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  1. Ok ive been staying in the Philippines for about 1 month now and have one month left before i go back home to the states.While Ive been here i started to develop feelings for my cousin.While at first i just dismissed these feeling because she is my cousin.She has stayed in our condo(my mother has a condo here) for about almost 2 weeks out of the 1 month ive been here so far.So we have been in really close proximity to each other everyday,so that might be why i started 2 fall for her.But unlike any other girl Ive been with,it was just so easy to talk with her and i love being around her.We get along very great.When we are out shopping people think we are a couple based on the way we act.I have other cousins in the states that i have no feelings for whatsoever,but with her i look at her in a different light. Also this isn't the first time ive seen her,ive been to the philippines 2 other times for about 4months total about 10-12+ years ago so its been a while since we last seen each other. While she was here with me for 2 weeks she did give me a massage and cracked my back.But i really don't think much of this.We would watch movies together,soap operas(really popular in the philippines).But when we were watching a soap opera she said she likes older men because the star on the soap opera is like 32-34 (she is 24 and im 22).I asked her why and she said older is better,I joked and said then he will be a old man very fast while you are still be very young.She also said i was handsome a few times,apparently i look like a good looking actor here.Also during the 2 weeks she did go back home and bring her boyfriend and best friend for me and my mom to meet.I didn't even know she had boyfriend till he was here.He is 27 and has a pretty decent job here(which is very hard to have here),I still make more then him in the states like 4000% more.In the philippines you make very little money (my other cousin makes $7-8 a day,yes thats right $7-8 a day).Ive been trying to gather information about this guy to know more about him to see if i still have a chance with her.I found out that he took out a loan for about 3000-4000 pesos which is like almost a months pay to help her family out,since the philippines was hit by that typhoon a couple of months ago.Also for him to do that he must really care for her.Also being around this guy for like a day he seems like a good guy,a little taller than me,but im better looking and in better physical shape.Right now ive been trying to gather as much information on both them in order how to act.My mind is split since this guy has done so much for her,but i don't know how much she likes him.I know he must love her to give her that kind of money.They only see each other once a week.But they do text a lot.I just don't know if it is right for me to love her but i do. Then of course she left since my mother wanted her to go home,another province about 2 hours away.Since really she can't stay with us forever.She helps her mother and her other siblings.Her family is very poor,like many families in the philippines.After she left i just kept thinking about her more and more not in a sexual way,so its no lust this feeling i have for her.Every dream i have is about her.She is really the only thing on my mind most of the day.I know im in love with her.The second time in my life,but this is even a stronger feeling.But i do know this type of love is taboo in the philippines,even though i know the presidents son i think married his 2nd or third cousin.She is my first cousin my mother's sister's daughter so its a lot more taboo.I know i should wait and digest these feelings and see if i really do love her,but each day that she is away i only love her more.And every passing day it gets closer and closer till i have to go back home. She is coming back to stay with us for a little while in a few days,so ive been just thinking of ways on how to express my interest for her while doing it in a subtle way and not to out in the open.She texted me a couple of days ago before my amateur boxing bout(did i mention i boxed?)that if i won that i would have to buy her ice cream.I did win so i texted her:i guess i will have to buy you ice cream now.I joked and said i would buy her some cheap ice cream and she texted back that she wanted the more expensive brand and put a hehehe jokingly at the end.So thats one thing i have to look forward to. Sorry for the long post,just wanted to put my feelings down somewhere,since this kind of topic i can't really talk to my friends about.Honestly before i started having feelings for my cousin i would have thought anyone who loved their cousin was sick or weird.But then i happened to me.Also i will continue to update this thread with my progress with my cousin.All i can do right now is take every available angle and analyze how can we become even closer.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Some good news my cousin told her best friend about us.She is very supportive and it doesn't matter to her that shes with her cousin and has a baby with me.So thats good her bestfriend is on our side,the next step is getting out parents to know about us.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    She wants to keep it a secret.My other cousin her brother says the baby looks like me when i was younger.Actually 2 of my cousins say the baby has similar features like me.So i guess as the baby gets older he will look more and more like me.My mother has seen the baby also,but she hasn't said anything about it looking like me yet.Yeah they want to know who the father is,but she just tells them that i'm from Canada instead of the United states.She hasn't shown them a picture either.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Nope we haven't told yet,and i doubt we will.She doesn't ever want to tell now.Before the baby was born she was warming up to the idea of telling our family,but after the baby is born she doesn't want to tell now.I really just wanted to tell our family myself,but i feel i can't do it unless she agrees also.I don't want to force her. Here is an update on our anak
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    FAMOUS FILIPINO COUSIN COUPLES

    Actually our parents don't know,she doesn't want to tell anyone about us.Yeah we plan to get married but live away from everyone.I gotta finish up everything up here in the states and be ready to move to the philippines in the future(next year).We want a baby girl :-)
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    FAMOUS FILIPINO COUSIN COUPLES

    I'm not famous,but i'm in a relationship with my first cousin in the philippines.I'm half Filipino and Italian,i got my citizenship there last year.We have a 6month old baby boy together :-).She is 26 now gonna be 27 later this year,i'm currently 24.We are planning to have more children when we get married :-).
