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  1. Romalee

    What do you guys do to have fun

    Ken, you won't regret it! My sister lives in OKC.
  2. Romalee

    What do you guys do to have fun

    We travel with our 5th wheel trailer. Visit places, family and friends on the way to where ever. Have been in Missouri for about 3 weeks. Visited the Clydesdale horse ranch, the WW1 memorial and museum in Kansas City and several other historical places in the area where we are. Heading back to Texas in a couple of days and will be at a lake for some r&r and some fishing!!
  3. If this situation is keeping you from moving on with your life, then I think it is definitely time to let it go. If I remember correctly, I think you mentioned he had a girlfriend in another post. Maybe that is where all his attention is now. Bottom line is if he is interested in opening the lines of communication back up, he will. That you are not hearing from him speaks volumes. If he is indeed visiting the site, he knows how you feel. If it were me, I would move on. Best wishes on your journey.
  4. Hi Peaches! I have been without a good wifi for a bit and am just now catching up. I am so glad to hear of your decision. I know it won't be easy but you are aware of that also. As LadyC said please keep us updated and if you need a ear to listen, we are here. Best wishes to you.
  5. With so little information it is hard to tell anything. Info needed for better advice; what are your ages, do you see each other frequently, etc. Depending on some of this missing info, she could just be an outgoing person and that is her way of texting. There may not be any other meaning to it. You sound as if you both might be young. In reality there is nothing illegal or biblically or medically to keep second cousins from having a relationship. I am married to my second cousin. Give us a little more information and more advice may be forthcoming.
  6. "Be a jerk to her" Come on Pooch do you really think advising some one to be a jerk is really good advice? I would hate to think if that was my cousin looking for advice I would have to wonder or worry that some stranger on a website was telling him to treat me bad and act like a jerk. Just because there have been people in her past that acted that way is no reason the OP should do it. Maybe , just maybe, by being himself and "non- jerky" he will still have a chance with her. And I hope that for goodness sake his plan isn't just to get her "between the sheets".
  7. Romalee

    Happy birthday to us all!!

    Happy Birthday!! I have been a member 15 of those years!!
  8. You are in a situation we have many coming here with. The fact of the matter is you are MARRIED. You did state that. AND you do nothing with the cousin. Regardless of the feelings you two have for each other, you need to cut all ties with him. No text, facebook, phone calls or any other form of communication, UNTIL you decide what you are going to do about the marriage. We do not just give you a pat on the back and say go for it with the cousin just because this is a site for cousin couples. You are essentially cheating on your husband, you said he is a good guy, but he doesn't deserve this. It isn't up to you to decide whether to rip the family apart or not. It is you husband's. You owe it to him to tell him what is going on with you and cousin and let him decide if he is interested in continuing the marriage. I am not throwing stones, nor am I judging you, Just giving you something to think about. I am sure LadyC will chime in on her thoughts too. I wish you the best in dealing with the situation, but truly believe you need to work on your marriage or tell your husband what is going on and let him decide.
  9. Romalee

    Mod approval

    Send KC a PM for approval (or not) of your request. He is the one to give permission
  10. Romalee

    Early stages of a possible relationship

    Hi and welcome to CC. You are developing the friendship with your cousin that we tout here as being the best thing to do! One can not have too many friends. I hope things go well for you and your cousin in the days to come.I One idea we give to judge where one might stand with their "object of affection" so to speak is use the line "if you weren't my cousin I would date you,,, or "You possess the qualities I look for in a date, mate..." You use the words that make you comfortable. If she gives the EWW factor, you have the out of telling her " I said IF..." Something along those lines may give you an insight to what she may be thinking or feeling. I look forward to hearing more of your story as it unfolds. Best wishes on your journey.
  11. Romalee

    Long Distance relationship with my cousin.. help!

    Charms don't necessarily have to do with looks!
  12. Romalee

    Long Distance relationship with my cousin.. help!

