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I love my cousin(Mother Borther daughter)

She is 14 nd i m 17.I want to tell Her that how i love her.She don't know that i love her.I can Propose her but I am afraid Of that If she rejects my proposal Than our cousin relationship can be affect badly.

So please tell me What I do

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she is still a child. she can't even legally marry you for at least three years, and in most states four years. so here's what you do.

  • be her friend. do everything you can to make sure that friendship is rock solid... long before you ever even try to kiss her, you focus on being the best friend any girl could have. because if that friendship isn't as solid as a rock, you'll never even get to the proposal stage... and if you did, you'd be making a quick trip to the divorce stage.
  • you encourage her to study hard and set goals.
  • YOU study hard and set goals for yourself so that you will be able to one day have a job that will pay enough to support her and a few children. you want a job that will allow you to help her dreams come true, whether those dreams are to go to college or to raise horses.
  • you treat her with the utmost respect and never betray her trust physically or emotionally.
  • you treat her PARENTS with the utmost respect. if you don't have them on your side, you are setting your future up for probable failure.
  • you live your life for the next four years. and you wait. if you don't have patience now, you're never going to have the patience that it takes to grow old with someone. if she's really worth having, she's worth waiting for. so whatever you do, you leave sex OFF the table for the next several years.
  • you allow her to live her life. in the next several years she is going to date other guys. you keep your mouth shut and let her, even when it seems like a long term thing. she needs to learn what it's like to be in a relationship and how to handle romance. that's how a girl learns what to look for in a man and how to (someday) be a good wife.
  • you live YOUR life. you need to be dating others also. because if you don't learn how to be a good boyfriend before you tell her how you feel, you're going to make a really lousy boyfriend if you ever do get to go out with her... and then you can forget about proposing
  • do not confuse 'dating' with 'screwing'. dating is all about respecting someone. screwing is the lack of respect.
  • remember the 3 Ps of a good romance... Protection, Preparation, and Provision. those three words come with a whole new lesson plan. if you're serious, let me know and i'll teach you what those things mean in a relationship.
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3 hours ago, LadyC said:

you allow her to live her life. in the next several years she is going to date other guys. you keep your mouth shut and let her, even when it seems like a long term thing. she needs to learn what it's like to be in a relationship and how to handle romance. that's how a girl learns what to look for in a man and how to (someday) be a good wife.

Yep. I agree with this...but to a certain point. Although you don't want to be possessive, keep her out away from jerks, the bad boys and the guys that is clearly not good for her. ?

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1 hour ago, pooch said:

Yep. I agree with this...but to a certain point. Although you don't want to be possessive, keep her out away from jerks, the bad boys and the guys that is clearly not good for her. ?

he can't do that. he can tell her he thinks someone is bad news but ultimately, he has to let her make her own decisions... even bad ones. i'm a girl. an old one now, but nonetheless i'm a girl, and i can tell you that any good guy who tries to interfere with a girl's attraction to a bad boy is going to lose the girl completely. besides, if he's in love with the girl there will never be anyone else that he thinks is good enough for her. better to just be there to pick up the pieces.

 

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11 minutes ago, LadyC said:

besides, if he's in love with the girl there will never be anyone else that he thinks is good enough for her

Haha! So true! ???

 

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On 2/24/2018 at 11:26 AM, pooch said:

Yep. I agree with this...but to a certain point. Although you don't want to be possessive, keep her out away from jerks, the bad boys and the guys that is clearly not good for her. ?

I don't think it's anyone's place but hers to judge who is good or not for her, the OP is clearly not a paragon of logic where she is concerned anyway. 

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