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  1. Disorganized religion isn't for everyone, but for those of us who practice it, it works very well thanks :smiley:
  2. Thanks :smiley: I think it's because most (not all) nonbelievers have a chip on their shoulders involving the churches & don't want anything to do with them. I have no misgivings towards the church or religion, I just don't believe in it.
  3. I'm so sad, today was out last day for open burning of the season so from now on all my grilling will have to be in an actual grill. We didn't even bother putting a firepit because there are so many regulations regarding burning that it just wasn't worth it ( yes I respect the fact that we chose to move to this desert-area & the rules are put into place for our safety, but for a girl from swampy Pennsylvania - it's frustrating ) I cannot wait to move to somewhere that it rains lol
  4. I'm always afraid to cook chicken in a slow cooker, growing up I was always warned they didn't get hot enough for chicken. I know logically it's BS but I can't get passed it.
  5. While I do not follow the Christian religion, as a child I attended (attended/forced to attend, whatevs..) church(es) with my family. Since I was never overly concerned about listening to the pastor's sermon, I spent my time watching the goings on around me instead (& hating the dresses I was put in, again..whatevs). While I can't say going to church helped save me from the damnation I was threatened with, I did learn a few things about organized religion. 1) People with a sour taste towards organized religion have most likely attended a bad church. This was the eventual downfall of my parents church attendance - Which to me seems a shame for them, if you have one bad experience at a grocery store do you stop going to all grocery stores? 2) People who end up at the 'wrong' church usually don't try to fix it, instead they end up frustrated & stop going. Even though my parents' beliefs were strongly Methodist they attended a Baptist church because that's what they had 'always been'. Instead of trying to find what worked for them they stuck with what they knew until their 'comfortable rut' got too uncomfortable & they quit going altogether. 3) Most (not all!) people do actually expect the pastor to have all the answers. The Bad Church we attended towards the end was like this & even the good churches we attended had some level of unhealthy ideology towards their pastor. I often times wonder which came first? Does the pastor think he is a holy being because the congregation treats him as such? Or has the congregation been groomed to do so by an egotistical pastor? Either situation is leading to a never ending loop that in my opinion is toxic & unhelpful to both sides of the pulpit - the congregation is not invited to entertain their own thoughts & feelings (which leads to no personal/spiritual growth beyond the limits given) & the pastor is led to believe he is above his congregation & anyone who questions him is either not a true believer or a nuisance that needs to be 'shut up'. I personally have no answer for this problem, LadyCs description of how a pastor's personality should be is IMO a healthy one, but IME not a common one. All that said I'm still not a Christian. And this has nothing to do with a bad church or bad blood over mistreatment. Almost all the churches we attended were very welcoming & a great source of social interactions, but for me that was all it was - a place to socialize, I just don't believe in the bible or the religion as a whole.
  6. The divorce rates in the united states are over 50% for fIrst marriages (2nds are higher) are spouses disposable?
  7. #2 would probably drive me crazy on a sleepless night. No, by an off day I mean a day that I try to do #1 & my brain just won't shut up lol. Or if something is really bothering me, it helps to just follow the thought & see where it goes.. Have you ever seen the movie Wild? There's a part where she says something about going to most of the places in her head that she didn't want to go to, #2 is kind of like that. It's usually a thought that I would normally push aside because it's not something I want to think about (e.g. Mother's Day is coming up soon & my mom is gone) but if I just let the thought play itself out, it's not weighing on me anymore & I can let it go. I feel like I'm explaining it badly lol But hopefully you know what I mean.
  8. Americans are more likely to give you favorite foods that are regionally based rather than country-wide. I'd guess this has something to do with traditional meals still being passed down from our grandparents who (depending on where they migrated from) ended up in different areas of the country. I'm was born & raised in Pennsylvania so a lot of the foods we ate were Dutch in origin. My favorites though? Dutch Corn Pie Pickled Red Eggs (the kind with beets) Monkey Bread Corn Cob Jelly on homemade bread Perogies (potato & cheese!) Pepperoni Rolls (cannot find them where we live now ) For main dishes we had the same kinds of meats I'm sure most people eat - Beef, Pork, Chicken, Fish, Venison, Rabbit, Squirrel, etc etc. Usually cooked in a slow cooker or tho oven. The way my family cooked meats was kind of blah lol. I would also suggest Philly Cheese Steaks but you cannot get a good one anywhere but in Philly...
