I will apologize for the length of this in advance. So I am extremely new to this and am looking for advice or even stories from people who have been in similar situations. So I have had a crush on my second cousin from the time I was a teenager (now 35). (His dad and my dad are first cousins and bffs) I never thought it was ever a possibility and even felt disgusting and wrong for even thinking it. However I still did do the whole daydreaming thing anyway. He works for my fathers company. We worked together for years. Not anymore though. PopHe is actually my dads protégé and everyone loves him. His father has even said to both of us that he wishes his son could find a girl like me. Anyway I have been married and divorced. He was away for a few years and he got home recently. And since he has been back I can FEEL it I’m my bones that he feels a little something, at the very least attracted. So we’ve just acted normal the past few months. But I noticed when he sees me he can’t hold my gaze for too long and gets a little even shy maybe. So I recently quit smoking and one night about three weeks ago I was having a particularly hard craving and I texted him to see if he was around to talk me down from my crazy (he is super calm and chill to my spaz). So I wound up going over and hanging out with him and his dad. It was awesome, we all had a blast over some wine. He insisted I sleep in his bed and he on the couch. I barely slept that night. It was like I could feel an invisible mist floating between us. I could almost feel that he wished he was in the room with me. But nothing happened. So after that we have been texting a good bit. And he is always so complimentary of me and always trying to get me to see myself better. Finally I could not hold out anymore and I had to know. So when I saw an opening I took it. We were texting and he was at someone house for dinner and I said oh sorry I didn’t mean to interrupt your night out. He said it’s fine I always have time for you. So I took it. I said man I wish me and you could be a thing. And he said aw if you weren’t my cousin I would. So I said “I mean barely. But I get what you’re saying. “ to which he replied “are you just trying to see what I would say or are you serious” I said I’m kind of serious why is that creepy and he said no just let me know and don’t second guess. So it winds up he he also attracted. He is hesitant cause of what people would think and I said that’s not even a thought right now. No one has to know. So we hung out that night. Had an amazing night with some adult time included. So I find myself texting him first a lot. But he ALWAYS responds right away and is very engaged in the conversation. So I went over Friday night and we had a good night again but we were drinking so there was some trouble in that area. Which was fine for me cause I still loved every second. I felt like something shifted though when right before we went to bed and I asked how he felt about this and he said good it just sucks cause again of what people would think. So I got a little feisty and said I don’t care what people think. If the time comes to that who cares. I’m 35 and will do what makes me happy. Anyway it was just. It as comfortable as that first night so I left while he was still sleeping cause I just felt a weird vibe and I wanted to get out of there. So I texted him that I didn’t want to wake him and had to get in work early. He didn’t reply even though he always does. So like an hour later I texted back asking if he was up and sorry for dipping out but didn’t want to wake him. He just said cool. Which is kind of short. So then I say are we good and he just goes yea. Now it’s been radio silence. I am an over thinker to the max and I don’t want to ruin this before it even starts. I never even thought I’d get this far. But I SWEAR he has feelings for me, not just attraction. I want to find out but don’t want to push or rush. He was very let’s go with the flow. I haven’t texted and he hasn’t texted. I’ll if I should wait it out or say we need to talk and be clear on where I stand cause I don’t think I communicated it very clearly. I think he more thinks I was putting it out there like a friends with benefits thing and doesn’t realized I have serious feeling for him. I guess I just am looking for people who have been through this. If we weren’t family it wouldn’t be a thing. I just have a gut feeling this is supposed to be but I’m petrified he isn’t feeling that. Anyway any comments would be appreciated. I feel like I am going crazy!! Thanks in advance.
By Bel Handcraft
21 years ago (we dated for one year) I started dating my 26 year old cousin George. It began and the Handcraft family reunion and I remember us both getting drunk and we made love in my parents' bedroom. Ever since then I always called him "Horny Georgie". We both thought it was cute. We were happy until recently I found out we was banging my super slut sister I now call "the family wanker tanker". I was absolutely heartbroken and filed for divorce swiftly. Or at least i wish it was swift, there were many tears shed and harsh words thrown about; I remember "bel the bad smell" being used multiple times.
I honestly don't know what to do with myself I started drinking and its not helping ill nwver meet ansother man like him helk
We met 20 years ago and we didn't know if we were related. 3-5months later, he found out that his grandma was my dad sister. Of course, when we were a kid we got whopping when my dad found out. I came to America and we still communicated, still got whooping. I was not allowed to use the phone either internet. Meant there was no way I could get in touch with him. He is in America and he is 34 and I 32 years old. I was married and separated from my kids' father, was in a long term relationship for 6 years, unfortunately, it didn't work. He married and remarried, his marriage didn't work either. We decided to be together now. We plan on Having kids and get married too. I am the only daughter in my family ?my father and my brothers are really angry ?upset with us. But he makes me happy so do I. We are connected, In love...etc. My kids (13&8) have approved him and want him to adopt them. What do you guys think??
I was 17 and my cousin was 22.She came my home at my sister marriage.At that time seriously I have no feelings for her but I'm totally horny.Day before marriage I slept with my sister on left hand side and with my cousin on right hand side on a single bed.That time I really don't have single feelings on her though she was damn beautiful.She is most beautiful girl in my family and then story began. she touched her lips to my cheecks,I ignore it I know it wouldn't be happen .it's about 2:00 clock she came close to me and put her face on my face , she pretended that she is sleeping but I know she is not.I m negative type of person negative thoughts was coming in my mind that time that what would happen if anybody saw us,is she is still didn't realized that what she's doing.I am not so confident about her,and then she finally touch her boobs with my mouth OMG what a great feeling,and suddenly at that time,whipped cream was came out and all of that horny feeling was flee away and I ignore her and sleep far away from her cuz bed have much space left then I slept at corner of bed.That year she married.Her husband was not good looking guy and I know that she loves good looking boys.3 years was passed away,now we met I see in her eyes that she actually loves me.Yes,she triggered me some time before marriage.I know she have still have feelings,and I have too I want to do sex with her and I don't know how I convince her.I think she forgot about that night because much time is passed away.But still I have a feelings for her,but couldn't gave her single sign .I have fear if she deny me then what would happen,because I have very good name in my family all of them think that I am too innocent and childish though I am 19 now.tell me pls what to do.I love her.please reply anyone if you read till last please give me single suggestion .please
I've been sat for an hour reading all posts and stories etc and it's made me want to ask for help and advice..
I'm seeing my 3rd cousin. It all started as she split up with her bf and I wanted to be there for her to help her and make sure shes happy. But then eventually the feelings came for both of us and we started seeing each other nearly everyday. It was great and I've never felt so happy. I mean she just walks in and I instantly cant stop smiling! Everything she does makes me smile. From the way she talks to the ways she looks and the way she smiles with her dimples, most importantly the way she is and who she is.
But I've recently started working a lot due to it being high season where I am, so we dont get to see each other as much. We both still made the effort and the time to see each other as and when we could though. But now all of a sudden shes started backing of and worrying about people finding out that were cousins and what crap we may or may not get.
I've told her I ain't bothered as long as she is happy but that doesnt change anything. All I care about is the things family and close friends will say but her parents and mine no something is happening as they keep dropping hints waiting for us to admit it. But they havent once warned us off or tried to stop it etc. Which leads me to believe they wont be bothered about it.
Were from the UK shes 20 and I'm 28..
Any help would be great. I just want to show her that we dont know what will happen in the future until we get there. It could be good it could be bad or it could be great. (Peoples reactions)
What can I do?