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  1. I dont believe you dont know where to start. If you are 16 or 18, probably. But at 28!? Come on man....so tell me, what is the real deal here? πŸ€” Pooch
  2. Hawk, you are such a legend. Lol! Pooch
  3. Thanks for the trust guys... *ahem* *ahem* *ahem* Pooch
  4. Pero kaya nga kayo nagka-inlove-an eh! 🀭 o diba? πŸ˜‰ so okay na yuuun!! What if postpone muna yung kasal ang antay aftwr 6 months? Pooch
  5. Kung yung lalake mas matanda ng 8 years feel ko ok lang eh -- kaya lang ikaw yung mas matanda ng 8 years eh. Dun ako mas unsure. Hanggat maaari. Pero the best time nga is now kung biology tatanungin mo. Hehe. Yung gastusin, di naman nawawala yan e. Steady yan e at nanjan naman talaga yan e kahit na ano pa gawin mo. Diba? So hindi gastusin ang punto ko. Mainly eh yung kahandaan ba niya na maging tatay ng mga magiging anak mo... alam mo yun? Not to sound crass pero ibang lebel ang stolen moments no? Kasi [email protected] ang hot no!? (Hahaha!) Hey dont get me wrong a kasi aaminin ko, suuuper hot. Mahal mo na, ng hot pa! There I said it. Now you dont need to reply sa paragraph na ito kasi ako na nagsabi for you. Hahaha. patago eh... πŸ˜… Now moving on...! Hahaha As to kung dapat bang magkaanak before 30s, isa pa nga pala yun kasi sa cousin marriages, bagamat okay lang naman kahit 28, 29, increased chance of risk ng 5-7%;lang naman. In other words, ang isang babae na nanganak ng 23 years old with her cous-bf ay kaparehas lang ng babae na nanganak ng siya'y 40 years old wirh her unrelated husband when it comes to risk sa birth defect...
  6. I think it depends on the state, right? Some states allow cousin marriages while some states dont. πŸ˜• are you in Cali? Pooch
  7. Got it. I believe you. If that's the case then dig the root of the issue... is his clan always this way!? What about to the other in-laws? Does your cous-bf has siblings? What about their spouses? πŸ€” Pooch
  8. Now on to some issues: Pag pinalabas niyo't nakalusot, tingin ko wala naman magiging problema. You dont share last name eh. Ang problema nga lang though is VOIDABLE ang marriage ninyo sa totoong buhay. Right from the start, hindi po inirerecognize ng family code of the philippines ang first cousin. Absoluto po yun ate. Sooo...the risk is up to you po. Honestly, hindi ko po alam ang pananaw ninyo (at ni cous-bf) mo tungkol sa kahalagahan ng kasal ano pero kung ako kasi kung ikakasal lang din naman ako eh gagawin ko na ng tama -- papakasal ako sa ibang bansa kasi involved ang ESTADO gobyerno, legalidad niyo eh. Iba ang BIGAT pag sinabi mong kasal ka... Pero since hindi pwede, feel ko naman eh nagaksaya lang kayo ng pera or ng effort ku g pinalabas ninyong 2nd or 3rd cousin kayo kasi FROM THE START pa lang eh VOIDABLE na ang marriage niyo. In other words, walang bisa po. The moment na magkabukingan, it is like AS IF hindi kayo kasal IN THE FIRST PLACE. Gets!? Ngayon eto, kung magsasama naman po kayo, bakit pa ninyo kailangang magpakasal!? Eh pwede naman kayong magsama kahit hindi ikinakasal? Edi live-in po. Diba? Why enter into marriage? Medyo gugulo po kasi buhay ninyo diyan ate... yun lang naman ang concern ko sa reply ko.. πŸ€” Pooch
  9. Curious ako: Pang ilan ka na niyang gf and pangilan mo na siyang bf? I know ba siguro marami-rami na rin eh, no? πŸ˜… Pooch
  10. Di sa nangdidiscourage ako ah...pero minsan kasi ate kelangang makinig sa instincts eh.. medyo maraming problema ang relasyong ito ate eh,... tingin mo? Of course!! There are times na I should keep my mouth shut pero sure ka ba dito ate? I know na you (both) want children. PERO kaya na ba ni cous-bf mo!? Kaya na ba niya talaga? Tanungin kita ah kasi so far ang dating saken eh hindi pa. Hindi lang financially kundi feel ko eh kahit emotionally na rin. Tsaka hindi lang yun, tingin ko eh ikaw rin mismo eh hindi pa handa... kasi hindi pa kayo established ng maayos. Although tingin ko eh nasa sa inyo naman parehas ito, lalot higit kasi almost 30 ka na rin eh, nawa'y palarin na kayo both..and makaestablish na rin siya sa work. Err... its not because di-umano mali eh kundi tingin niya eh medyo di DAW kayo match ni cous-bf kaya siya may hope na maghiwalay kayo. Gano katagal na ba kayo mag-jowa ate? I reallty really hope for the best na maging strong kayo. 😊 Gabayan nawa kayo ng Maykapal. Pooch
  11. Naku naku.... mahirap to te... Marami akong nakikini-kinitang sticking points right on the spot. 1. Mas matanda pala ikaw kesa sa kanya. 8 years? Tas 28 ka? Naku... which brings me to point (2). 2. Gusto niyo magkababy (pero ahem..ahem..wala pa siyang trabaho at freshly grad pa lang) 3. "Marriage is just a paper"? Naku naku...di naman sa ano ah, pero sure ka ba jan?! 4. May issue sa father mo at sa kany. 5. Mahigit half a year siya sa inyo pero sa tunog ng post mo eh parang nababagalan ka sa pagusad ng relasyon. Which brings me to (6). 6. Yung "pagsubok", interpretasyon ko sa post mo eh yung AWAY ninyo -- which is di naman ako nasurpresa na. Medyo malaking isyu nga itong papasukin mo ate. To be continued.... Pooch
  12. Hey I am a Filipino myself, born and raised for 18 years so I know the culture. πŸ˜… I know what you are dealing with but I can assure you that that is not bullying. Many times, it depends on how you will respond to them. Because of close family ties, the relatives are "more polite" to strangers than to the one close... this should be understable..and ironic as it may seem but it is an axiom that "the meaner they are to you, the more closer you are" to them. (Hahaha!) The attitude really is to not take it personally and if you can laugh the situation off, it will make it easier. If you become 'touchy' and react in a way that they perceives that you felt that they are adversarial, they WILL REALLY be mean to you and make your life hell.. Since you are raised in US, pretty much you are westernized. You just have to be immersed with your cous-bfs family.. at first, you will feel like they are treating you like crap but try to endure that and do not fight back. They dont mean what they say.. It will get better, believe me. 😊 Pooch
  13. How did you guys reconnect? Was it a family reunion or something? πŸ€” You said this in your original post. May I know the reasons the family of both sides hurled at you guys? And why do you perceived it as "bullying"? Seems like a strong word to me.. 😐 Usually Filipinos are understanding as long as you lots of "usapan" are done. Know what Im saying? Pooch
  14. Because there is a difference if you guys are both 16 or both of you are in your 40s. You know what I mean? At any rate, how did you guys meet? Have you guys known each other since childhood? Please tell us your history with him so we can respond accordingly. 😊 Pooch
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