So my 2nd cousin is coming out for vacation and we’ve been talking over the phone for the last several months before she gets here to New York. I have a crush on her, but not sure she is interested in me. During our talks she has said she wants to do molly with me and get super drunk. She said that she is down for anything, knows we are going to be sleeping in the same bed when she comes out. We’re both in our late 30’s, and the family is not really a factor. We’ve seen each other maybe a total of four times our whole lives but have always kept in touch
She’s been sending me pics of what she’s going to wear when she’s out here, telling me things like her butt is hanging out of her romper and that she needs help from me zipping her dresses up.
Then there are moments when she completely shuts down and I don’t hear from her for a couple of days. Then she will hit me back up like nothing happened... however yesterday she was extremely short with me, and I didn’t hear from her today. I’m giving her whatever space she needs.
We have already planned a trip for Australia together in the winter and again she knows we’re sharing a bed, and it’s just going to be us and another trip to France in the summer. She says things like “What if you find someone, you won’t want to go with me” and I’ll reply with the same question and she’ll say she never wants to date again
She’s single and I’m single... no kids.
So I guess my question is, does it sound like she’s open to whatever happens when she comes out here? Knowing she is down to drink and do molly with me, staying in the same bed, chatting back and forth etc, or is she just coming out to have a good time? Am I reading too much into the partying aspect of the trip?
She has never alluded to wanting to hook up, but would she? I’ve never alluded either.
Hi, I'm an absolute newbie and I love that this website exists. Right, to the point! I'm not gonna bore you with the details of my love story, but I will say that I've had a really difficult time digesting the fact that my cousin and I want to get married.
You see, I was one of those people who thought cousin marriages were gross and that there were billions of other people in the world so no one should have a relationship, let alone marry, their cousins. Boy oh boy how karma likes to bite you back in the arse!
I fell in love with my first cousin who lived two oceans apart, I really rarely saw him so he wasn't like a brother or anything close, you could say a stranger? We never really spoke, I just about recognised who he was.
Anyway, I know I shouldn't care about what people think, but it gets to me when people say things like "Ew that's incest."
I don't know, I just think it's so hurtful when people say horrible degrading things like "oh it's like sleeping with your brother"... I don't consider it incestuous at all, but upon researching cousin marriages, I came across some people who felt strongly about it being incest. That grosses me out and makes me see my husband-to-be in a different light.
I know, I know, I shouldn't care, but I need reassurance that marrying your cousin isn't actually gross, or incest. I feel disgusted at the prospect of being in a potentially incestuous relationship, and I suppose my judgement is clouded by other people's opinions, so I need some positive opinions to realise that the world isn't full of haters.
My second cousin and I have been in a relationship for 6 months now. He's the best boyfriend I've ever had, he treats me with respect, love, care, everything a man is supposed to treat a woman. I told my mother right away about us and she was accepting. She treats him with respect. He told his grandparents and they adore us together. They see how much love we have for each other.
It took us a while to tell my father...I told my little sister and I asked her to keep it s secret. I know I shouldn't have told her but she was the only one I knew who can keep it. I hate keeping secrets because I don't think it's fair to anyone.
My little sisters helped my boyfriend and I tell my father. They gathered everyone in the household outside and that's when we confessed our love for each other to them. My father didn't react the way I thought he was going too he was calm, but I know he wanted to kill my boyfriend. It ended with him saying I can't hate you two because either way you guys are family.
So we've been going around him to make him use to us being a couple....until last night my father finally told us about how he really feels.
I know we had 6 months with each other while he has had only a week in a half to cope. The conversation he had with my boyfriend and I made me cry. My father was putting my past relationships in my current one and saying how I am going to deal with this if anyone finds out. People are going to tell me how did I let this happen...hence I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 28 years old. We are adults. I told my dad if they have a problem maybe they should talk to me and stop thinking of me as a little girl.
I don't know what to tell him and I can't tell him how to feel either. Anyone have to deal with this? They act as if we don't know what we are doing when we researched so much before deciding to be together.
Any thoughts of advice?