Hello, I have visited this site from time to time trying to work through what the consequences and what the benefits could possibly be if my first cousin and I had a relationship.
A little background, when I was 4 years old my mother divorced my father, she subsequently requested that my father give up his rights to me. I was then adopted by my mother's new husband. I didn't meet the majority of my father's family until I was 17, and didn't meet my cousin until I was 30.
Flash forward and now the reality is that we have a very strong connection and all feelings are reciprocated. We reside in Illinois and are looking through the statutes and it seems that there are a couple of gray areas left that we don't know for sure that we can get past.
First question, since I "legally" have no relationship with my cousin are we in the clear?
Second question is, she has had her tubes tied, does that fulfill the requirements of one of the parties under the age of 50 being sterile?
Third is she has a child from a past relationship, could there be possible repercussions with family services if someone found out what our status was and wanted to cause us a headache?
I realize that you cannot give legal advice, I am just seeking opinion and thoughts on if it is a solid possibility that we can make this happen in Illinois or should we just move to Tennessee or one of the other friendly states? Thanks in advance.