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Well, I recently met a cousin of mine (We're both 13, but he's a few months older than me) and I think I have a crush on him. We instantly hit it off once we met and became good friends, but now he's gone back home. When he was here (at my great grandparent's house), he would let me use his shoulder as a pillow, would allow me to wear his favorite baseball cap, chased me around for hours, gave me/accepted my hugs when he would reject my 8 year old brother's and everyone else's, and he's given me his number/let me see his number so I could put it in my phone. Does this mean that he might like me?

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