It's been discussed. in Help / Advice Posted March 29, 2016 · Report reply I have spent lots of time with her but maybe not enough. She had mentioned that she had tried always being alone with me or making me company. I am a distant person however, & I pull away when people start getting close to me. We've stayed in, cuddling, & watched movies together before. I've gone to get her ice cream or anything she would ask of me. We've gone to the beach, & I was parading her around. These were of course on family trips. Distance is a factor that gets in the way of seeing her more often. Her & I both disliked that. I barely opened up my true feelings after her last visit, so I haven't been much of a romantic type before that. Her mind seems set on her viewpoint; mine is fixed on the opposite end. That's a problem. I could try what you suggested, but I worry in the end it might not be enough. Risks are risks. I already took one, so there's no hurting in taking a few more. Thank you for your feedback.