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Do U ever get over cousin love?

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I think I do have a verdict. Cuz and I have been apart for 6 months now and yes, it gets easier. We were together for 20 years! I admit that I have brief moments where I want to toss the nuckles and pistol in the truck and drive up there. I've watched too many mob movies. I would never put myself in that position. I would like to meet her new boyfriend, however, with that mouth and attitude that he has.

It does take some time to get your bearings straight. I remember other girls that I thought I would never get over at the time. You can get over anyone. Move on. It's easier every day.

I do have some philosophical conclusions too: people are who they are, not who you want them to be. If you are not married and your significant other is doing something that you can't stand, cut him or her loose. You will not change them. That's my best advice.

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Guest lilly

Hmm.... i am crazy about my cousin im in love i guess, but i am also thinking its lust the feelings i have for him are so strong i could get a knife and cut them....its all really sad and messed up, once i was asleep and he kissed me, i kne i was crazy about him but i was in denial  he knew i felt the same way about him but there wasnt any any point  i thought to myself all i ever wanted from him was just to be his favourite person like his best friend that was enough for me ... but he wanted much more he was  out of control. but i believe its possible to get over it its easier said than done but its posssible im sure it is with hard work things should be able to change for the better

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Me and my family live abroad, I was born and raised in London, and obviously he (my cousin) lives abroad. Usually my family go down once a year to see the family. I am 23 and he is the 22, with just a few months between us.

While I used to travel back home throughout my childhood, we always used to be very close, and used to play around and mess around a lot. As I grew older and went through my hormonal stages as a teenager I started to develop feelings for him. We would flirt a lot and always loved being around each other. Unfortunately I was more into him than he was me at that point. I wouldn't call it love - because I was young, I was 16, and hormonal.

Came back to London and carried on with my life as normal, got into a relationship and all was fine. A few year later at around 18/19 I traveled back, that year the tables had turned and this time he seemed to have developed feelings for me. He told me that he spoke to his mum (my aunty) about me , and told her that he wants to marry me. He also that year proposed to me, and told me that he wanted to be with me. But I wasn't in the right mind frame and was still in love with my ex, so I wasn't thinking about my cousin in that way. So I had to tell him no.

We carried on with our Normal lives once again. Every year I'd travel something would happen between us. For example, I was sleeping over. He came and kissed my for head before he left for work. He held me in his arms once I woke up.. And he also took his necklace off and put it around me (as I kept telling him how much I liked it and wanted the same one).. We would always have moments like that, even when in that moment in time nothing was going on with us. We have just always had chemistry. Even as we grew older we would still play fight. He would feed me, eat after me and drink after me, look after me, is always very protective over me, and just things like that.

We've always had a connection.

This year I went back down, my stay was for a month and a week. (Usually its between a month or two)..

The moment I saw him you could just feel the chemistry, as usual. Two weeks into my stay he asks me if I like him. I get very stuck with my response to him. I don't give him an answer and I ask him why he's saying all this to me, why he's asking me (this was all face to face). Anyway he told me that he wouldn't tell me until I gave him an honest answer.

So after an hour of trying to think, I told him that I did have slight feelings but that even if I was fully in love with him, whatever we have can't go anywhere. He kept asking me why not, and I said my parents won't agree after what happened with my sister (as my older sister had similar experience with a cousin, but she was a much younger age.. Like 17/18).. And all I could remember was my parents reaction. So basically I gave him no hope, I think its because I'm scared of the truth.. Which is I do love him, but if it was to go further then it'll be like I'm going to be in a big war.. And its not that I don't want to fight for him, but there are so many reasons, which I will explain.