  9. There are dozens if not hundreds (if you count off-shoots) of kinds of meditation. How do I do it? That depends on how I feel that day. Most of the time I utilize a focused path, where I visualize a certain image (a color, a tree, a house..anything really but usually a tree) & focus on it for a set time. If my thoughts stray (& they will) I make an effort to stop the thought & go back to what I was focusing on. (This I've found is WAY easier with ambient sounds to focus on) If I am having a particularly off day I will forget about focusing on anything & just follow my thoughts. You just sit with your eyes closed & let your mind go to town, don't try to stop the thought - instead try to follow it all the way threw (which a majority of people don't do). Keep doing that with each new thought you have. If I am having a really horrible, terrible, awful day & I'm stressed way to far out I will fall back to what my therapist (old therapist - I don't go anymore) called touch therapy or touch meditation. It's where you pick an object (with a texture), close your eyes & rub your fingers over the object slowly & repeatedly. In your mind you focus on that sensation of touching the object & nothing else. If your mind wanders away you go back to it.
  10. It's from vaping, which is how eciggs work. My partners sister uses eciggs & she had the same problem. I can't remember what was the solution to her problem but if you Google your symptoms I'm sure someone's got your answer.
  11. LadyC - No I meant how do you meditate, not why. People meditate for several different reasons, like you do it for your relationship with God, I do it for self awareness, clearing my mind & peace. Nessa - That's why I started, but even after I removed most of my stressers I kept at it.
  12. I've been meditating regularly for a while now & I've always tried to do it in silence, but it never works & I almost always end up frustrated when I finish. So I gave in today & got an ambient noise app to play during & I've got to say I LOVE IT! For the first time that I can remember I was able to sit an entire session & not have to try to keep my head clear. It's so much easier to just listen to the rainfall or the beach waves & just relax! The app I got has a bunch of different sounds, a timer & even has controls to regulate what you hear (want to hear a stream with frogs but no birds? Reset the controls). I'm so in love with this thing I wish I hadn't waited so long to try it! So, how do YOU meditate?
  13. I replied but it's not there, so it was either too explicit (sorry!) or it was because I got a call in the middle of replying & my phone booted me...so I'll just put it this way... Have you ever had a partner who was very bad in bed? Just plain flat out vanilla, lasts 3mins, quiet, boring sex? That's my neighbors. & don't you know that scratches & hickeys stay in the 'under clothing' areas?? Jeez. But seriously we've all ended up with 'the tell tail marks', I walked around with bruises on my wrists for a week before I learned the washcloth trick lol
  14. I'm not usually shy either but I happen to know these particular neighbors are bad at having sex (I'm not the only one who's left the window open..).
  15. We had steak & cheese quesadillas, nothing photo worthy lol
  16. You gotta have the TV on lol or at least we do! It drowns out the sound so the neighbors don't hear True story: we've lived here since Nov & there's only been a few days warm enough to have the windows open. One of those days we got caught up in the moment & forgot to shut the bedroom window. A few neighbors heard us I assume because two different ones high fived my partner when he went out to smoke (no kids live close by thankfully!). My neighbor to the left STILL won't look me in the eye LMAO!
  17. We don't celebrate Easter so no eggs here. But we have forgot to buy bread for a week straight lol we went to the store pretty much everyday with the intention of getting it & kept forgetting to actually buy any.
  18. Snake, my partner firmly believes that we (humans) were brought here from another planet. I've never asked too many questions but I believe he once mentioned that he believes we inhabited another planet & ended up destroying it (you know, like we are earth) & so we were forced to migrate here.
  19. So what you're saying is that since every effect needs a cause, and the original cause is unknown, the original cause may be a god-like creator. I agree with you in theory, but my point is that we don't have answer. We may never have an answer (as you pointed out) so why should one group feel anymore right than another? If I believe there isn't & you believe there is, which of us is correct? In the end it's all just an opinion. For someone to make the argument that we don't know if there isn't a god so we should believe there is, is almost as valid as someone making the argument that we don't know if there is a god so we shoudn't believe there is. In reality it's like holding a locked box noone has/will ever seen the inside of, I can say the inside is blue all I want & you can say it's red all you want, but for all we really know it could be purple or yellow or green. THAT is why I originally said I am not concerned with how/why we are here, because there is no proof one way or the other, most people will fall into the opinion-group that they feel is right for them. And who knows, maybe we aren't supposed to know the answer at all?
  20. There's also the risk of the bottom of the piercing wearing away at the bone.
  21. I have a friend who's vegetarian (or is she vegan now? I dunno lol - she doesn't eat meat, we'll put it that way), she swears by this stuff called Nutritional Yeast. It's flakes made from deactivated yeast (I think) & I guess it's loaded with protein & other vitamins that non-meat eaters need. You might try looking it up, since it gives you more than just the protein you'll be missing (like B12). She made me try it once, it was actually pretty good! Anyway, other than that maybe Google 'nutritionally complete vegetarian meals'. That should take you to a few good recipes
  22. So glad outlook decided not to the get the grillz I like tounge piercings personally.
  23. I've read that article Speaking from 2nd hand experience I've seen the damage they can do. A good friend blew through $5k in dental repairs because his grill damaged his opposing teeth (he had a bottom plate, the constant bumping against the top teeth caused them to chip & wear). I'm not saying don't get them, it's your mouth lol I'm just saying before you do you should research the damage they can cause.
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