    Pooch, why do his looks have to have a bearing on how you comment. LOOKS are the last thing to consider, unless one is so shallow to think that is most important in a relationship.
  13. Romalee

    Long Distance relationship with my cousin.. help!

    Welcome to the site. First off you are not second cousins, but first cousins once removed. As opposed to Pooch, (no offense intended) I fail to see what his looks have to do with the relationship. But I do think he makes some valid observations otherwise. My personal opinion, and it is only mine, is there is just infatuation and maybe lust going on here. You neither one really KNOW the other, and four months is a very short time, being you are so far apart. Texting, talking etc. just doesn't make up for actually spending time in each others presence. I'm not saying that it isn't possible, but there are other considerations. If you want to proceed with cousin then it would be best to end it with boyfriend. You then start with a clean slate and it allows said boyfriend to have one also. If you and cousin really want to be together, there is always a way to work things out for being able to live in the same area. Otherwise, to me, this appears to be a FWB type of thing. OK, maybe I am wrong about the intentions of both sides, if I am, sorry I misunderstood. Best wishes as you work thorough this on your journey.
  14. Romalee

    Is my cousin attracted to me?

    Ok, this has me confused. Guess I am being a little slow this morning. Are one of you adopted? Please explain "not related by blood". Thank you.
  15. Romalee

    Unsure How to Proceed

    I agree with LadyC! Throw that line out and see if you get a bite!! LOL IF she has the eww factor, remind her you said IF! Good luck!
  16. Romalee

    How To Propose mY Cousin

    Yeah....what LadyC said!
  17. Romalee

    Things have gotten complicated

    OK I have read all of this thread and the part I want to address is Pickledpie said that her cousin cheated on his girlfriend many times. How would you deal with him cheating on you if you should end up together?? And the chances (or probability) of that is great. Otherwise I agree with LadyC and ColoradoMarried and their advice. Best wishes on your journey.
  18. Romalee

    We Started Talking Again

    With her being in a relationship, she may not want to be that close with you, even through texting. Her attention is probably focused on her present interest. Don't take it wrong, just be in there if she needs you. She knows how you feel/felt and may not want to unintentionally lead you to think there may be more in store for a relationship with you. She may never be in the place that she feels she could return any romantic feelings. Are you prepared for the event that you may never be that close again? Best wishes on your journey.
  19. Romalee

    Merry Christmas happy holidays

    Merry Christmas Boss and Mrs. Boss!! Best wishes for a Very Happy and Prosperous New Year!!
  20. If you are indeed second cousins 1R, no worry. marriage between second cousins is legal in Texas. And about anywhere in the world that is known of on this site. If you are uncertain about doing that you might want to contact a family law attorney for clarification and peace of mind either way. Most attorneys will give a consultation at no charge. Best wishes on your journey.
  21. Romalee

    How would a state know you're related anyway?

    In some states the question of being related comes up either on or when obtaining the marriage license.
  22. No legal advice is given on this site. That being said the best advice would be to find an attorney that would be willing to discuss these issues with you, like a tax attorney or maybe a family law attorney. Since cousin marriage is illegal in the state, I would be inclined to think that some of the issues you mention would not be possible. But I am NOT a lawyer. Best wishes on your journey.
  23. Romalee

    Fancy My Cousin

    I'm not aware of where you are from, but you are 18 and she is 15, and she is considered a minor and you an adult. At least in the US. MIght think about that before you "try" anything. If she does indeed think it is weird then you might be setting yourself up for a bad time. She may have just been " in the moment" at the bonfire and her actions don't mean anything other than she felt comfortable with you and nothing more. I do think you are trying to read more into this than may indeed be there.
  24. For starters please go back and edit your post with more punctuation and paragraphs. Us old folks here have a really hard time reading. Second of all you can leave off the graphic details, we can get the drift without them. You may get more and useful advice if you will do the above. I was unable to do more than scan this.. thanks
  25. Romalee

    been a while....

    Hi Jessie! good to see you stop by. Stay safe with the impending weather in your area. God bless you too.