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  1. Hello everyone I will explain my story which is not too short.. I am 36 years old from Greece and I am in a romantic relationship with my first cousin the last 2 years.His mother was (she is not alive)my father's sister. My family like all the families in Greece is too close with relatives but this cousin grew up in another country so we didn't grow up together. I have always remembered myself in love with him.I met him only in summer and I was really happy to see him.From the age of 9 I started telling everyone that I love him and I will marry him one day. At the age of 13 I kissed him.We were at my parents bedroom and he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I told him not but I love someone.when he asked me who I loved i told him that I love him and I kissed him. After that In four years time he got married and he had a child.Then he came to Greece and we spent the summer together.We were crazy in love and we didn't care about anyone.He told me that he really loves me but we can't be together.I was so much in love with him.After 3 months he left back to his country and after a week I realised I was pregnant.. I was devastated.I called him and he told me to keep the baby.I was mad and scared.I told him that it was his fault and he should leave me alone.I was very young.17 years old,alone,with no money and any doctor to accept the abortion.My best friend helped me and we finally found a doctor who did the operation. After that I was never the same person..Everything changed.I was broken in hundred pieces.I started blaming myself.I was thinking it was my fault.How did I let it happen.I was mad with me.He didn't try to reach me then until the next summer after the abortion when he came to Greece and he tried to find me but I avoided it.I avoid seeing him for 17 years.I spent 17 years of my life blaming myself for what happened. I felt guilty to my parents eyes and I didn't feel ok with myself because I had sex with my first cousin.I was very young to control all these emotions and the result was to make it seem bigger than it was.If I had someone to advice me then I would not torture myself so much all these years concerning the guilts. Almost 2 years before our favourite aunt my father's second sister died.I tried to do everything not to go to the funeral because I knew that I would see him.Unfortunately I couldn't avoid it and after 17 years I had to face it. When I got off my father's car all the relatives were at the yard.The only person I saw was him.Everyone was like wasn't there.i couldn't see anyone,only him.Very strange.Like a movie.when you freeze the screen and no one moves.Only me and him.I approached him and I told him hello cousin we haven't seen each other for so many years and I feel sorry that we are meeting under these circumstances.He didn't speak.He couldn't say a word.He lost his voice. We went to the funeral and then we went to my village.when we stayed alone he told me that he wants to talk about the past.I told him that i didn't remember anything from the past.He asked my nieces my Facebook account because I had a secret name and he couldn't find me and next he sent me a friend request.I didn't accept at first.The next day he was flying back to his country.He sent me messages all the time on messenger.He was telling me that he has always loved me.He had a shock when he saw me.He was thinking of me all these years. The result is that we are in a romantic relationship now and I don't know what to do.in these 2 years he broke up with his wife.He has 3 children.He wants to live together.He wants to tell everyone the truth.He says that he can't handle to lose me for a second time because of fear. I really know that my father will die if I told him.I am sure that he knows about the past.he never talked to me but I know.The only thing he told me was that I can't marry my first cousin.My cousin came to Greece for the summer now.he stays to my home.no one knows that. yesterday another cousin got married and I called my father to tell him to go to the marriage with my female cousin and him.He got so mad.He told me why with him!you can come with us.Finally i decided to go to the marriage with my female cousin but something bad happened.When my cousin left my home he crashed with a taxi driver and his car is now broken.Fortunately he is ok and noone discovered the truth that he was in my home but i feel that my father knows the truth.In addition I realised that my father doesn't even want to hear that I will have a coffee with him!not to mention a romantic relationship.I am very scared.I don't know what to do.I am scared if anything bad happens with his health if he finds out about all these.I need your advice.I am very confused. My description was very detailed,I am sorry if some of you got tired but I needed it so much.
