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So here's the deal I like my cousin a lot and don't know what to do I (male) just  turned 18 and my cousin ( female) just  turned 14 I've liked my cousin for 2 years now and I can't get her off my mind I've talked to a friend and he said to basically forget about it and I've tried my best but nothing has changed I've also told my other older cousin and she didn't take it the worst or the best she said I was doing something bad by liking her and she said if I ever tried to even tell her she would tell my whole family and I don't want that to happen 

 

I would love some advice please help

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she's 14. you need to live your life and let her live hers... and then in four years when SHE is 18, then if you still feel the same you can give this some more thought. but right now, she's still (in the eyes of the law) a child. jail-bait. keep your distance. a lot of distance.

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8 hours ago, Jjh18 said:

So here's the deal I like my cousin a lot and don't know what to do I (male) just  turned 18 and my cousin ( female) just  turned 14 I've liked my cousin for 2 years now and I can't get her off my mind I've talked to a friend and he said to basically forget about it and I've tried my best but nothing has changed I've also told my other older cousin and she didn't take it the worst or the best she said I was doing something bad by liking her and she said if I ever tried to even tell her she would tell my whole family and I don't want that to happen 

 

I would love some advice please help

You already got 2 advices my friend...both of which are saying you should put breaks on this thing.. i mean what more do you want? You see, your cousin might or might not have interest with you, man... she has absolutely no idea about life yet. Try to give her time and just take a good look at the situation for a bit and try to observe. Don't rush into things... still got a lot to learn..

ANYHOW, how are the girls in uni though? You may want to make friends with girls in your clsss.. ?

 

 

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10 hours ago, pooch said:

You already got 2 advices my friend...both of which are saying you should put breaks on this thing.. i mean what more do you want? You see, your cousin might or might not have interest with you, man... she has absolutely no idea about life yet. Try to give her time and just take a good look at the situation for a bit and try to observe. Don't rush into things... still got a lot to learn..

ANYHOW, how are the girls in uni though? You may want to make friends with girls in your clsss.. ?

 

 

Pooch

Thanks for the advice 

But I haven't gone to school in 3 years 

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you haven't gone to school since you were 15 years old? may i ask why?

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19 minutes ago, LadyC said:

you haven't gone to school since you were 15 years old? may i ask why?

My dad owns his own business so I'm working with him. Pluse I'm a gypsy so it's normal 

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1 hour ago, Jjh18 said:

Thanks for the advice 

But I haven't gone to school in 3 years 

Oh I see. At least in your community or social circle there are lots of girls too around your age, eh? ?

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34 minutes ago, pooch said:

Oh I see. At least in your community or social circle there are lots of girls too around your age, eh? ?

Unfortunately no lol the girls in the gypsy community my age are ether married or (pardon my language) Whores so ya lol

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Just now, Jjh18 said:

Unfortunately no lol the girls in the gypsy community my age are ether married or (pardon my language) Whores so ya lol

I see. I know what you mean. So they marry young or they are promiscuous. I want to ask though about your cousin then,.... You think she is not a girl as you described a typical girl in your community? I mean, you mentioned something about your friend... You said,

 

21 hours ago, Jjh18 said:

I've talked to a friend and he said to basically forget about it

Is your friend close to both of you and your cousin? I asked this because I think your community is a close-knitted community, eh? Like everybody knows everybody...? It's not like the people in the cities who are you know, you have multiple social circles?

 

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1 hour ago, pooch said:

Is your friend close to both of you and your cousin? I asked this because I think your community is a close-knitted community, eh? Like everybody knows everybody...? It's not like the people in the cities who are you know, you have multiple social circles?

No my friend is not close the my cousin he's 30( not a gypsy )and works for my dad. But yes my community is very close everyone knows everyone. A lot of times people I've never met before know everything about me. It's kind of weird lol

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