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My first cousin crush was my 2nd crush.

We did a staring contest and got too close, And made things awkward.

I don't know how this happen but I get cousin crushes more often.

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My first cousin crush was with my current boyfriend, Pete.

 

He punched the lights out of some dude who was trying to come onto me, and then kissed me. I haven't looked at anyone else since.

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My first cousin crush was when I was fifteen. Thirty five years later I am still so in love with him. We've never managed to publicly commit, but we are closer now than we've ever been. I won't give up hope that we can eventually overcome his fear of the family response.

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