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carthapango

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  1. Hello, We had serious talk a couple of months back with each of our family. (She is my second cousin once removed; both above 21.) Both fathers were very much against this relationship; our mothers less so, but the adults have misgivings about the other family. In short, we are in a difficult position, notwithstanding our cousin relationship. After some more discussions with my parents (well, mother), I made it clear that we are still seeing and learning more about each other. We are of course not set for marriage yet, though right now I do not see any reason why I would not want to be together with her. We really want to have as much opportunities as possible to be together, and do lovely things that couples do and enjoy each other's company. She is in Canada and me the States, so some travel is needed. Sadly, my cousin is currently still going to college, and is staying with her aunt to save on rent. Her aunt shares all things she does with her Mother, who keeps a tight reign on her despite her age. I want to see her, but the last time she told her family she wanted to come see me, she got a good scolding, and her Dad even said he would not give her money to finish the course. (I doubt he really meant it) Her being financial dependent is something that hinders our plans a lot, for I do not want to act in disrespect toward her parents. The most drama-free way for us now is for me to quietly come visit her without letting the relatives find out. but we also debate if further conversations can sway the family's opinions. I have not read much stories about how people deal with family disapproval. Has persistence paid off for anyone? Or should we just take responsibility and take things into our own hands? We are both "good" kids growing up, so I hope you nderstand the dilemma this is giving us. P/s I personally think as parents it is not reasonable to control your child like that. Her parents are as much against her sleeping overnight at another's house as they are about our relationship. But she is abroad and they rely on pulling the relatives' strings to keep check on her. I will not do that for my own kids once they are in college, unless I know they need help or are about to do something really dumb. Any advice or banter is appreciated. Thanks for reading and have a nice day!
  2. Sorry to hear that JackQ! I don't think I've read your story yet, if you have posted it here. I have never really said I Love You to any of my cousins, and thus I have never said it to the One. She did say she loved me very much when I told her in a text conversation sometime ago that I would like us to be closer so that I could help her with her obstacles in life. However, I think she meant that primarily in a familial sense. I dislike it when people throw the word Love around carelessly. Personally, it is a big word for me, and I have only ever used them for my immediate family. I hope there will be a day when I can say these words in the way I mean it to her!
  3. One common theme I have noticed from my reading here, and which resonates with my own experience, is that the feelings you have for a cousin are often unperturbed by the passage of time. Our story has not even quite begun, but I imagine it will be a very hard one to just turn the page over in my journal of life. No matter how busy life gets, how long it's been since you last met, The moment you behold her face, it's like the Sun had never set.
  4. It is actually quite creepy how many of the descriptions here match my own! I remember vividly the first time we met face-to-face. I remember being unable to take my eyes off of her as we walked together into my house, and how the conversation came to a stand still as our eyes locked. She was young then, and probably was just embarrassed. But to me, she only has become more beautiful each passing year. Without makeup, she radiates happiness and love with her every step, and her charm is something I cannot resist dreaming about. My heart tingles with little bells of joy every time she texts, and the first time I beheld her face on Skype many years after our last contact, I was speechless at how angelic she was, and is. I must constantly pinch myself to not elevate another human being to such an impossible pedestal of perfection. I am logically aware of her shortcomings, and vow to be by her side as my life's duty. But when the mere sight of her image brings such joy to your heart, it is really very hard not to worship her a little!
  5. Many of the predicaments and struggles that the characters face resemble those which we also have to deal with as cousin couples. I think as far as Art goes in its purpose to inspire the exploration of our emotions, this is a very fine gem that you can get for free (thanks to the scanlator team!)
  6. If you have not already, I strongly recommend that you read Koi Kaze. It is a Japanese manga that explores the nature of GSA in a very heartwarming, beautiful, believable and serious manner. http://www.mangahere.co/manga/koi_kaze
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