Hehe, I just found out about this forum and I thought I'd register and tell my story. It's not really a complete story, because we're still young (I'm 21y/o male and she's 17 year old girl) and our love story is still unfolding.
She lives in Canada, and I'm living in Australia. We both grew up in our respective countries and have never visited each other at all. In fact, before April of last year, I didn't even know that she existed. I knew that I had family over there, but I didn't know the specifics of who was there. She also only knew us through a couple of odd photos here and there... seemingly so little, and yet it's even more than how much I knew about her and her family.
Anyways, we first started talking because of (you'll never believe this lol) a Facebook POKING war!! Facebook suggested that I poke a random bunch of people of like 5 or 6. So I did. One of them was her. A few hours later, she poked me back... so I poked HER back. After a long round of poking each other back and forth, I messaged her (my first time ever talking to her) "STOP POKING MEEEE ". After that, we started talking casually - just asking about what it was like in Canada, talking about school, the differences between Canada and Australia. Small-talk... random nonsense.
At this point, I just saw her as my cousin and nothing more. After some time, our messages started getting just a little bit deeper and she started sharing with me some personal things about what she was going through and I also shared some of my stuff. She wasn't going through the best of times and so eventually she kind of broke down and expressed how much she appreciated that I started talking to her - as a cousin, of course. I thought it was really nice and after that, we continued to talk - but a bit more like close friends, instead of just family. We both kind of admitted that we thought the other was quite attractive just as a casual compliment to each other. She said that when she first saw a family photo of all my brothers and sisters, she instantly thought I was the most handsome haha. And she said that when she saw that one of us had messaged her on FB, she was secretly hoping that it was me. I also admitted that I thought she was quite attractive and that she was very pretty in my eyes. Over time (I don't know how it happened - it was gradual and very organic), we started to feel something sparking between us. It seems very fast, but within about 2 months, we both admitted that we actually loved each other and that we really wished that we could have been together. We Skyped every single day, sometimes letting a call go on for up to 8 hours non-stop. If I had to go out, I would text her on my phone.
I know that it's really early, but we were already feeling a sort of 'soulmate' relationship forming. We told each other that no matter who we ended up with, that we would secretly always be special.. that our relationship would be more than just cousins, even MORE than lovers.. but something really special because it was the first time that either of us had really opened up and shared ourselves with someone else. However, we thought that it would be too weird coz we were cousins, and it would be so difficult coz we're separated by oceans. For a while, it was great. We were secretly loving each other, but we knew that we would eventually find someone else. We told each other "it's okay. If you find someone else, I'll be happy for you." But neither of us really felt it. We wanted each other, but neither of us told each other. About a month after that, we had a talk about me visiting... and she actually said that she wanted me to make love to her for the first time, even though we wouldn't be together. It wasn't just a quickie - she really really respects her virginity and treats it with the utmost sanctity. But she knew that no matter who she ended up meeting, that I would be the one that was always in her heart. That was the person that she wanted to take her virginity. She thought that it was silly to ask because she was like "oh of course, a stud like that would never go for me" lol. But I actually admitted that I would be so incredibly honoured. It was such a lovely conversation because we talked about how much we loved each other and how this act of love would really cement us as secret and special lovers.
But... there was still that knowledge that we wouldn't be together. After a while, the pain got too much.. for both of us. We both broke down and admitted that we couldn't actually take the pain of knowing that we had both met that perfect someone but had to forgo them for someone 'lesser'. We had a really long talk about the implications of us actually considering being together. Social implications, legal, biological... but we found that the only real implications came from Social - ie, how OTHERS would see it. We decided that we don't want other people to be holding us back from being truly happy. So we started dating... in secret. We continued to talk to each other on Skype. I share my room with lots of siblings, so I had to always keep my 'aural' conversations casual (talking about day-to-day stuff), but in the skype text chat window... we were talking about our relationship and our love. Growing both of them day by day.
After a while, we kind of somehow got the desire to tell someone. The first person was her sister. We were both SOOOOOOO scared, because we didn't know how people would react. It was hilarious . Her first reaction was "..... DUHHHH!!! GOSH DO YOU THINK I'M STUPID??!? It's SOOO obvious!! Yea that's fine, I think it's great"... definitely not what we were expecting haha. Over the next few weeks, we slowly started telling more people... eventually telling all of my siblings one by one. My sister, as it turns out, already knew... because she accidentally eavesdropped on one of my messages that I sent her. The others thought it was weird at first, but quickly got to realizing that what we had was real. They were all happy for us. One of my brothers even shook my hand and said "congrats bro" haha.
Since then, we've continued to talk, and share, and connect on a deep level. Sharing everything about us - things that no one else even knows about. Loving each other every day. She's in Canada, so I can only skype with her or text. I have yet to have my first kiss with her, or my first hug. Because of the time difference, she often goes to sleep while I'm still in my evening, so I'd skype with her on her ipod and i'd watch her as she falls to sleep, both of us whispering "I love you...". Then when she's asleep, I leave her messages so that when she wakes up, she has all these messages from me - because I don't wake up until it's early-afternoon her time. We really have a strong and "invincible" (as she calls it) relationship and we absolutely adore and love each other. It's not just a casual flirty relationship either. We often have little arguments and we have our down-moments. But we always get through them together, and find our way back into each other's (virtual) arms - every time getting stronger and closer together.
That's the end of my story so far. We have yet to tell the parents - that's the biggest challenge. But we hope that by having all of this support from our siblings, that the transition will be easier. I'm actually planning my first visit this July. She's going to take the train and pick me up from the airport... alone. Just her. No family to force us to pretend that we're not secretly in love. Gosh, I really really cannot wait for that day. It's all I ever think about. Getting off the plane, seeing her in the distance, running up to her and hugging her for the first time hehe. We both talk about that day all the time. Eventually, she's planning to make a move to Australia so we can be together in the long-term. But we're still young and want to continue to grow together before we make any huge moves.
I hope that my story can be of some inspiration to others out there who are doubting whether or not it's possible to have a REAL relationship with your cousin. It is. Our relationship is as real as any other, and perhaps even MORE loving than many couple relationships out there.