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  1. Hi KC, as you correctly stated Wikipedia is not an academic source and should only be used as a reality check. My personal opinion about wikipedia is that is not valid especially about history or politics issues. Quite often though it can be a starting point for a research. I didn't keep in mind the particular web page in the cc website, that's why i didn't mention it and thanks for you doing it. I would suggest Febin to make a new thread or change the title of this thread to something like «Is marriage with my first cousin legal or illegal in India?». This could attract members attention
  2. Well... in my country, Hellas (Greece), it was the 7th degree of relation the «safe» limit to «enter» such kind of relationships. In other words, second cousins were not allowed to get married, unless there was a valid reason for this and only under the permission of the bishop. Though the influence of the church has decreased over the hellenic society during the last 40 years (which is bad in my opinion), many people still believe that marrying your second cousin is kinda sick or illegal. The Hellenic Orthodox Church having realised the progress of Genetics (priests despite the blame, they do
  3. I am in love with my second cousin. Though i do recognise that's a situation much easier to handle than to be in love with your first cousin, there still problems on the way people realise the issue. Yeah, I have spoken to my friends about my feelings for her. My best friends reacted and still do in a very supportive and enthusiastic way. Some first cousins were ok with it, too. Most people actually neglect what Law, Church and Genetics say about the issue. Regardless if people approve or not cousin relationships, most of them don't have a clear idea about the Legislation. However, the head
  4. Hello Michael, i am an Hellene like you and in love with my second cousin, too! But… As i have said to another friend here in the phorum, I belong to those that they don't demonise cousin relationships but at the same time don't encourage other people to be engaged is such relationships, simply because such relations are not for all of us. The most important thing for me is to love and be loved. I would totally agree with KC. If you really love her and she does love, yeah this is all the matters. Check how your families would react by knowing about your relationship and be prepared to enc
  5. Don't be scared of words! In my mother tongue, you would be described as a distant aunt of him or he as a distant (third) nephew of you. I sketched a family tree in order to identify the degree of your relationship and talking about the hierarchy you are one level up to him. This made me to tell you that he is a distant nephew, though i know that the expression used in english is «Nth cousin removed x times» where N is 1 or 2 or 3 and x is once, twice, or three times. You ask «Wouldn't he be twice removed because he is the grandson of my mother's first cousin?» No. Your mother and h
  6. I belong to those that they don't demonise cousin relationships but at the same time don't encourage other people to be engaged is such relationships, simply because such relations are not for all of us. The most important thing for me is to love and be loved. Being in a relationship with a first cousin shouldn't cause the dramas we all know (in most western societies) but shouldn't be something treated lightheartedly. So, my advice is… wait! Wait to see if your attraction is deep and sentimental, or just a fling or a physical one. There are plenty of girls out there for the latter. If you rea
  7. If you live in the US please check this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage_law_in_the_United_States_by_state If you live in an another country, please let us know. The most likely is that you can marry your cousin legally. Good luck!
  8. You have a 7th degree relation with your distant nephew, or he is second cousin once removed. You have only 1.56% of common DNA and the coefficient of inbreeding is 0.78% !! In practice that means that the relation between you two is so weak as if you were two unrelated persons, say two strangers in the street. I don't think that there are legal or religious obstacles stopping a marriage between you, especially if you live in the USA. In my country, Hellas (Greece), few decades ago the 7th degree of relatedness was the threshold for validating a marriage (or not) and in some cases they could a
  9. Dear all at cc, I became member of your website in order to help people who are sentimentally connected with their cousin make their life as much easier as possible by providing them valid information. Hope this will be particularly useful for hellenic (greek) people who want to marry their second cousin or first cousin once removed (defteranipsiòs/defteranipsià in hellenic) but also for non Hellenes who would like to compare the reality towards the cousin marriage in their country with the hellenic one. First of all, i would like to inform friends here at cc that Hellas (Greece) is
  10. Hello Maya, i pressume from your (nick)name that your origin is hellenic (greek), as mine. As far as i can see, things are not that bad in your story. They could be far worse, believe me. It is a huge open window of hope the fact that your own family isn't very hostile with the idea itself of you dating your cousin. Thinking of marriage this now is too early, you have a whole life ahead of you two to make plans for it. Concerning love stories between first or second cousins within the so called western societies (North America and Europe) i came to the following conclusion after having re
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