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  1. You are in a situation we have many coming here with. The fact of the matter is you are MARRIED. You did state that. AND you do nothing with the cousin. Regardless of the feelings you two have for each other, you need to cut all ties with him. No text, facebook, phone calls or any other form of communication, UNTIL you decide what you are going to do about the marriage. We do not just give you a pat on the back and say go for it with the cousin just because this is a site for cousin couples. You are essentially cheating on your husband, you said he is a good guy, but he doesn't deserve this. It isn't up to you to decide whether to rip the family apart or not. It is you husband's. You owe it to him to tell him what is going on with you and cousin and let him decide if he is interested in continuing the marriage. I am not throwing stones, nor am I judging you, Just giving you something to think about. I am sure LadyC will chime in on her thoughts too. I wish you the best in dealing with the situation, but truly believe you need to work on your marriage or tell your husband what is going on and let him decide.
  2. Mod approval

    Send KC a PM for approval (or not) of your request. He is the one to give permission
  3. Early stages of a possible relationship

    Hi and welcome to CC. You are developing the friendship with your cousin that we tout here as being the best thing to do! One can not have too many friends. I hope things go well for you and your cousin in the days to come.I One idea we give to judge where one might stand with their "object of affection" so to speak is use the line "if you weren't my cousin I would date you,,, or "You possess the qualities I look for in a date, mate..." You use the words that make you comfortable. If she gives the EWW factor, you have the out of telling her " I said IF..." Something along those lines may give you an insight to what she may be thinking or feeling. I look forward to hearing more of your story as it unfolds. Best wishes on your journey.
  4. Long Distance relationship with my cousin.. help!

    Charms don't necessarily have to do with looks!
  5. Long Distance relationship with my cousin.. help!

    Pooch, why do his looks have to have a bearing on how you comment. LOOKS are the last thing to consider, unless one is so shallow to think that is most important in a relationship.
  6. Long Distance relationship with my cousin.. help!

    Welcome to the site. First off you are not second cousins, but first cousins once removed. As opposed to Pooch, (no offense intended) I fail to see what his looks have to do with the relationship. But I do think he makes some valid observations otherwise. My personal opinion, and it is only mine, is there is just infatuation and maybe lust going on here. You neither one really KNOW the other, and four months is a very short time, being you are so far apart. Texting, talking etc. just doesn't make up for actually spending time in each others presence. I'm not saying that it isn't possible, but there are other considerations. If you want to proceed with cousin then it would be best to end it with boyfriend. You then start with a clean slate and it allows said boyfriend to have one also. If you and cousin really want to be together, there is always a way to work things out for being able to live in the same area. Otherwise, to me, this appears to be a FWB type of thing. OK, maybe I am wrong about the intentions of both sides, if I am, sorry I misunderstood. Best wishes as you work thorough this on your journey.
  7. Is my cousin attracted to me?

    Ok, this has me confused. Guess I am being a little slow this morning. Are one of you adopted? Please explain "not related by blood". Thank you.
  8. Unsure How to Proceed

    I agree with LadyC! Throw that line out and see if you get a bite!! LOL IF she has the eww factor, remind her you said IF! Good luck!
  9. How To Propose mY Cousin

    Yeah....what LadyC said!
  10. Things have gotten complicated

    OK I have read all of this thread and the part I want to address is Pickledpie said that her cousin cheated on his girlfriend many times. How would you deal with him cheating on you if you should end up together?? And the chances (or probability) of that is great. Otherwise I agree with LadyC and ColoradoMarried and their advice. Best wishes on your journey.
  11. We Started Talking Again

    With her being in a relationship, she may not want to be that close with you, even through texting. Her attention is probably focused on her present interest. Don't take it wrong, just be in there if she needs you. She knows how you feel/felt and may not want to unintentionally lead you to think there may be more in store for a relationship with you. She may never be in the place that she feels she could return any romantic feelings. Are you prepared for the event that you may never be that close again? Best wishes on your journey.
  12. Merry Christmas happy holidays

    Merry Christmas Boss and Mrs. Boss!! Best wishes for a Very Happy and Prosperous New Year!!
  13. If you are indeed second cousins 1R, no worry. marriage between second cousins is legal in Texas. And about anywhere in the world that is known of on this site. If you are uncertain about doing that you might want to contact a family law attorney for clarification and peace of mind either way. Most attorneys will give a consultation at no charge. Best wishes on your journey.
  14. How would a state know you're related anyway?

    In some states the question of being related comes up either on or when obtaining the marriage license.
  15. No legal advice is given on this site. That being said the best advice would be to find an attorney that would be willing to discuss these issues with you, like a tax attorney or maybe a family law attorney. Since cousin marriage is illegal in the state, I would be inclined to think that some of the issues you mention would not be possible. But I am NOT a lawyer. Best wishes on your journey.