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    No we haven't told yet,shes too scared to tell right now.She says everyone is going to hate her and the baby.I told her i really don't think anyone is going to hate us,sure get mad for a while or a long time.I think shes more thinking about having our own house far away from our family.We should be buying a house in a year or 2.We are talking about how we are going to do it,should it be in my name or her name.I have citizenship now,so i can own land and property.I will probably just put it in her name,since we can't get legally married and if something were to happen to me its better and easier for her if its in her name.I think a big reason for her is that our family will probably mostly be mad at her than me.The baby does look like me when i was a baby,my other cousin her sister even said we have the same face.This secret isn't going to last long,i know it will come out soon.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Ok here is one picture,its hard to upload pictures due to the slow uploading speed of my wireless connection.It was taken at the hospital in our room,after the baby was cleaned up.The baby looks more like me than the mother :-).
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    update,here in the philippines now.?Our baby is going to be a boy,should be anytime now when she is going to have the baby.Been living together for about 3 months so far,everything is good.Got the hospital picked out,so everything is ready,all we have to do is wait for our baby :-).
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Leaving this thursday so excited :smiley: .But not excited about leaving the airport at 11pm *edit its now thursday morning,just finishing up packing my things,about to head to the airport in 3 hours.Interesting fact i learned about 2 of her friends,one of her good friend's sister is married to her first cousin .She also has a friend who married her second cousin.Gonna be spending 5 months together with my first cousin starting this Saturday when we meet again.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Oh she is,she always eats lot of fruits and vegetables.For the name not sure yet,i want to find out first if its going to be a boy or girl.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Next week i'm leaving here to go to the philippines to spend 5 months with her :-).Our baby is expected to be born late july or early august :-) .
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    And i forgot to mention,since me and my cousin are first cousins we can't get marry legally in the Philippines,we can get married in a church if we get dispensation,which would allow us to marry.Its means more to me to get married at least under God which is higher than just some law that prevents me from getting legally married to my cousin. You two are second cousins so you two can actually get married under law and get all benefits if someday in the future you two want to get married.So if your family says you can't get married look at Mikey Arroyo(the President's son,for those who are not Filipino) he married his second cousin.Wish you all the best.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    i will keep updating this thread every now and then with new info about me and her and our baby.We are first cousins and we are having a baby.You two are second cousins,as long as you don't have a family history of illness i think you shouldn't worry about anything wrong happening to your baby.Same, me and her still disagree on the family knowing.I wish it wasn't like this in the philippines. I'm going to be there for 5 months,so we will be living together all that time.I know we will grow even closer than ever :-) . oo i'm really in love with her and i know how much we both love each other :-) . But even with this love it is still hard when we talk about our family.I hope she knows every secret comes out sooner or later.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Yes I'm truly dedicated to her,i know i will always be.Everything i do is to make her happy and give her a good life together.About the giving up part,i know i would always have feelings for her even if we didn't end up together,but i was prepared to just be friends,and still always be there for her.Me and her would have been very very close even if we didn't become a couple.We are like best-friends.She is a very important part of my life even if we didn't end up having a relationship.All i can do now is always try to make her happy and hope she is content with out relationship and our life together now.But now we are looking towards our first baby being born :-) Honestly i never thought any of this would even happen in the first place.Because cousin relationships in the Philippines is a big no no,and i was very sure even though she said she loved me in a way you should really love someone compared to her bf.I never thought she would choose me,i was expecting her to just choose her bf and not me.I was almost so sure she would choose him.I know a part of her wanted to choose him over me.I told her i can't offer her a easy life with me,we both know its going to be very very hard,also i'm not rich,the only thing i can offer her is that i will love her and only her.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Everything is going good still,we just talk on YM or txt and i call her using voip damn .20cents a min.We are planning a trip down to batangas by the beach for like a late honeymoon together :-) I really miss her so much especially now since i want to take care of when she is pregnant.And of course she misses me,but when i'm back in the philippines we will be living together.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    ^^shes not with her bf anymore,and really hasn't been with him for a very long time.They were bf and gf but they didn't really spend a lot of time together.We are Bf and Gf now,and i know its my baby, no question about it.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Another update. Its been a while since i posted in this thread,Ive been very busy with everything going on in my life now.My cousin and I are expecting now.Our baby is due this august.Also CM you were right the second time she did become pregnant. I'm here back in the states now,I'm working sending money also back to her.We are always txting on ym while I'm away.I'm going back in late April or may before the baby is due.Its the soonest i can go back.I'm very excited to see our baby soon,also want to go back as soon as i can to take care of her.But she understands also that i have to stay here and work for us.So thats what is going on in my life now.Its very hard and taxing on my mind and body,with all the thinking i'm doing about the future.We haven't told our parents or family yet.I know that they will be more accepting of us because we are going to have a baby now and choose to be together.But even still she has doubts if she wants to tell yet.She wants to keep it a secret first,since she says its going to hurt our family and they won't understand.So we are still talking about that.