But to carry on with my story, three weeks after he asked me if I liked him, another incident happened - no one was at his house, And I had dropped him off home as he let me borrow his car. This was the day before I was leaving to come back to London. I looked at the time and I asked if I could come up to do my online check in. So he said that's fine. As it was my last day, I had. So many people I needed to see. I got up to his house at 5:21pm.. I was only planning on staying no longer than 15/20 mins. His friend came over, chilled for a but and then left. I was about to leave and I felt he was upset so I trued to see what was wrong with him.. That then turned into play fighting (on his bed).. Which then led to 2 hours and a half of cuddling and spooning. He kept tickling me and then when I couldn't take it anymore he just held me in his arms, and I just stayed there lost track of time and just didn't want to leave. Throughout this period he attempted to kiss me twice. I guess we did kiss.. But I have never kissed anyone before, which he already knew, And so I panicked and told him I couldn't. And every 20 mins I would look at him and keep asking him "what are we doing, I'm leaving tomorrow - this is wrong because I'm going to hurt you! I don't want to hurt you" and he replied with "I don't care as long as i get to spend these hours with you! Don't worry about my feelings"

I left his at 8:30ish.. I saw him on the day I was leaving to give him his car Back, we saw each other and just gazed at each other. Didn't mention what had happened the night before. He dropped me home and that was it!

I got back to London, and i guess you could say my feelings were very strong! Constantly thinking about him.. Always!! And the jokes on me now because i believe I'm in love with him.

I tried to message him many time's, but he was being very distant, one worded answers, and very uncomfortable to talk to! All I wanted to know was how he feels and what he makes of what happened, but he would never elaborate every time I asked him!!

I wrote a status and said "all I'm asking for is your honesty, I'm not asking for much" - he knew this was directed at him, so he messaged me and told me that we need to move on and close the door on this chapter in our lives. I told him why. He said "because even you told me this can't happen and your parents won't agree" - I said that was then and this is now. But he wouldn't listen.

I told him I don't regret it, and he tells me he does (I don't believe him). . in the end he blocks me and deletes me of WhatsApp and Facebook.. And all I want to do is see him! I hate feeling like this!!

Some may ask why it can't happen so here we go:

I live in London he lives in Lebanon

So if i was to go ahead with this, then either he has to come and live with me or me live there. And as much as I love my country, I won't be able to live there. And for him to come to England could take up to 4 years because its not easy!

He is the eldest out of him and his sister, and his dad is not alive, meaning he has to provide for my aunty and be there for her when she needs a man around the house! My aunt is also extremely attached to her children, so the thought of him leaving will kill her - I can't take him away from his mum.. It won't be fair

I graduated, still yet don't work within my field, but I want to work on getting my am career going! He dropped out of school, and works in my uncles cornet shop. I don't care if he doesn't have a degree or an education, but we are heading in different directions - I want to make something of my life, and he has settled for that. So if we were to buy a house or have a future it would be hard.

Lebanon isn't the safest of countries, and I have more opportunity in London to become who I want to and I have everything I need and that I am used to.. So it would be like I'm going from great to not great.

And then there is my parents, I'm not sure what they would say about it, but my sister told me that in the end they would cave in.

I need help because I just don't know what to do, and I will be in lebanon in a few days. Just for 18 hours, but even so.

Regardless,I think off him a lot. I think I'm partially in love with him and I don't know what to do and how he feels! I'm so stuck: (

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Guest Cecilia

I'm currently 18 years old and I've been in love with my cousin for 8 years.

It's always been so rough on me because for years we have been off and on. Never in a real relationship and always knowing that we will never have the chance to be happy with each other. Because of our families it's impossible.

We see each other every now and then for family parties. And it's always so cold because we have to avoid each other.

It's so hard to get over him. Just knowing that I can't be with him forever or be able to wake up next to him kills me. I have tried for 4 years to get over him because it's not healthy for me. I know he's fine with out me and that hurts most. I hope one day I can be with him. Even if it's in the next life time. I want to be with him. It's a strong bond that you can never have with anyone else. Like a magnet trying to attach itself to where it should be. And now I have to live and watch as he progresses in life and marries who ever he does. It sucks. So I say it's very much impossible to "get over" being in love with your cousin. No matter what happens, even a single thought, could just make you fall in love even more.

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Honestly I have feelings for her and I'm glad I'm not alone on this, thought something was wrong with me.. It's not right but it happens..  Maybe one day I'll get over her and sometimes I THINK she feels SOMEWHAT the same but it's hard to tell. Is it bad that I hope she feels the same...  God help me ?

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It's not right but it happens, God can't help with #128546 lol.  

Honestly I have feelings for her and I'm glad I'm not alone on this, thought something was wrong with me.. It's not right but it happens..  Maybe one day I'll get over her and sometimes I THINK she feels SOMEWHAT the same but it's hard to tell. Is it bad that I hope she feels the same...  God help me ?

