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  1. So I'm in a bit of a dilemma at the moment, I'm in a relationship with my 1st cousin (My Aunties son) who is 21 and I am 19, and he is supposed to come to my Country to visit me in February for two weeks. He has never come to my Country before, I've always been the one to go to this Country since it's just much easier and cheaper than for him to come to mine. Everything is going amazing in our relationship after so many ups and downs and we're finally in such an amazing place and we love each other so much. In July I went to his Country for his sisters wedding and we were inseparable most of time and most of my family knew about us or found out which was okay but my Mum does not accept us being together at all despite the fact that she's close with a family member who are married and are cousins. She did everything she could to keep us apart and was constantly watching our every move. I live at home so when he comes to visit me in Feb we're going to stay in an Apartment together and as a cover story I was going to tell my Mum that I was planning a little trip with some friends for two weeks and I wasn't going to tell her he was coming to visit me. I know that if I tell her the truth she will do everything in her power to prevent me from staying with him or even seeing him and I'll have to fight with her and tell her I'm going anyway which could result in me getting kicked out and having no where to go. I can't let him come all the way here for nothing when it is so expensive for him to stay, for only two weeks in the Apartment alone. Me personally i'm okay with not telling her because I've waited so long to be with him and If she finds out that he came I'd deal with the consequences later, but he feels like we're hiding that we want to be together and he's worried that not telling my Mum that he's coming will cause more problems for me. I honestly have no idea what to do, Help!
  2. Thank you for your reply, I started telling people at my work that I have a boyfriend and I ended up in the position where I had to explain how we met and your comment really helped, I think I struggle with it as well because he finds it so simple to tell everyone that he's in love with me and were in a relationship and we're cousins and the fact that I can't admit it to people here hurts him I think. I don't think he really understand that living in Australia people don't accept it, well I haven't come across anyone who does or openly speaks about it, but in his country they're more open to it.
  3. So I'm currently in a relationship with my first cousin and he lives overseas I'm 19 and he's 21 and we've been seeing each other for about 9 months now and since them i've been able to seem him twice for two months and he's coming to see me in a few months again. I love him so so much and I've never felt this way about anyone in my life and I've finally gotten to the point where I know I want to be with him and I want to make it work so yesterday I decided to talk to my friend about it and I told her how I felt about him and if she'd support me with my decision to be with him but she kept telling me it was wrong to be with him and that I'd meet other guys and fall in love and that I'm still young and should wait until i'm like 28 to see if I still have feelings for him, but she wouldn't listen to how I feel about him, I've been through so much and dated so many different guys and it's so different to how I am with him. He sees who I really am and we've grown so close and know so much about each other. I can't even imagine being with anyone else in the future and I've thought about the consequences of being with him and people not accepting it and I deal with it everyday, I deal with my own family not accepting it everyday and still I want to be with him. What really hurt me is that she said I wouldn't be able to live here because people wouldn't accept it and that I'd have to live with him in his country but it's completely legal in both our countries. She told me it was my decision in the end and that she'd still support me no matter my decision but it doesn't feel that way. It just feels like it's so hard for me because I have no one to support me and my cousin isn't afraid to tell everyone that he's in a relationship with his cousin because people aren't as weird about it there and he has his mother and his family over there that support him as well as his friends but I don't have anyone. A lot of people at work know I have a boyfriend but just don't know he's my cousin and I know that it hurts him that I don't tell everyone we're cousins but I know that they're going to treat me differently and I've already faced so many obstacles living in Australia.
  4. I think most of you know how it starts, you haven't seen this cousin since you were kids and now as adults you find that there's something there that wasn't before. You tried everything you could to stop the way you felt but you couldn't and you found yourself falling in love with the one person that everyone would eventually say you couldn't be with, and I think you've fallen into the same predicament I have. I'm so in love with my cousin. Being with him just feels normal like it's meant to be. It doesn't feel wrong yet I feel conflicted when I'm around family members who found out and make me question every part of me that tells me I want to be with him. There are the people who accept it in my family but unfortunately the ones closest to me don't and it hurts so much. They refuse to understand that I love this man and that it's my decision. They make me feel like it's not my decision at all. I know in my heart that I love him. I think it's the purest thing i've ever felt for someone in my life. My love for him doesn't bring harm to anybody so I guess I find it hard to understand why people must treat you differently just because of the person you love. I live in Australia where it is legal to marry your cousin, but to show your love for your cousin is so taboo. I'm so scared of rejection from my friends here that I keep it a secret and I can't even tell people I have a boyfriend for fear that they'll ask the question how did you meet? I just find it so heart breaking that people have to go through this because they love a person.
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