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  1. It reminds me of the chapter of Job. God had the devil take everything from Job, but Job stayed faithful to God, and ultimately, was rewarded by God. God sometimes sends us challenges to, not only test us, but also strengthen us. Think of some of the challenges we face as a workout to beef up our muscles 😉
  2. It's not impossible, as people have dated and married their cousins in history. Nowadays, I believe the issues with cousin relationships stem primarily from hearsay and misinformation.
  3. Remember - a married girl, whether a cousin or not, is always a big no in the bible! Fight off the temptation!
  4. So generally speaking, based on biblical and state laws, is it wrong to ask a second cousin out? "Burning that bridge" is a potential outcome that may come when asking a cousin or any girl out. You just need to be ready for whatever happens.
  5. I am sorry to hear about your divorce, KC. If your cousin/wife has been a large source of negativity on your life, then it's a good thing that you are separating yourself from her. Surround yourself with good people that can help you become better and stronger! Also, seeing that you are a fellow, Christian, seek God as well! Ask Him in what direction He wants you to take.
  6. There's nothing terrible about having an interest in a second cousin. As mentioned, its allowed by biblical and state laws. If there is a terrible idea, I believe it could be the fact that your cousin is under 18 (refer to KC's posts).
  7. Read my threads - I think it might help you. I, too, was rejected by my second cousin. What made it worse was that she had her family and relatives grill me on the whole matter and she even added various lies to make me look bad. Furthermore, other relatives mentioned that she and her family were interested in reuniting, provided that I apologize for my interest in her. As a Christian, do biblical and state laws prohibit the courtship and marriage of second cousins? No. If that is the case, why should I apologize for my interest in my cousin? Seeing the overall craziness and negativity of my cousin and her family, I knew it was time to cut ties with her and her family for good. My advice is don't go suicidal over one girl. Rejection is part of the courting game. If one girl rejects you, then move on to the next one. Keep searching until you find one that loves you for you. A girl that loves you will respect you for who you are and for nothing else.
  8. Thank you Nattana and KC for your support and advice. I will also check out the books you have recommended!
  9. I agree with you, Nattana. They are incredibly, nasty people. They make it seem that a cousin attraction is the "sin of all sins". Also, my cousin has added lies to make me look pretty bad. On the other hand, I am glad this incident occurred, as it has exposed their "true colors". It's only in troubling, trying times that you know who your true friends are. Moving forward, I am going to ensure that future generations from my family avoid and not acknowledge any ties or relations with them. An important lesson to learn - just because some people are your relatives does not mean you should trust them. As Jeremiah 9:4 (NIV) states: Jeremiah 9:4 New International Version (NIV) 4 “Beware of your friends; do not trust anyone in your clan. For every one of them is a deceiver,[a] and every friend a slanderer."
  10. For background information, please read this thread first: My relatives said that my second cousin and her family were interested in getting back together, but wanted me to apologize for my interest in my cousin. Upon hearing this, I did not know whether to laugh or get angry. It has been one of the most bizarre and twisted types of logic I have ever encountered. Is it against the bible to marry your second cousin? No. Is it against U.S. laws to marry your second cousin? No. Upon hearing their statement, I have decided to cut all ties, communications and relations with my cousin and her family permanently. I do not want to ever have people like them associated with my family and I. Please share your inputs, feedback and experience on this matter. Thank you for reading!
  11. While God allows the marriage of cousins, he does not allow adultery. Because you are married, I would kindly advise you to stay away from your cousin. Continuing what you are doing is going to lead you to a lot of serious trouble and problems in the long run.
  12. Agreed. God may allow cousin marriages, but he does not allow adultery.
  13. As KC perfectly sums up Leviticus 18, it is about who you can and cannot marry. At first, when you read Leviticus 18:6, you will automatically think that you are not to approach any of kin for marriage. But when you read further, you realize that the bible specifies which kin you could not marry. Based from Leviticus 18, you cannot marry your father, mother, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, niece, nephew, daughter-in law, son-in law and so forth. However, when you scroll through the list, you then see that cousins are not on the list, meaning that God allows the marriage of cousins, explaining why many in the bible married their cousins. Now, let's say you are a Christian and meet a cousin and the two of you fall in love - what is next? You need to take a look at man's laws in regards to cousin marriage. As Romans 13:1 (NIV) states, 13 "Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God." Every country has their laws for cousin marriages. For the U.S., many states have restrictions with 1st cousin marriages, but with 2nd cousin marriages and above, they are legal in all 50 states. Always check your state's laws and or consult an attorney when getting specific advice about marriage with your cousin. I am pretty sure for many, your family and relatives finding out about your relationship may cause major issues and rifts. However, if you, your cousin and your families are Christians, a marriage between you and your cousin should technically not be a problem. But realistically, because people are still tied to the ways and cultures of the world, most would look at cousin marriages as odd or even vile. But just remember, as Christians, our most important question is: What does God think about it? As Matthew 6:33 (NIV) states, 33 "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."
  14. Sorry KC, I referenced the wrong member. It has been corrected 😊
  15. I will also quote the King James Version (KJV) as well: 6 None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover their nakedness: I am the Lord. 7 The nakedness of thy father, or the nakedness of thy mother, shalt thou not uncover: she is thy mother; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 8 The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness. 9 The nakedness of thy sister, the daughter of thy father, or daughter of thy mother, whether she be born at home, or born abroad, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover. 10 The nakedness of thy son's daughter, or of thy daughter's daughter, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover: for theirs is thine own nakedness. 11 The nakedness of thy father's wife's daughter, begotten of thy father, she is thy sister, thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 12 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father's sister: she is thy father's near kinswoman. 13 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister: for she is thy mother's near kinswoman. 14 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father's brother, thou shalt not approach to his wife: she is thine aunt. 15 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy daughter in law: she is thy son's wife; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 16 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy brother's wife: it is thy brother's nakedness. 17 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, neither shalt thou take her son's daughter, or her daughter's daughter, to uncover her nakedness; for they are her near kinswomen: it is wickedness. 18 Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time. 19 Also thou shalt not approach unto a woman to uncover her nakedness, as long as she is put apart for her uncleanness. 20 Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour's wife, to defile thyself with her. 21 And thou shalt not let any of thy seed pass through the fire to Molech, neither shalt thou profane the name of thy God: I am the Lord. I am in full agreement with KC 😀. Unlike the laws of man, God's laws remain the same and do not change. When in doubt, seek God first. Seek Him and read his Word. Only then will truth, knowledge and wisdom come to you. I hope this thread helps out other Christians that are having troubles or issues in regards to this topic.
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