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What is her name lol?

Honestly I have feelings for her and I'm glad I'm not alone on this, thought something was wrong with me.. It's not right but it happens..  Maybe one day I'll get over her and sometimes I THINK she feels SOMEWHAT the same but it's hard to tell. Is it bad that I hope she feels the same...  God help me ?

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you hope that she feels the same way and even if she does feel the same way, what can you do about the fact that she is your cousin. Not trying to discourage you or make you feel bad, just stating the fact. But, I am still wondering what does this #128546 means? Is it just a random number or a clue hoping that your cousin would see it and recognize you on this website?

Honestly I have feelings for her and I'm glad I'm not alone on this, thought something was wrong with me.. It's not right but it happens..  Maybe one day I'll get over her and sometimes I THINK she feels SOMEWHAT the same but it's hard to tell. Is it bad that I hope she feels the same...  God help me ?

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glx,  it really doesn't matter what her name is. This site prides itself on anonymity.

The fact that he has used random numbers and symbols to "identify" her is his business.

I do believe you are a troll. This is a warning to  discontinue as such or steps will be taken to limit your access to these boards.

If you honestly and sincerely want to become a member of this site and have legitimate questions, concerns

or advice that can possibly help someone then please register.

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Guest anonamous

well

no i dont think you can get over your cousin once you have crossed a line theres no going back

im inlove with my cousin and i cant tell you our story but i fr cried my eyes out 2 days ago over him

i have liked him ever since i wus 9 and im older now (im not saying) but yeah i cant get over him worth nothing and idk

we text everynight since last year unless he wus doing something but nope once you fall inlove with your cousin no going back but yep

there something different with cousin love i dont even know

anywho no getting over it

email meh if you want the whole story and once i get 2 know u ill tell you

also if you like your cousin tell him/her they have a right to know dont hide it express it

it will feel so much better gettin off your chest and dont listen to the people who make fun of you over it its their opinion do what feels right for you hoped this helped bai  <3

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I have never even slept with my cousin but I'm very much under her spell, it's been 10 plus years now and I'm still trying to break down that wall..

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I have never even slept with my cousin but I'm very much under her spell, it's been 10 plus years now and I'm still trying to break down that wall..

Me too, it has been over a decade but just one eye contact is enough to mess up everything. Feelings resurface especially after seeing him. I try hard to ignore him or at least pretend like he don't exist but my mind is  always thinking about him.

I am glad that I never slept with him, or else I wouldn't be able to control my feelings.

I am already scared and excited at the same time to see him this year. Call me mean, but I wish we were not related.

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I was in a 'relationship' with my cousin. We are actually half 2nd cousins, but we are also related by marriage and have a close family. There were other cousin love match ups in the family, but no one likes to acknowledge it. Other family members were actually jealous of our pairing, so they sabotaged us and my love caved in and married someone beneath standards. There's a deeper back story to this, but I do not want to go there. I let him go because he was pressured into marrying that girl and i needed him to make a decision by himself. Plus he needed to mature a little more. They ended up having children together (she trapped him on purpose), one I don't think is even his (but that's another story), I cannot have anymore children because I had my tubes tied after my 2nd child. I am 8 years older than him but we had a powerful connection. I think he still feels the same, but I did not want to be his secret concubine while he's married to someone else. My sister had a relationship with another cousin and we all would hang out sometimes. It was a beautiful setup, like our own little club, but the percieved pressure of the family destroyed something beautiful. Actually after fighting for us from my side, I got the support of the elders in the family to accept, but he had to stand up. They would only accept us if he came forward. But he didnt...... He and our little 'support group' helped me thru a very hard time. The times I had with him were the most beautiful in my life. I had thought I was in love before, but when I was with him, it felt more real than anything else I've ever known. I still can't get over him completely. He's still fresh in my mind and heart. He had the choice of choosing me or her, he chose the easy route, even though I know he felt deeply for me. I would have fought for our love with him. He was too scared. I still think about him, but I don't go out of my way to hang around him like i used to. I respect his choice even though it hurts. However, if things go another way and we reunited someday, I would absolutely be with him, no question or second guess. I will love him always.

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