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Romalee

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  1. Romalee

    Legal laws

    You can find the state laws under the info tab at the top of the page. However, since laws can change and we aren't always aware of those changes, please contact an attorney for any further clarification or questions. We do not give any legal advice on the site.
  2. Pri this post is over a year old. No further posts were made. I'm sure this poster is no longer here and won't see your reply.
  3. Hubby and I, second cousins, are very happy. Married over15 years, retired for over 4, and having a great time traveling wherever we want in our RV! Life is good!
  4. Anonymous34 this post is over 6 years old. I am sure the OP is long gone and will not see your reply. Please check dates of posts before reviving OLD posts. Thank you.
  5. Serendipity, I have been guilty of this as well. So now I usually look at the date first before commenting on some of the posts. Seems that a lot of the newbies read all the old posts and revive OLD ones because they "speak" to them, not realizing that many of the OPs are LONG gone by the time they read the posts. I try to lock the old ones so no more can be added to them.
  6. Pooch do you realize this post is almost a year old??
  7. The thought has been planted in her mind. If you were to keep trying to get her to see you as a couple could backfire on you. Let it be, no pressure on her, no mention of it, and just be her friend, If she should begin to see you in the way you want, she will let you know. It might be by actions or maybe by words, but you will know. BUT you must also be prepared to accept that she may never see you in the same way. When she next visits, play it cool, just be a friend and enjoy the visit with no other expectations.
  8. Advice would be sort of dependent on your ages. But if you see each other often, are around each other and know each other pretty well, if the situation arises you could always use the line " if you weren't my cousin I would date you" or "you possess the qualities I look for in a girlfriend." If she gives you the EWW factor or shows shock or disinterest, you always have the out of telling her " I said IF" Gives you an out, lets you know if there is any interest, and/ or plants the seed of possibilities with her. Don't mention it again, let her take the lead on this after you have told her. Whatever you do, DON'T declare your love for her----- yet anyway!! Build a solid friendship, one a potential relationship could be built on. Best wishes.
  9. Kamalime, this post if over ONE year old. This person is no longer around to see your answer.
  10. She's MARRIED, makes no difference how "toxic" you think it is. You do NOTHING except back away. Doesn't matter if it is consensual. She is not in a place to be giving consent for such activity, and if you respect her at all you are not in a place to ask her to.
  11. I have to agree with Nat. Clean up the post, remove the graphic details. and move on. This site is visited by persons of all ages and not a place for porn. She is married and totally out of your range.
  12. I understand your wanting a "sort of" time line for her to make a decision. I also understand you not wanting to be left in waiting mode indefinitely. HOWEVER, my cousin and I met when I was 13 and he was 15. To make a long story short, it was 38 years before we got together. Both married others, more than once, had families and even our families visited each other once. We kept up with each other through our parents for years. It wasn't until we were both single in our 50's that we reconnected and the rest is history. I know that sounds like forever and who knows if it would even happen for you, but our expectations of timelines are not always what happens. Best wishes on your journey.
  13. The military will never know or will they ask. There are no laws (USA) that we are aware of that would prohibit 3rd cousin marriage. The only people that will know are the ones you choose to tell. It is your business. Married to my second cousin for 15 years now. He is retired military.
  14. The closest relationship is what is considered. They are brother and sister. If I read your post right. I am sure some families want to try to figure out all the "extended" relationships. Theirs is as siblings.
  15. He's a troll. Been deleting his posts, nothing is original except for some weird website he is pushing.
  16. If you are wanting more than a friendship with her, that should be out of the question, you are both married and that means hands off for both of you.. There is no need to tell her of your feelings because of the afore mentioned reason.
  17. I would suggest keeping your hand out of her shirt, at least until you know how she feels about you. Treat her like the precious person she is and cool it with the hands.
  18. Just a disclaimer, We do not give any legal advice on this site. Best advice is to contact a lawyer if you think you are in need of legal advice.
  19. What is it with you guys that just want to have sex with your cousin!!!! Do you not think enough of these young ladies to either have a REAL relationship with them and treat them as they should be treated or are you just STUPID enough to think that they think you are the BEST thing in the world to come their way??????? Honestly I may be old, but if I were either of your cousins I would kick you to the curb, and be HIGHLY insulted that you think so lowly of me! Maybe it is time to mature in your thinking, it isn't all about you.
  20. If you really want to get over your feelings for your cousin then refrain from doing any of the above mentioned activities!! Neither of which will give you what you seek. Using your cousin to "relieve" your pent up feelings is bad and selfish. If you wish to have a real relationship with her then pursue her honorably and in the same way you would another woman you were interested in.
  21. Romalee

    Confused

    Regardless of what her reasons are. rational or not, she has spoken that she doesn't want to be in this relationship. You need to honor her wishes. You can tell her about this site and the information, however it is up to her if she wishes to check it out or not. Then you have to back away and let things fall where they may. Don't pressure her, as that is a sure way to push her further away. Best wishes.
  22. Serendipity and Ambra are both correct, the secrecy will get old really quick! I suspect that the family will figure it out quickly, probably before the secrecy gets old! You can go ahead and implement your plan and move in together but don't be surprised of what comes after. Love can't be hidden, especially in the eyes!!! Best wishes.
  23. Romalee

    Taboo

    We are second cousins, married 15 years. No problems with family, except for a few comments in fun. We just don't announce it to the world. It isn't any of business of others unless we want them to know. I'm not sure what you are struggling with, but if you have been married that long, something must be working. Did your families have any problem with your relationship? Personally speaking, you may be borrowing trouble where there is none. Because the Utah couple chose to be so public, doesn't mean you have too. Of course many of those cruel/mean comments that are made toward them are behind the anonymity of the internet and very well might not be so cruel/mean in a face to face situation. Also most of them are not aware of the state laws and biblical recognition of cousin couple relationships. They speak from ignorance of the correct information. Don't let the negativity integrate into your relationship. At the end of the day they get no say in your life. Best wishes as you work through our struggles.
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