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  1. Ambra_Flows

    I need advice :/ help

    It's good that you're cousin-love has support. If you go be with him where he is, you can use that support too. The reality is, that cousin-love is more difficult than non-cousin love, and you just have to find ways to cope with that. If I were you, I wouldn't be telling anyone who doesn't need to know about your cousin-love. Remember, it's your life, so don't let others tell you how to live it. Read this forum for tips on how to cope with other people regarding your cousin-romance. Best of luck. Ambra
  2. Ambra_Flows

    Need advice..I know yall get this alot.

    Since he's married, you two need to leave it alone. You will only end up getting hurt.
  3. Ambra_Flows

    At my wits end

    Jep, You didn't mention whether or not you previously had a romance with her? From what you've written, it sounds like you've not. Correct me if I'm wrong. It sounds like she's found out that you like her, but she's weirded out about it. Sometimes the cousins involved in a romance are weirded out and try to avoid the relationship. She is certainly doing her best to avoid you anyways. You also never mentioned your ethnic background. Perhaps her family has let her know they are against the cousin-romance, and she's weirded out about it, and so she's avoiding you. If you can never talk to her about what's going on, there's not much you can do about her behaviour. Take Care, Ambra
  4. My Dad broke my cousin-love and I up, decades ago. As much as I was in-love with my cousin, I couldn't believe that he was in-love with me, and I was terrified of his rejection, so I never said anything to him after my Dad broke us up. Seven years later I married someone else, but my cousin-love was never out of my heart. My family and my cousin's family acted like they were in the right, and I had no say in it. I grew up psychologically and emotionally abused and was use to not having a voice in my family about much of anything, so speaking up didn't seem like an option. Not being able to speak about my feelings for my cousin with my family or anyone else though, was difficult, and finding this site in 2004 meant I could finally start speaking of my cousin-romance. Seven years after my Dad broke us up, and 3 months after my wedding, my cousin-love died of cancer. I've lived 34 years now without him. It never occurred to me to blame my Dad or my family for splitting us up, because I know they were just doing what they thought was right. I did not have the emotional/psychological strength to fight back anyways, and I never did. My cousin-love never fought back either in the 7 years before he died. But there is hope. I hope to be with my cousin-love once I die, and I've had many supernatural experiences with him since he died 34 ago. I've realized that whether you marry your cousin-love or not, you always have to deal with the fact that you are cousins, in a society that is against cousin-marriage. It can make any cousin-marriage difficult. Just a few thoughts on the matter ... sorry for your difficulties cadbury Take Care Ambra
  5. Ambra_Flows

    1st cousins

    Your post is confusing. It's a crime to have sex with your cousin where exactly?
  6. Ambra_Flows

    Desperate!!!Please help!!

    Huggs Kallia, things will be okay, and we're always here for you
  7. Ambra_Flows

    Very long distance cousin

    Perhaps she is just using you for foot massages ... or to make her husband jealous, or both ... Beware !
  8. Ambra_Flows

    Desperate!!!Please help!!

    Check out the information at the top of the forums, some of which addresses how to talk to family about your cousin-romance. Also read as much as you can on this website, which hopefully give you some insight on how to deal with your family about this issue. If your Dad does know about your cousin-romance, it hasn't killed him so far, so you may be able to get thru to him. Also scroll down on your post to see posts similar to yours. Take Care, Ambra
  9. Ambra_Flows

    Advice Needed

    Please read as much as you can on this website, that should help you decide how to proceed.
  10. Ambra_Flows

    Tell me your thoughts on this

    So true. Please read as much as you can on this website, which contains advice on how to proceed as you go thru your cousin-romance Take Care Ambra
  11. Ambra_Flows

    Long distance second cousin

    Proceed following your own heart and intuition. As far as family goes, if you decide to pursue her, it would probably help if you got your family to speak to her family. You didn't mention your ethnic background, is it one that favours cousin-marriages? She's 18 and you're 20, so there's time to relax, grow up more, give it time and figure out whether you want to pursue her or not. There is no rush, you both have your complete lives ahead of you. Take Care Ambra
  12. Ambra_Flows

    Can’t get over him, he betrayed me.

    Dear Anna ricci, Wow, you've been through a lot with your cousin. It sounds to me like he's a womanizer and a cheater, just from what you've written. Heart break like that is hard. Maybe he does love you, but maybe he loves access to other women more. Maybe he's just not ready to settle down to one woman, and maybe he never will be. You two will always be cousins, but I suggest you make an effort to cut him out of your life as much as possible. My life experience has shown me that one makes a choice to fall in love, albeit a subconscious choice. You need to perhaps, look inside yourself, and see if you can figure out what made you fall in love with him, and then decide that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, and hopefully, that will help you to fall out of love with him, and forget him. I am so sorry for your heart break. I've had bad heart break and I know how tough it can be. Take Care, Ambra
  13. Ambra_Flows

    My paranoia is ruining me. I love my cousin

    Hi Harambe, How old are you and your cousin? Your post makes you sound rather young. You're early teens I would guess? If you are in your early teens, you two have years to figure out if you want a relationship, or not. Read everything on this board, and then you will see the difficulties that can arise in a cousin-romance. Take Care, Ambra
  14. Ambra_Flows

    What direction should our relationship take

    Hi AlmostaCouple, I do NOT think that you should break the relationship. I think it would break her heart, and your heart. You want to keep the relationship relaxed and loose, if at all possible. That doesn't mean things won't get difficult at times, but that is better than breaking her heart. It sounds like you and your cousin love each other, or have a strong attraction for one another. And you have to try and think of the big picture in life with her. If you break her heart now, that may very well be something you cannot take back, especially down the road in 5 years when you still find yourself wanting to be with her. Keep things loose. If one of you wanders away from one another and dates someone else for awhile, realize that you're both still so young, and you're both exploring life still. However, that does not mean that in 5 years you won't still love your cousin. You and your cousin and probably friends now too, and you also have the cousin relationship, and that cousin relationship will never go away, no matter what you and her do in the future. As for her insecurities, all you can do is prove your love and your character by being there for her, as much as you can. Life has bumps, but always leave the door open, because down the road, you two might find the right time to build a stronger, more permanent relationship. You might also find that you can do the long-distance romance thing pretty well, and that will sustain the two of you for the most part. You need to take this one step at a time, keeping the big picture in mind. Because a love like yours, as it appears to be to me, will not go away in the years to come most likely. We have stories of cousin-couples on this board who marry a non-cousin, but then years later, find themselves wanting to get back together with that cousin-love often from those teen years, as with you two. Listen to your hearts, and do the best you can. Take Care Ambra
  15. Ambra_Flows

    My Second Cousin And Only Best Friend.

    Perhaps seek counselling Zachary, to help you sort thru all of this. Also read the website and things posted at the top of forums, which will give you advice on how to cope. If you and your cousin want to marry, you can make it happen, it's not impossible. There are people on here that have been married to their cousins for years. Take Care and God Bless
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