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  1. hey everybody it's been a hot minute since i was on here but i had a question to ask and an update to begin is there anything in the bible that any says cousins in our degree can't marry? i keep reading and it doesn't say but list certain family members who you can't be with. Any advice? any and all is greatly appreciated. this is for 2nd and 3rd cousins Also me and my love are about to celebrate our first year of being together. most of it has been secret but we have made it here and hope to go farther and get married one day despite the oppisotion we will eventually face. He didn't graduate BCT and they sent him home after he was gone for 5 months. we kept in contact through letters. But needless to say he does want to go back and try again if things work out in the future. Now for me i graduated high school and started my college. My love comes and sees me on the weekends and and we spend nights together. WE've talked a lot about our future plans and if things work out for us we want to get married after i finish college and move to a different state. But i personaly am hoping to graduate in 3 years.
  2. so yesterday my family went out to eat after a busy day. well anyhow while eating my younger sister who is 14 brought up the subject of her being hit on by a classmate. So this sparked a whole conversation about dating. I was sitting there being quiet , eating and thinking about some things ( Including my boyfriend who happens to be my 3rd cousin down the line) Well recently we had (not because i really wanted to) gone to a family reunion that only had my great uncles family and no one else. While in the middle of this conversation my stepdad said that i fall in love with anybody who looks at me. This is not true. I used to struggle with self esteem issues and never was popular, skinny, etc. Now that im older i don't (im 19) im fixing to move out and i know i can make my own choices and i understand the consequences of my choices. I know that as an adult it's up to me on how i want to live my life. Well my stepdad said that something that was really hurtful and it was that i was lucky there were no boys at the family reunion. They always make fun of us about when they knew we were together. They will bring it up and in order for there not be an argument (we had one back in june over it) i pretend to go with it so it can be shut down quickly. But it really hurts when he brings it up in that way. I've done the research about and there is no laws and nothing against it except the taboo and how people feel. His family is fine with us and i've been in contact and they are really accepting of our realtionship and see nothing wrong in it. How do i deal with this. I'm still with my bf and they don't know. The jokes hurt and i've come to realize they will never accept us when the time comes to tell them. What do i do? how do go about it? I love him very very much and we've been together since january and we'll be at 7 months this august. How do i even combat the negativity? Any help or advice is very much appreaciated. This site has been very helpful and will continue to. Thanks, Browneyedgal
  3. Hey ya'll its been a while but i was curios on how the military views 3rd cousin marriage? like it is not allowed or do they even go that far into it? My Bf is in the military and we've been discussing marriage down the line if we work out in the end. Were not saying we want to get married ASAP like some military couples do. But what does the military do besid's know they are your spouse? Thanks for and feedback
  4. Hi pooch! thank you for responding, I've had had this thing with my love since january and he is my first actual realtionship. He means so much to me. He is kind , funny, caring , brave I could go on all day about him.
  5. So they other day i got into an argument with my parents about "when they knew i was with my love (3rd or 4th cousin)" They don't we are still together. They basically said they would have me thrown into an institution for mental help if i did try to be with him and they would shun me. Granted Im 19 and fixing to move out to go to college. My love is in basic training and will be until july. He plans to see me during the time im in school but i'll have to hide it from my parents even though i'll be out on my own making my own decisions. They brought up biblical references and i know that where it talks about who you can and can't marry it's ver specific. Even legally in my state of oklahoma there is nothing against us. They stated they couldn't control who i dated or who was with. But the seem want to control me. I dont want to use them but i'll have to saty in touch with my parents for financial stuff for federal aid. What should i do? His family is fine with us and are happy we are together and they want to see us happy. I do plan to marry him out of state after i graduate but i just need some help and advice on these threats. I told my family it wouldn't happen between me and him to stop the argument and appease them. I don't plan to talk about it or argue with them anymore. If they make jokes about i'll fake laugh about it if you get my point. Any legal help or advice or advice in general would help tremendously. ❤️ Nanner
  6. Im dating my 2nd cousin once removed is it okay to call him my 3rd cousin and so on?
  7. we are both 18 but i am 2 months older than him
  8. So i'm deeply in love with a cousin and im very confused on what type of cousin he may be all i know is that we are related through the same great garndparents for me and for him great great grandparents. So i need help trying to figure it all out. I've been calling him my 4th cousin but i could be wrong (i don't want to be, but its still very confusing) so i'll start with this: My great grandparents had 11 childern which to him are his great great grandparents. One of the 11 children was my grandfather and one was his great grandmother (who was older than my grandfather) my grandfather had 4 children his great grandmother had 4 (i think) One of my grandfather's children is my mother and one of his great grandmother's children is his grandmother my mother had 2 children (one of them is me) his grandmother had i think 2 children (could be wrong). His grandmother is my mother's first cousin. So what does that make me and him? Im very confused about it and i haven't been able to figure it out. All i know is that my immeadiate family is against us being together and his immeadiate family is not. All and any advice is greatly appreciated. ----------------------- Much love and thanks nanner
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