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  1. I agree with Hawk. Telling her via text or social media is not the best idea... If she becomes available, then tell her you love her in person. Reading a text message can cheapen what you're saying and can never replace your voice, being able to look her in the eyes, and also being able to judge how she reacts to it. It may seem scary to tell her in person, but there are way more risks telling her through a text message. If I were you, and you got the opportunity one day, I would start with the bit about "if you weren't my cousin...." like Hawk and Kylie123 said. But my advice is 1. Wait until she is available AND the time seems right, And 2. Tell her in person.
  2. The first moment

    WOW! Congratulations!!
  3. I just want to say....

    I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas! I have been so blessed to find this place and I am so grateful. Thank you to everyone who have shared their stories (the lucky and the not so lucky). It has been eye opening in the best way! Thank you all for having the courage to speak up. It is so wonderful to know that I'm not crazy/messed up/weird to be in love with my cousin..... For years and years I thought I was. And even though I can't be with him, it is nice to know. Seriously, thank you. A special thank you to LadyC for giving her time to advise and encourage. Your friendship means a lot to me. Thank you for everything!
  4. Merry Christmas

    I agree 110%!! And Merry Christmas to you!
  5. Oh the generational gap... I am 28 and I still feel 21........until I get around other 21 year olds. Lol. This girl sounds very unstable. I can't know for sure, so please don't take anything I say as cannon. She sounds like she wants to hold on to you, but is not ready to quit partying/playing the field/keeping her options open.....you fill in the blank. I am also a woman and I know that when a girl is in love, social media will be plastered with photos of you two, statuses about you, etc. so that is a red flag right there. Here's my advice to you: Don't throw her away (yet). Sit down with her and talk everything out. She needs to hear everything you've told us and anything else on your heart/mind. If she is not ready for an exclusive relationship, if she still doesn't want the whole world to know that you two are a couple, and/or if there is still something that doesn't feel right, let her go. She may need time to mature. Or maybe she is not the one for you. I can tell you this......everyone deserves someone who treats them like they are once in a lifetime. Or at least someone who doesn't seem to hide the fact that you're a couple. You deserve to be treated better than the way you're being treated right now.
  6. This should be pinned to the top! Best advice post I've read on here.
  7. How does your cousin make you feel?

    Theman, How old are you two? I am a woman, and from my perspective it sounds like she has it bad for you… Seriously, if neither one of you are already involved with other people, I would try and talk to her about it if I were you. From the sounds of it, it seems that she would be open to such a conversation. You could even say what she said to you: "if you weren't my cousin…" to break the ice. And since she has already said that to you, you have much much less to worry about than most when bringing up the subject.
  8. The first moment

    Hahaha wow, LadyC - that is so cool!
  9. The first moment

    Forgive me if this topic is already floating around on here somewhere. It makes me so happy to hear your success stories on here. I love that a lot of you have overcome the pressure of society and are living out your dreams. So....... I have to ask What was the first moment you realized you were in love with your cousin? ❤️
  10. Should I make the move?

    Yay! Congratulations!! So happy for you!
  11. Apoem of days gone by

    This poem brought tears to my eyes......I can relate so completely. Thank you for sharing your gift ❤️
  12. Special request

    Cstar21, I have read your posts on here and I have a woman's perspective for you about your cousin.....you won't like it, but here it is. Her unresponsiveness to your messages sounds like she is not interested, but doesn't want to confront you about it. If I have read correctly, you said you have sent her 3 messages, all with no reply from her... You need to let her be. You are probably pushing her away. She is either not interested or not ready. If I were you (and I know this is extremely difficult--easier said than done), I wouldn't contact her anymore. See her on holidays with your family, don't be overly clingy because that tends to overwhelm/creep some girls out, and don't contact her in any way unless she reaches out to you. By that, I mean if she puts forth effort to have a friendship or more with you. She now knows how you feel, so be prepared if she ever writes you back. If she is not interested, let her go and move on with your life. You have to respect her wishes on the matter. I'm sorry to give you such bad news; I'm just trying to help based on what you've told us on this site. I wish you the best and I hope she comes around one day. Be patient and know if and when to move on.
  13. What drew you to your cousin?

    I was 13 the first time I met him (the last time I had seen him before that, I was 3 so that doesn't count lol). I thought several of my cousins were attractive and he was one of them, but he was a lot older than me and that added to the fact that we are cousins (and that at the time I thought it was abnormal), I didn't give him much thought. He was not interested in me romantically either. I was drawn to him (non-romantically) at this time though. Have you ever heard the quote: "character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you"? He has more character than anyone I've ever met. This quote describes who he is and is still, to this day, why I fell for him in the first place. It wasn't long after that first reunion that I realized I had feelings for him (and started repressing them, pushing them away, feeling abnormal, filling my life with every distraction I could, fighting my ever growing love for him over the next 14 years...) He has the gift of making anyone and everyone feel important, and he has never used it advantageously. He truly treats everyone the same, whether he can benefit from that particular friendship or not. I have never seen anyone else show this kind of selflessness before. I was a lonely kid. I had exactly one friend who was my friend most of the time. I was bullied. I felt like I didn't matter and contemplated suicide several times. My self esteem was at about -5. He made me feel, for the first time in my life, like I mattered. To quote one of my favorite movies, "[He] saw me when I was invisible..." He is truly amazing. I love him so ❤️
  14. I'm crazy in love with my first cousin

    Hi Ace, Has she given you any indication that she feels the same way about you? If so, how exactly? Also, what are your ages? Are either one of you involved with someone else? I am not an expert on this subject, but I've been hanging around here long enough to know we need a little more info in order to advise/help you.
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