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Update again,we are waiting again till December 6,7, or 8 to see if my cousin misses her period or not.Many things keep happening for us,we both keep on having sex every time we see each other.But now i'm going to stop it since it seems its not going anywhere.And i don't want to just keep having sex for nothing.I thought for sure since it happened already one time that she would leave her boyfriend,and was almost certain after it happened so many times after.But it she is still with him,he is giving her space now since she told him that she is in love with another guy. He doesn't know the whole story and all that has happened so far between me and my cousin.Also i'm giving her space also and we are not seeing each other.We are just talking on the phone and txting now. Even all that has happened so far,she still considers staying with her boyfriend since a life with him is not complicated and its easier for both of us,and that our family won't be hurt by what we did.I told her that she can still choose to be with me even if its hard,and even if we don't have a baby.But right now she is saying if she is not pregnant that she will probably just stay with her boyfriend since she thinks its the best decision for both of us.So now just have to wait again to see what happens for us next month.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Things are getting more complicated.Her boyfriend just put a down payment on a house,so that makes me really worried because i think he might ask her to marry him soon.And i know even after what happened with us,its still easier to say no to me.She says easy for her mind to say yes to him but easy for her heart to say yes to me.And now we are waiting till next week to see if she is going to miss her period and if we are going to have a baby.But i know shes is in a very difficult situation,but she always tells me a life with him is just an ok life.She said she will feel not completely happy to be with him and that she doesn't see herself being with him for a long time,but that even if she doesn't love him that much that its still ok to marry and have children with him,because everyone will be happy and its still a ok life in her mind.She said with me that she will feel complete and very happy and have a once in a life time kind of love,but that it will be very hard.And now she doesn't know what she is going to say if her boyfriend asks her to marry him,i said do you just want to pretend everything that happened with me and you was just a dream?And after what happened that its still ok to say yes and keep such a big secret from him? So now we are just both waiting,having some much stress right now.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    BIG UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!! My cousin spent the last 2 days here.After her work i waited till she got off and then we took the bus home.We always act like boyfriend and girlfriend when we are together.And her friends know that me and her are close.Her Best friend knows that i like her even when i told her i don't.We always talk and txt.I'm always trying for us to spend lots of time together. Then the next day we spent the whole day together at home at the condo.Then my mother left to go to the the mall for a couple of hours.So it was just me and her there alone together.Then of course we just layed on the bed together in each others arms kissing and hugging for 20-30mins and also talking.Then one thing led to another we ended up making love.And now of course she is worried she might be pregnant,it happened 11-12 days after her period.I told her i love her so much,and we both say it happened because we love each other so much.And all i want is for us to be happy together,even if its going to be hard,i know i can do everything for her.And now we are both very close now.I told her its ok for us to be together,with everything thats happened so far. So now we are both just waiting till next month to find out if we are going to have a baby or not.So she is really worried,and can't stop thinking.Me i'm worried also,i'm worried if she doesn't or does have a baby.I have always been talking about her breaking up with her boyfriend.And after this happened i know she shouldn't be with him and she knows it also.We both love each other and feel complete happiness when we are together,so i see no reason now that we cannot be together.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Ok so now we meet like either once every week or every 2 weeks due to her job.We met last monday and did the usually boyfriend girlfriend stuff like going to the movies,we spent the whole day together like 12 hours.Everything is going pretty well between us,i know she is loving me more and more everytime we meet so thats good.And i know that i make her very happy and she knows she makes me so happy.Really if we were not cousins she would be with me already and have already left her boyfriend.But also i know if she does leave her boyfriend right now i might not be the best time due to maybe everyone might be looking at me as the suspect.Because most of her friends suspect its me,and not a guy from her past like she says.Her bestfriend already knows before i had a crush on my cousin.When she asked again if i like her i said no. Forgot to mention on the first day we met i gave her a rememberance ring with an engraving on it.It reads on the outside "Mahal na Mahal kita then her name" which means "i love you very much".On the inside the engraving is "forever in my heart then my initials".She wears this ring every where,all her friends and co-workers think she is getting married or something.Her boyfriend asked her who gave her this ring and she said it was her friend.But of course with an engraving like that he knows that the guy who gave that to her is more than just a friend.Also he suspects that she is doing something for a while now,she always hides her phone from him.He also said that she is cheating on him,she said no.She has already told him that she loves another guy,but he said that he doesn't give up easy. Also we always talk about serious things like about the future,US,having a family,babies,what will our babies look like,their names,ect I also tell her i don't like doing this because she has a boyfriend,and also that i feel i only have her 50% because she still has a boyfriend.but of course i'm still happy that we are doing the things we are doing together even if she still has a boyfriend.I hope she will break up at the right time,and choose me because we love each other.
