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  1. hola

    Gotcha. I completely understand what you've posted in Spanish but don't have the language skills to respond with accuracy.
  2. hola

    Mi Espanol es malo. En Ingles por favor.
  3. Had to Get It Off My Chest. Nowhere Else to Turn

    As someone who waited nearly 30 years to marry my cousin, I'm going to encourage you to go for it. I noticed that your signature is Pilipino. I don't know what the social or legal norms are there concerning cousin marriages/relationships. Barring any legal complications, pursue this relationship in spite of the flack your family may give you. They don't get to decide your path to happiness. They don't have to walk in your shoes everyday. I've learned that my family doesn't truly wish me well due to their cold-shouldered response to my husband. That's their loss. Yes, it's easier to say that to accept - I still cry on occasion over their actions towards me. But ultimately, I am happier with my husband's love than with the conditional requirements of my family.
  4. Im in love with my first cross cousin..

    There are some folks from India who chime in here every now and then. I'm afraid I won't be much use to you as far as legalities are concerned but can only empathize with you and encourage you to do what you can to keep your love alive. Good luck!
  5. New here

    I've always railed against the genetics argument concerning cousin marriages. Ashkenazi Jews, African (Americans) and women over the age of 40 are not prevented from procreation despite their higher risk pool nor are they required to have genetic tests run prior to conception. Of course, part of me thinks that you are talking about a level and a half above what my brain can grasp....
  6. I know, I know. This guy has me riled up. I need to walk away.
  7. Oh, and BTW, I'm the one who kicked my ex's sorry a$$ to the curb. He was the desperate one who couldn't bear to be alone and found someone else while we were separated but STILL MARRIED. I was the strong and smart one who waited to get into another relationship. So, really, you shouldn't comment on things you have no idea about.
  8. Mentally challenged? I told you straight up what is what without resorting to name calling. Seems that makes me a bit more mature than others. Cousin marriage in OH is not legal. Are you married to her? No. Is she STILL MARRIED to someone else? Yes. Is her lawyer giving her good advice about your relationship? YES. YOU are the one who said that marriage is not necessarily in the cards for you, so any huffing and puffing that the HUSBAND may do is just that, huffing and puffing - unless of course OH's incest laws cover cousin relations. Pray tell, why is it obvious that you've met her kids? Because you've been sleeping with their MARRIED mother? And why is it so important to you that the kids "love you" and why have the kids developed enough of a relationship with you to "love you" if their mother is STILL MARRIED? Whysoever you may think that I am still pining for a man that treated my children with disregard is baffling. And though it is of no consequence, I have remarried - to a man who treated my children (nearly grown when we marriedd) with respect and would not have dreamed of sleeping with me if I were still married, as your current lover is.
  9. Her lawyer is telling her to stay away from you because SHE IS STILL MARRIED and needs to do what is best for the kids. Go screw yourself over the "The kids love me" BS. You are not their father and never will be so it doesn't matter one iota how much the kids love you. Sorry not sorry, but you've hit a hot button with me. As someone who went through a divorce and had her husband live with another woman that "the kids just loved" (they most definitely did not) pre-divorce, I will tell you straight up that you and her are doing these kids no favor. Why the hell have the kids even met you yet? Be a man for God's sake and back off the relationship until she is a free woman. You living happily ever after is of zero importance; these kids are of the utmost importance and the two of you are jeopardizing their happily ever after. Do all the petitioning you want to change the Ohio law - but of course if you want to even more negatively affect these kids and not marry, as you said you are not necessarily interested in doing, then you have no worries. Any other respectable lawyer is going to tell you the same thing this one is: Cool your jets. Ultimately, these kids come first - at least they should. If she is "your world" then you will do what's best for her, which is also what is best for her children. If you truly love her, then be willing to wait until you are both free and until you can figure out how to navigate this relationship. This may takes years. Do you love her enough to do what is right for her, even at the expense of your piddling happiness?
  10. I think my cousin wants me

    I have to agree with LadyC here. If you sleep with her now you will never know if she is more interested in you or in your money. You need to slow down.
  11. Aunt

    Walk away. Run away. Don't come near her. Don't be alone with her. Don't call or text or chat on social media. Block her phone number. Delete her phone number. Unfriend her on FB. Snapchat, and Twitter. Be mature and just don't.
  12. 2nd cousin daddy

    Tell him! There is no shame in who is Dad is; the shame is that you've waited years to tell him. How old is your son?
  13. Intro and thanks for this site

    Well, it sounds like you're off to a good start after all these years!
  14. Ex going for custody

    As far as I can tell, GA does not include cousins in their definition of incest. (Of course I am not a lawyer and do not give legal advice). Get thee a lawyer pronto. No matter what accusations are thrown at you, if GA does not define incest as occurring between cousins, then no lawyer or judge has a legal leg to stand on. You don't have to put up with this outrageous behavior. Stand strong. The law is behind you (as far as I can tell).
  15. Ex going for custody

    Tell your ex to go kiss your arse and bring on the custody battle. If the state allows the marriage, you are fine. You are not married to your cousin, so you are fine. He's huffing and puffing but as soon as he speaks to a lawyer (which I doubt he will ever do), he will be told that doesn't have a leg to stand on. So go lock yourself in the bathroom with your cousin and make out all you want.
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