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  1. slipping again

    Also, my fiancee is a bisexual male, so the thought of me being with another man, does not bother him. I know you may not approve, but I'm not looking for approval, I'm looking for advice, and now I'm not sure if I can get any here, because of how judgmental yall are. That's really sad to me because what if another person come here in the same situation and get railed verbally and they have some kind of break down? I don't think that's right.
  2. slipping again

    Also, I don't think its right for first cousins to marry because genetics, but I don't sit there and tell people that they are sick, foolish, delusional, or anything other of the sort. Who am I to say they are wrong?? Nobody! I am not in their shoes, therefore have NO RIGHT saying such hateful nasty things.
  3. slipping again

    I'm pretty sure I did, however I I did not, I apologize. I really don't think THIS is the place to get judgy about other peoples life choices. I know that alot of people do not understand or approve of poly relationships, but this isn't a bad thing that we are trying to do here. We are keeping our relationship alive by accepting that sometimes not all things are cut and dry. Especially when it comes to love. I have been in love with my cousin since I was in high school, does that mean I should have just stayed single?? I don't think so. He didn't either, and I don't hate or judge him for it. Actually aside from their issues, and one issue I have with her, his ex wife is a very nice lady. I know yall may not understand, but once again... This website doesn't really have the right to judge anyone.
  4. slipping again

    Because he is a very understanding person. It doesn't bother him at all actually. He has embraced MY truth, and that's why we are still together. Don't get me wrong, we struggled at first... But after some much needed conversation on the subject, we worked through it.
  5. slipping again

    He already knows.
  6. How does your cousin make you feel?

    My cousin... He's my hero, my best friend, my greatest joy(aside from my kids) and my greatest frustration. When he's around its like... My world is on fire with this light that just... Radiates off of him. His smile could melt the coldest of hearts, his eyes are like cups of hot chocolate on a snowy winters night. When I see him in person... Its like coming back home from a long vacation. Like a weight is lifted off me. I love him so so much and I wish I could tell him
  7. slipping again

    :cry: My cousin has started ignoring me yet again, and I honestly do not understand it. When I went to Christmas dinner with my S.O. and my child, he followed me around the house, and my S.O. caught him staring at me in the back yard from the glass patio doors, and he and I were both awkward around each other. My sister went to the new years party, and I didn't. He asked her to tell me hello, and that he wished I was there. He also spoke to her like we were talking on a daily basis about me and my kid but brushed off my fiancee when he was brought up. Should I just come right out and say it?? That I think he feels the same way I do, or should I just... Let it go. I don't know if I even can just let it go. I have loved him for so long. Ugh. I am so lost! Ok rant over.
  8. is it just me...

    Or do holidays make things more difficult to cope with? Like it adds extra stress to whatever you're already going through? I'm not a big fan of Christmas, and new years, but this is I am getting to see my cousin(that I am in love with) for the first time in two years. I am extremely nervous, and have been trying not to let myself get too stressed out over it. Anyway, happy holidays to yall.
  9. why are you here on this site n wat hav u done to b wid ur cousin

    I know the feeling all too well. I am here because I am love with my second cousin. Please don't do anything that would hurt alot of people that love you. I know ots hard to be ignored by someone you care so much about but you have to keep going because as long as there is another day there is hope.
  10. i need some help, Im going crazy!

    Well, thank you so much for the advice. I don't know much about these situations, and I'm not handling the pain well. Around this time last year my step sister blurted out that she had slept with them back in high school, and after that... I had to come out to someone. Its really breaking my heart to be so far apart, especially since we used to be really close growing up. I miss him dearly, really, and I am having issues coping. I was going to say something to him tonight, just to say hi, but he's pulling his usual ignore me routine tonight.
  11. i need some help, Im going crazy!

    I've never been one to take risk without knowing 100% for sure that a situation is correct, so I told myself that I wouldn't say or act on anything until I see him this holiday season. He will be on leave probably for Christmas and New Years, so I want to see how he acts this time. I have loved him since high school, but just pushed it away because I figured there would be no chance. Now that we are both grown, and he's been acting like he has for the last maybe 5 or 6 years, I am starting to believe that the feelings are there for him too. Thank you so much for the advice, and I am thankful to have found this website. I didn't know about any of the information that you have given me, thank you for educating me on this matter. Its always best to be armed with facts in situations as big as this.
  12. i need some help, Im going crazy!

    I'm pretty sure we are second cousins. His grandfather was my grandfathers brother. However, I could be wrong about that. As for age, hes a year older than me, and I'm 26 currently. He is single currently, whereas I am not, and we both acknowledged that our relationship is on the outs, so that's what makes things so hard on me. We both have children as well.
  13. i need some help, Im going crazy!

    I figured if they allow first cousin marriages then second cousins shouldn't be an issue. We are second cousins. I just wish I knew for sure if he did have legitimate feelings for me. I guess that's the biggest hold up, and I don't think either one of us will have the guts to fess up to it first. I often doubt myself with my gut feeling, but everyone that does know about how I feel about him(which is very very few) think that he does. Idk. I'm just a little confused right now. I don't want to ruin his life, by making a mistake in judgment.
  14. i need some help, Im going crazy!

    I guess I'm more worried about being wrong about his intentions. I live in Tx and him in Nc, so I'm not sure because its not legal here.
  15. i need some help, Im going crazy!

    Well, I am madly in love with my cousin, and i think he may feel the same way, but I'm not sure. So I am stuck in this horrible limbo that Im not sure I am going to be able to get out of. Our family is roman catholic, and he's in the USMC, so there's no room for error and assuming things. The reason I think he may feel the same is because the way he acts when I'm single vs. With someone. When I'm single he's very chatty with me, very touchy, giving lingering hugs, stuff like that. When I'm with someone he's very avoidant, blows me off, will talk to other people we both know and when they ask about me he stops replying. I recently confronted him about why he's been avoiding me and after that he explains that he was a big talker and that he would send me screen shots if it wouldn't take so long just to prove he wasn't ignoring me. I just dont know, and I am so conflicted and have been so depressed lately. I miss and love him so much. I just dont know how to figure stuff out. If anyone could please help me I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks yall.