  23. Hmm the best feeling i ever felt at that time.I kissed her on her cheek,and then she smiled and kinda laughed.I then said why? you want me to kiss you on your lips?She said it was ok to do that for 1 sec.1 sec turned in to like a couple of mins for our first kiss.After we just held each other for like 30mins.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Guess i jumped the gun a bit,we are not boyfriend in girlfriend yet.She is still with her boyfriend so i guess she is cheating on her boyfriend with me.Her boyfriend loves her very much,but he does know that she doesn't love him the way he loves her. I know she loves me a lot more than him,but shes been with him for more than 2 years and is scared to hurt him by breaking up,but i hope with more time she will have the courage to do it . I'll be in the philippines for 5 months i hope that is enough time. Me and her will be spending a lot of time together in the coming months after her work contract is done in 1.5 months. I just hope she can find strength in me,someone who is trying to do everything for her even if its so hard for us.Cousin relationships in the philippines are a big no no. I told her this is our life,we make our own choices,and that i'm not afraid to love her and be with her,and face our family to be with her.I said not many chances for us in our lifetime.And that i would never forgive myself if i didn't do everything for her to be with me.I'm a man and no one tells me how to live my life.I know what is right and wrong,and i know my feelings are not wrong no one can ever tell me different.
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    Cousin in the philippines,my story so far

    Update!!!!!!! We met again for the first time day in more than 8 months after many hours of talking and txting each other. We were both nervous to see each other again after a long time being away from each other and after many things that have been said.We i first saw her we just said the normal hi and good to see you again and took the elevator up to my room at the condo.I was so very nervous and i know she was also.While in the room we just acted normal front of my mother like we are just cousins and friends only.We ate and talked a bit then me and her left to go to one of the SM malls here in the Philippines. While in the elevator i said i wanted to stop on the 4th floor because i have something i wanted to say to her and do(my room is on the 5th floor). I just said its been a long time since we have seen each other and we hugged for 1min and i gave her a kiss on the cheek only.We both said we missed each other very much.Then we got on the trike and then on the bus to Sm.While there we walked around the mall together and bought snacks for the movie we watched(going the distance).While watching the movie we were holding hands,i put my arm around her,she also rested her head on my shoulder. After we ate at jollibee and we talked for about 1 hour or so.We talked about us,being together,i said my feelings to her and her to me,and many other things.Then went back home on the bus and the trike i was holding her hand and on the trike i put my arm around her and our bodies were very close. At the condo i said i have to stop on the 4th floor again because i have something i want to do and say.I said "I love you." for the first time in person to her and also "mahal kita" I love you in tagalog,she said the same thing back to me.I hugged her for a long time then we kissed for the first time,and we kissed again for a total of 5mins or so,then on the stairs we just held each other while sitting down i was behind her.We were just holding each other and kissing for about 30-40mins.Gave her a massage also.Its like we were already a couple and everything just normal for us.Nothing felt wrong at all.She said with me she feeling like what was missing from her boyfriend she finds in me.We both said we feel happy. Back at the room everything is normal of course in front of my mom,then she left and i told her to wait by the stairs again before she leaves because I want to do something again. So i just gave her a goodbye hug and we kissed again. She said she wants to take the chance with me.So now she is my girlfriend and we will just see what happens for us.I know my feelings for her and i know later on if she wants to be with more with me,i will do everything for her and i'm not scared to do it. Everything went well for our first day seeing each other again,we are boyfriend and girlfriend now.We hugged and kissed like we are not cousins.I know the future is uncertain still,but i know more has happened than i ever imagined ever happening with us.Right now i'm just so happy. Also our ages i'm 22 half-Filipino-half-Italian from the United States she is 24 and born and raised in the Philippines.She is my first cousin.
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