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Just found this site. And honestly its nice to know there are a lot of people out there. In in love with my 1st cousin once removed and have been since I was 15. I'm 20 now. My mom knows and doesn't agree but she doesn't argue or ask questions. But they live a good distance away. Its easy when I'm there but he says stuff like he wants to marry me. Is it really worth the family uproar? We got caught at 16 doing stuff and it caused a lot of trouble and we didnt talk for about a year. The whole family freaked out. Why does it make me feel so bad and wrong when it really shouldnt feel that way?

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four years ago was a lifetime in terms of your maturity (and his). the uproar it caused back then may be something that barely gets an eyebrow raised now. :)

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LadyC it would still cause uproar well still have to hide a lot of stuff which I hate. My family is way traditional and doesn't agree with it at all and thinks its wrong so it makes it rough

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You are wise to consider what others may say. I'm almost certain that your immediate family will come around after you marry her. Mine did. Will there be some hurtful things said? You can count on it.

On one hand, I do not think cousin marriages are for everyone... Obviously. If you are not willing to face the fire, do not do it.

On the other hand you are 1c1r. That is distant enough that nobody should have a stroke.

You are 20 years old now. You are facing a tricky transision period. It's when you become your own man. It doesn't mean marrying your cousin necessarily. It does, however, mean that you have to start making your own decisions even when they are tough. This transision, within itself, will bring about conflicts. I'm sure this is no big revelation to you.

I will not push you either way. Although I married at 21, I wish I had waited. If you can wait, do that. You guys seem like babies! Lol and I know that isn't the case.  Getting married so young does make higher education more difficult.

Please keep us informed! And if you would like some help weighing the benefits of college with your occupational goals, we can chat about that. I don't want you guys living in a van down by the river!

 

 

 

 

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