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My cousin isn't much expressive when it comes to his feelings. I can assume he likes me but not sure.
Talking about sex with him, it's very hot and passionate. We would always stare into each other's eyes the whole time we make love. He loves to pleasure me without asking for it in return and feels happy seeing me orgasm. 
Even though I did an embarrassing thing while we were doing it, he still didn't find it bad. He just took me in his arms, kissed me and told me it's alright. One night when we were having sex he got on top of me holding me tightly in his arms and groaning sexily as I wrapped my arms and legs around him and pulled him close, there was an urgency in him where we were in that position. I once asked him why he wanted me that much that he couldn't think of any other girls. He replied "that's because it's you, silly". 

The sex tells me his feelings for me runs deeper. What do you think?

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i think you should keep in mind that this site is open to people of all ages, and you could have asked the question without spelling it out. there are kids that come here. rather than remove the topic, i'm going to ask you to edit the heck out of it.

but to answer your question, you're probably reading way too much into it. he's enjoying the sex. there's no commitment to it, and most likely the passion and intensity is just simply that... passion and intensity. that doesn't mean the same as love.

ya gotta realize, women are different. to us, sex is a deeper kind of connection. it's part of our genetic makeup. WE have more of a tendency to equate love with sex, or at least have an innate desire for sex to equal love, because on some instinctive level, we're trying to create and protect our family. we want security. and for us, the hotter and more intense the sex is, the deeper we want that connection to be more tangible, more permanent. men aren't like that. not that they can't feel love for someone they have sex with, because they can... but it's not part of their psychological programming. to them, the intensity is primarily a physical response. it will keep them coming back for more, until the intensity starts to fade. and it WILL fade. 

 

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I would say that regardless of gender, passion during sex does not necessarily mean anything outside of the bedroom. However, you said in your thread

that your cousin told you he imagines a future with you. I would say that's about the best evidence you're going to get that he cares about you.

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@MissPrice

I think I agree with you because I see care in his eyes. 

I work at his restaurant as his assistant. I told him I'm quitting the job a few days ago because I was not finding myself efficient enough for the job. He got pissed and stopped talking.
I met him next day when I came to visit his mum. Was about to leave his house and was saying him good night when I saw an expression on his face. He stared at me for a second or two giving me a hurt/sad look and said "yeah, good night."
I was quite baffled by that look because his eyes were like telling me something. Never saw that look on his face before. His stare that lasted for a second or two was so deep, I can't even explain it properly. His face and his stare reappear in my mind whenever I think of him. 
 

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Lady C gave you some good advice.  I was once in a relationship where the sex was shabam and for a while I mistook that intensity for love and commitment.  Believe me, commitment and great sex are not one in the same. Stop romanticizing the relationship.  You need a lot more to build on than good sex and a caring look in his eyes

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