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  1. Great story ! We need those around here, lol. Best of luck in everything !
  2. Read information on this website about how to deal with relatives about your cousin-marriage, and see if that helps. There are items posted at the top of some of the forums that you might find useful, as well as other places on the website. Good luck.
  3. Second cousins are not genetically related anymore. You can marry and have children without any worries. There are no laws in the U.S. preventing 2nd cousins from marrying. Read the information about cousin-marriage on this website and share it with him. Good luck Ambra
  4. Speak to your doctor about your pregnancy and see what he warns could be any problems with the pregnancy. Also, read this website, looking for information about having babies with cousins and that should help, and share it with your cuz. Many people have babies with their cousin and don't have any problems. God Bless, Ambra
  5. Learn the cousin-marriage facts as on this website, and show them to him. Tell him that God is okay with cousin-marriage, as noted in the Book of Leviticus. Huggsss to you, I know it's hard. Hang in there. Ambra
  6. Prayer provided Welderjoe. Take Care of yourself.
  7. If you're using a nick name, you shouldn't need to worry about your friends. Most people here want to talk on the forum. Post a specific question, and see if you get an answer.
  8. I think that makes you 2nd cousins. If I remember correctly, 2nd cousins are not biologically related. You would need to find out if you can marry where you live. If your family and culture are against it, that can be difficult to overcome. You might want to read more on that topic on this board. If there is a will, there is a way.
  9. Ask a family member that you can trust, who is familiar with the situation of your cousin not being related, and ask that person what you should do.
  10. Rob780, It sounds like she's still being controlled by her ex-boyfriend. She needs to completely let go of him, and perhaps get counselling on understanding abuse and what she can do to get rid of it. A women's shelter's outreach program would be good for that. She seems overly-worried about the 3rd cousin thing, so perhaps she has a strong desire to people-please. In the end, she has to decide if her life will be better with you, or without you. She has to decide whose in charge of her life, her ex-, her fears, or herself. But pressuring her into these decisions will probably just make things worse. If she will get counselling, that will help. Ambra
  11. Ambra_Flows

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    Dear Quentin, I empathize with your situation. I know some sociopaths. They don't change. I suggest reading books, and articles about sociopaths, to help you recognize the traits you see in your cousin. If your going to get back together with her romantically, you need to drop some of the typical romantic expectations that we place on our lovers. You need to accept her behaviours, and be willing to tolerate her. You need to accept her as she is. So you need to gauge how bad are her behaviors? What is the worse thing that can happen? Fortunately for me, the sociopaths that I know, I'm not romantically involved with, which makes it easier to accept them as they are, and try to handle them, or work around them. I have no personal needs that I want them to fulfill, which is usually the case in a romantic relationship. Things I've observed about myself and life as a result of all my relationships is that when we get married, or common-law, etc., we subconsciously place expectations on our spouse. We expect them to be smart, honest, trustworthy, and a helper to name some of the big ones. If you are financially dependent on that spouse, that can put you in a bad situation, if the person is not honest and trustworthy and dependable. So you do not want to depend on her for anything. You need to put together a Plan B for you if things don't work out. I've read that sociopaths and psychopaths can mellow out some as they get older. The main sociopath I deal with has mellowed out now that he's in his 70s somewhat. But he still does sociopathic behaviours on me, and I still have to deal with them, tolerate them, try to work around him, etc. It would be much harder if we were romantically involved. If you're trying to handle a sociopath, you can't usually tell them you're doing that, because they'll get defensive and argue, even when they're very wrong. You want to do things that will avoid them abusing you. And you need to stand up to them if they are abusing you. For example, sometimes my sociopath will start minimizing something he's done to me, and I tell him that he doesn't know how (whatever it was) effected me, and he has no right minimizing the pain he caused me. If you stand up to them, sometimes they'll back down on an abusive behaviour. There are things you can say and do to lessen their abusive words and actions towards you. Learn what abuse is exactly. I read books, but I never really learned a good definition for abuse until I went to a women's shelter years ago and took one of their outreach programs. Because a women's shelter is on the front lines of abuse, they don't mess around with flowery words. They get right to the point. What I learned from them about how abuse works, was much better than any books I had read on the subject. And you need to learn about how abuse works, because sociopaths abuse the people around them. If you know how abuse works, it will help you NOT make their abuse personal, so that it hurts you less in the long-run. And you need to have your own head on straight. If for example, you're suffering from abuse you've received earlier in your life, you will be more vulnerable to someone who abuses you. I can see by what you wrote, that you're still in a lot of emotional turmoil over your cousin-love. If you associate with her in any fashion, take things slowly, perhaps don't live with her right now. Be her friend, if you want to, but have some time away from her in order to keep your strength up. These are tips. There are no easy solutions to intense cousin-love or dealing with a sociopath. Keep in therapy if it's helping you. God Bless, Ambra
  12. LOL ... so more of the same ... so my response to you would be what I already said to you
  13. Reading your last post, it sounds to me like your condescending to us. We know all your points before you made them. Most of us have been here a long time. You got called out on your post and now your back-peddling. Don't come looking for help, when you don't actually want any. And there was nothing humorous about your title. Ambra
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