I’m deeply in love with my cousin but married in Help / Advice Posted May 18, 2019 · Report reply 18 years is a long time to throw away. What if you could get your husband off of drugs, would that make a difference? Maybe that is the direction you should be going? Of course we get these types of questions all the time. There is no hard-and-fast answer. Only questions like the ones I have posed to you. Ultimately you have to make the decision yourself. I am just here to help you make an informed decision with all of my rhetorical questions.