard to believe.


    I was once invited to a "revival" where it looked like anything but revival was going on. Some guy walks up to the mic with a ball shirt, jeans and a cap. I said to myself, "Why is this clown?" 

    He was just the preacher.

    The lead singer of the "band" was sick to the preacher filled in and screamed the words -- it was some sort of hard-rock genre and it was awful. I let them have it. I let them have it with both barrels.  I think my reaction wasn't too far off base actually, but my attitude was from hell. I fancied myself as a quasi-liberal, [kinda] inclusive, open-minded Christian. I kept nudging my wife asking her if she was ready to go. Now I was getting angry because she wouldn't leave.

    Before I left, I begin to hear God speak to me, "Who are you KC?" (God doesn't really call me KC! :D) It was a play from the book of Job (Who are you..) My heart broke because I knew there was something terribly wrong with my heart. God held up a mirror in front of my face and I didn't know the man looking back. Why was this self righteous jack-arse gawking at me?

    I guess in a way, revival did come that night. I do remember fighting-back tears all the way back home. It is my intention to change that man I saw in the mirror as much as I can. I never want to hear those words again, "And who are you KC?" "Where were you when I put this group together?" "What makes your Christianity superior?" "Where were you when I had to hold this congregation together like glue?" "Where were you when I shed every drop of my blood so that they could be saved?" 

    The power is not in the answers, but the questions. 


    I like writing like this. I think I will make my blog more like this and less academic. God has done some pretty amazing things in my life and all I can figure out is that He done them so that I can share them with others. God bless!

    I am sooo sorry guys! I was in a rush while I as was posting and was saying things "stream of consciously" from the top of my head! ?? No proofread at all. I was careless and it's from my casual talk.

    Again, my apologies everybody. It won't happen again.


    Ps. LadyC, thanks for pointing that out though. I needed that. I didnt even remember I posted that slang this morning until you mentioned it. Then later tonight Im like, "Oops. Oh yeah. Right. That."

  13. I think that is fine and dandy to keep it from your mom. It's your life, InSearch4Truth. It kinda seems clear to me that you do not have the same feelings that he espouses for your. Don't feel guilty about that. You don't owe your cousin anything. 

    Having been married and now nearing-divorce, I wish I hadn't put my family through it. Hindsight affects me like that. Without it, I would do the same darn thing all over again, because, like I said to you, it's my life. One thing I have learned is that the people who end up  not supporting you are the same people who did not like you in the first place, nor would they ever like you lest you won Lotto. Cheap prostitutes! Who wants then anyway? Momma and daddy will always love their little girl. 

  14. Lev 18 was an unequivocal account of who one could marry, nothing more, nothing less. To understand it, you would have to start at the place where Moses and his people would have understood/interpreted it (exegesis). Only then can you begin to understand what it means for today (hermeneutics). 



  15. 4 hours ago, LadyC said:

    pooch, can you please clean your mouth out with soap, DUUUUDE? your f-bomb is anything but holy. as a former moderator of this site, you should appreciate the fact that bombs of any sort are not family-friendly language.

    Yeah Pooch be careful! Since you are doing translation work under the Admin title, you can bypass the word filters. Don't do that please. Only I can drop the F bomb cause I know Christie won't. Heh. 

  16. Nobody thought of cousins as "close kin" in those days. The OT stories are full of people who married a cousin, and Jacob even married two -- Rachel and Leah. While these marriages were pre-Leviticus, the Jews were known to have a first-cousin marriage preference. So, the cousin part is certainly not any kind of problem, it was business as usual. God even instructed Jacob to go find a mate(s) from his father's side of the family. If we don't believe that God had foreknowledge of how smitten Jacob would be with his cousin, when we do not understand the God of the Bible. Nothing takes God by surprise. 

    If we go back to the beginning, God is there. If we go to the end, God is already there waiting on us. He is omniscient  and omnipresent and other big words that I am forgetting. He is not limited by mere physics because it was He who wrote E=MC2, not the other way around.

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  17. Well if you don't do something soon, there will be nothing left to do. 

    I am separated from my cousin now. Yeah forever. BUT I LOVE stories like this. Maybe I am more of a romantic than I think!

    There is a theory called "Assortative  positive mating." It simply means that individuals typically seek out mates that are more similar to them rather then dissimilar. It makes sense. Cousins share all of these attributes that would attract a mate. So the fact that her boyfriend is a lot like you is no surprise at all. 

    At this point she is giving you mixed messages. She is testing you for sure. The question is not whether or not she likes you, the question is what are you gonna do about it.

    Frankly, if you have to ask the question, I suggest that you do nothing. Leave it alone. Sure she is cute and you have a connection, not to mention a shared history. But you both have mixed feelings and that, I believe, is a sign just to let it be. Let her marry her dumb-ass boyfriend. If you can do that, then you should leave it where it is at.

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