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  1. Ex going for custody

    As far as I can tell, GA does not include cousins in their definition of incest. (Of course I am not a lawyer and do not give legal advice). Get thee a lawyer pronto. No matter what accusations are thrown at you, if GA does not define incest as occurring between cousins, then no lawyer or judge has a legal leg to stand on. You don't have to put up with this outrageous behavior. Stand strong. The law is behind you (as far as I can tell).
  2. Ex going for custody

    Tell your ex to go kiss your arse and bring on the custody battle. If the state allows the marriage, you are fine. You are not married to your cousin, so you are fine. He's huffing and puffing but as soon as he speaks to a lawyer (which I doubt he will ever do), he will be told that doesn't have a leg to stand on. So go lock yourself in the bathroom with your cousin and make out all you want.
  3. Could it be im falling in love

    It's never easy to resist feelings for someone, but you know what's right and I'm confident you will continue to do the right thing.
  4. Cousin feelings

    Then tell her. Start with, "If we weren't cousins, I could see us dating" and then see where it goes.
  5. Cousin has me wondering...

    O Lordt. Either talk to this girl and see if there is any interest in you or just stop flirting with her. You are never going to know what is possible if you don't talk. FWIW, I know that texting is the preferred mode of communication between you young'uns, but just talk to her. Either in person or pick up the phone and use it for its original purpose,
  6. Could it be im falling in love

    Here's your sign form God: Exodus 20:17 You shall not commit adultery Or how about this sign: I Cor 10: 17 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, will provide a way out so that you can endure it. Stop texting him. Why did you even begin? You are playing with fire and if you don't stop immediately, one or both of you will get burned.
  7. Cousin feelings

    What do you mean you've been living together? Are you merely roommates or what?
  8. Feeling hopeless

    I can sense that you are hurting terribly and I don't want you to feel like I am adding coals to the fire; but I am going to speak very bluntly to you. He gave you a ring? Big deal. Men have been known to do that just to keep a woman hanging around. If he really loved you he would've moved out of the shadows and into the light of your love. You deserve so much better than what you have settled for. When you are able to think more clearly, really look at your relationship objectively. He cheated on you with several women (some that you know of) - that's why he was so paranoid about his phone. And yet you forgave him time after time. You didn't ask for much in the relationship and that is exactly what you got. He found a woman who would cook and clean for him and spend the night in his bed and that suited him just fine and dandy. But since you didn't demand commitment from him, he didn't give it to you. The hurt and pain will ease. I promise. But when that happens, what kind of woman do you want to be? Do you want to be a woman whose happiness is dependent upon the attention of a man? Or do you want to be a woman who can complement a relationship with a man? A woman who brings strength and decisiveness and a quick sting of a reply when your man is being a pain in the a$$? Don't allow yourself to be anything except the beautiful, genuine spirit that God created, Find someone to talk to about all of this. A friend, a pastor, a rabbi, a professional; someone who will speak the truth in love to you, as I hope you understand I've done just now.
  9. Feeling hopeless

    I'm sorry this happened to you. The truth is that a man who will hang on year after year without a commitment is never going to commit. You've been used terribly and I hate that. This will take a while to get over. In the meantime, may I humbly suggest that you do some serious soul-searching and understand why you let a man use you like this? That way when Mr. Right does come along you will be ready to embrace it fully.
  10. Brand new, stopping in to say hi!

    Allison We are a forum that believes in monogamy. So, accept that reality. Listen, your biggest problem is not the cousin factor; your biggest problem is the other woman in his life factor. You will never be first in his life. His wife is hesitant about bringing you into the relationship, not because you are his cousin, but because you are another woman! The family connection, as you called it, is her excuse for the hesitancy. You say you want to live for yourself; I get that and have made strides in that direction myself. This relationship, however, is not the key to living for yourself. Initially the sex will be great and you will feel blissful, but I guarantee that long-term, you will find yourself unhappy and resentful.
  11. First cousin once removed

  12. We're in a long distance relationship. What now?

    If you condense this post into the pertinent details, I may have some advice to offer. I refuse to schlep through unimportant information such as hobbies and innocuous flirtations.
  13. What Would You Do ?

    Run, run, as fast as you can. He got another girl pregnant while sleeping with you also. He will continue to break your heart if you continue to pursue him.
  14. Do guys express their feelings during sex?

    Lady C gave you some good advice. I was once in a relationship where the sex was shabam and for a while I mistook that intensity for love and commitment. Believe me, commitment and great sex are not one in the same. Stop romanticizing the relationship. You need a lot more to build on than good sex and a caring look in his eyes
  15. Sealed Fate

    You are not responsible for her. Or for him. You cannot bear the burden of their relationship to God or to each other. They have made their choices. Stop praying for them (I don't say that very often) because it's only dredging up painful feelings for you and leading you to believe that your prayers will alter their character. I don't believe it will. If she wants to be a godly woman, that onus is on her and has nothing to do with your interceptions on her behalf.