  2. Hello, I am nervous to share my story but I need to now with people who understand. My older first cousin (he is 38 and I am 33) who I was very good friends with for about 9 years before the below, asked me to take a trip with him 5.5 years ago. I had been looking after my Dad who was recovering from Cancer, so now that he was improving, I welcomed the break. My cousin lives and works in another State and always has. My cousin was always very protective with me and I really liked our relationship. The first morning of the trip, he came on to me in bed and I was in complete shock. I loved him and thought that if he was doing this, it must be okay. Sounds naive, I know. The next day he did it again and we ended up being intimate. I was really confused and in shock I think. I still am, 5.5 years later. This continued and we developed feelings for each other, however he initiated everything. He mentioned getting married and wanted us to have kids, etc. We went on another trip and he told me that he wanted to take a chance on us and to trust him. He said he’d never hurt me... I trusted him and cared a lot about him. I knew he had a drinking problem but I was used to that as my Dad drank a lot. Not a good thing, I know. We continued our trips and love affair but his exes would always text him and I didn’t like it. I wanted to focus on the future, not the past. He said he couldn’t control it and it continued. I also saw a text conversation between him and a girl in his phone with “xoxo” but I didn’t know what it was and never said anything. I always knew he was a “ladies man” but I thought it would be different as we were so close and cousins. I was always his rock and he always called me whenever anything important happened. He got mad at me on a trip because I spoke to his brother on the phone when he didn’t want me to. They never really got along well. He thought I might be pregnant this whole trip even though I said I wasn’t. We went to get a test and it was negative. He was very mad and slept on the couch and almost flew home early. He never would explain why he got so mad, but after that, everything blew up. He literally dropped me off at a hotel by myself to catch a flight back home the next day. I was crushed and very angry. For the next 5 years, he would call and text constantly when he wanted and then disappear again. He was never there when I needed him. Not once. He was drinking and partying with women he meets online and had no time for me anymore. I still had feelings and he would act romantic with me and then disappear again and again. In March of 2017, we saw each other for the last time and it was actually a nice trip. Things improved for a while after and then he got distant again and I figured there was someone else. At the end of the month, I had a pregnancy scare. He was psychotic over it and when I said I wasn’t and sent him a picture of the test, he was very angry. Then he disappeared again. It turns out, in early April 2017, he slept with a woman he met online and a few months later, she told him she was pregnant. He was still calling me all this time and would call up to 50+ times if I didn’t answer. The baby is now born and they aren’t together. It broke my heart that he impregnated someone right after we were together. He called me a couple weeks ago several times when the baby was born and was saying how awful the situation is for him and how sorry he was for hurting me. He was drunk of course. I am now an emotional mess and isolate myself a lot as I am heart broken that my friend and cousin treated me like a disposable doll. I really did love him and it felt very right, which we both said. He ended up telling his brother about us because his brother asked he said. I have only ever told one friend he is my cousin. My Mom once asked if we were dating but I just ignored it. I have been having suicidal thoughts for a few years now and have been working with a therapist about it. I am now on antidepressants and have changed a lot. I feel that if he can do this to me, anyone can, so I am exhausted trying to heal. Did I make a mistake other than being a naive young woman (28 when it began)? I think he was wrong to mislead me for sex all these years. I am his little cousin after all . Thank you for reading this.
  3. Hello my name is Luna, I'm 30 and my second cousin has always been my first love. Growing up we where both close and we always understood each other. I was the black sheep in my family and was always bullied. Even at a young age I understood what I felt for him wasn't appropriate for family and it was taboo. We can talk about anything and every as kids. When I was in the 6th grade I moved away from the islands and came to the states. I lost all forums of contacts with him. I thought it was safe not to send letters or draw attention that we where writing to each other. My family hated that I had other members on my side. We didn't see each other again till I was 15and he was 17. His brother was graduating high school so his family few in from Guam.All I can say was the chemistry was still there with added teenage hormones. We picked up like old times and the years apart didn't change anything. Nothing major happened, sitting next to him, or our hands touching sent me chilis and I can tell by the look in his eyes he had it to. We where both too afraid to do anything that summer and he left to go back home. 2 years later his family moved state side and a few blocks away from were I lived. We acted normal around family and didn't try to act like we were close, but when we had the chance we found ourselves alone, we would talk, kiss, touch each other. When I turned 18 I found a job and was in my last year in high school, I found a boyfriend to try and distance myself from him, we both did anyways. We still saw each other at family functions and no matter how hard we try to stay away from each other we always end up next to each other. So we didn't fight it. I got married and have 2 kids (not his) and we secretly have sex we with each other till years ago when I moved to a different state. We still keep in contact and send naughty text to each other. Is it normally that I want a life with him? I haven't told him how I truly feel because I'm afraid that it's something he won't want. We both agreed it just sex but what person doesn't get attached to another person having sex with someone. Needs advice This post is from July fyi: I'm not married. I told my cousin how I felt about him. 11/04/17
  4. Well, I recently met a cousin of mine (We're both 13, but he's a few months older than me) and I think I have a crush on him. We instantly hit it off once we met and became good friends, but now he's gone back home. When he was here (at my great grandparent's house), he would let me use his shoulder as a pillow, would allow me to wear his favorite baseball cap, chased me around for hours, gave me/accepted my hugs when he would reject my 8 year old brother's and everyone else's, and he's given me his number/let me see his number so I could put it in my phone. Does this mean that he might like me?
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