So 17 and i'm from New York. I went to Colombia for about 2 months to visit family that i haven't seen for years. I used to live in Colombia when I was younger but I moved to the United States when I was about 4. When we were children, my cousin Lucas and I were best friends... but that was 13 years ago and we haven't spoken since. Anyways, my first week in Colombia, I shared a room with my cousin. it was just a small room with two twin sized beds and we each slept in one. We had stayed up all night talking and playing games we remembered playing as kids. We then started talking about our memories together and he brought up one that i could never forget; The day i kissed him when we were kids. We both started laughing and we started playing thumb wrestling. I won and he then asked me if I remembered why I had kissed him when we were young. I said "no," and he told me "you got so excited about beating me at a thumb war that you just grabbed my face and kissed me,". I started blushing and I looked down at our hands that were still holding onto each other although the game was over. I brought his hand up to my lips and kissed it softly and he smiled. We realize it was already 4am and we each got into our beds but continued talking. I asked him if he was cold and he said yes, so I got out of my bed and walked over to his and put another blanket over him. He told me I was sweet and that I should crawl into his bed to warm him up. I laughed and about 5 minutes later, I took his suggestion and we were both laying underneath the 4 blankets on his bed. We just cuddled all night and talked until 7am when we heard our mothers walking around the house and I went back to my bed and we fell asleep.This was the start of it all. The following night we went star gazing and we kissed. We were inseparable throughout the rest of my trip. He made me feel so alive. one night our family went out for dinner and a show and i got pretty drunk and afterwards we went for a walk. We smoked a little bit and he made me feel so safe. he held my hand he made me feel so calm even though i'd normally feel paranoid while that intoxicated. I was so high but everything with him was so clear. I told him I loved him and he told me he felt the same way. I've never felt this way about anybody but him. I know that I am in love with him. Anyways, we were basically in a secret relationship for two months and we even had sex. It was both of our first time. I don't know what to do because I just left two days ago and I miss him so much. Im going back to Colombia in four months to visit again and my mother has been considering movie back there which I would be 100% on board with. I love it so much more there and I genuinely feel at home.It would also be so nice to live closer to Lucas. I really don't know what to do. We were both in relationships, but I broke up with my boyfriend (for unrelated reasons) before i got intimate with my cousin. My cousin is still with his girlfriend but he told me they aren't that serious and that it's temporary. We've decided to keep this all low-key for now because neither of us are sure about how serious we should let this get. Also our parents always joke about us being in love with each other because of how close we are and I honestly dont think they would be that surprised if they found out about our feelings for each other
I’m very new to this site but found it while searching for help on my current situation. I ask that everyone who does respond pleaseee be open minded?! I’m not sure how this typically works when a user post a question... but I really require an “outsiders” input.
I recently reconnected with my second cousin (my grandmothers, sisters- son,) who is 12 years older than me. I had seen him briefly when I was 7-8 years old for very short trips to where that side of the family lives. (15 hours away.) So when we first saw each other 4 months ago, for the first time in 19 years, we were both instantly drawn to each other. The entire side of the family had flown in for a funeral, emotions were high & it was a stressful time. I found myself drawn to him vs my long time boyfriend.. As the weekend progressed we were constantly in each other’s presence, due to the sleeping and lodging arrangements. At one point throughout the weekend my aunt, his first cousin, said “if I didn’t know any better it’d say you too hit it off and have fireworks going!” At the time we were all drinking and laughed it off. He left to go back home the next day..
The next day we started texting, talking on the phone and sending snapchats constantly. It has then progressed to each of us expressing how we feel romantically, physically & emotionally about each other. But neither of us are in positions where we could move to be with each other. I don’t see him as my cousin.. at all. The feelings and desires I have for him are nothing like I feel or have ever felt for any other member of my family.
He has asked me on a couple occasions if, “I’m ok with this?” I guess I’m not sure how to take that question. We’ve have both expressed the possibility of us ever living in the same state are slim to none. We both do travel for work, to each other’s state frequently (1 / 2-3 months) and I’m able to see him.. we haven’t had any sort of physical relations, but the chemistry is OFF the charts. Like nothing I’ve ever experience.
Any advise, thoughts or ideas I’d appreciate!
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Just found this site. And honestly its nice to know there are a lot of people out there. In in love with my 1st cousin once removed and have been since I was 15. I'm 20 now. My mom knows and doesn't agree but she doesn't argue or ask questions. But they live a good distance away. Its easy when I'm there but he says stuff like he wants to marry me. Is it really worth the family uproar? We got caught at 16 doing stuff and it caused a lot of trouble and we didnt talk for about a year. The whole family freaked out. Why does it make me feel so bad and wrong when it really shouldnt feel that way?
I love my cousin(Mother Borther daughter)
She is 14 nd i m 17.I want to tell Her that how i love her.She don't know that i love her.I can Propose her but I am afraid Of that If she rejects my proposal Than our cousin relationship can be affect badly.
So please tell me What I do