Rrj147 4 Report post Posted December 9, 2018 Hi all, It's been a while since I've been on here. Been trying to work through a difficult time in my relationship which has ended up in a separation (he's been gone for 4 months.... this is going to end in divorce). My question for you all is.... Moving forward thinking about future relationships etc do you tell your new partner about the fact you were recently married to your cousin? Or is it safer to keep it a secret? For some reason I'm worried it will frighten people off! Any advice would be great xxx Thanks Rrj Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KC 137 Report post Posted December 9, 2018 It will bother some people no doubt about it. I would hold it back until things got serious with a new love. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rrj147 4 Report post Posted December 10, 2018 Thanks kc Is ladyc still about?? I've missed getting her advice too!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Romalee 61 Report post Posted December 10, 2018 I agree with KC. No need to tell everything. It really isn't open business unless things would get serious. And if that bothered the new serious interest, find out the why,then you might rethink that relationship too. Best wishes on your future journey. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KC 137 Report post Posted December 10, 2018 LadyC is here. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rrj147 4 Report post Posted December 10, 2018 Totally agree romalee..... Thank you Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyC 230 Report post Posted December 11, 2018 yep, i'm here. i see no problem telling people you were married to your cousin, BUT, i see no reason to lead with that, either. when you put yourself on the market and start dating again, you're just getting to know people. it takes a while for them to move from the category of 'acquaintance' to 'soulmate', and i think the telling of things like that, if they're told at all, should be somewhere in the middle of those two. after you know him well enough to decide if he's someone you might want to consider long term, but before you're so deeply invested that your whole world would be turned upside down if you found out he just can't accept your past. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pooch 59 Report post Posted December 12, 2018 21 hours ago, LadyC said: yep, i'm here. i see no problem telling people you were married to your cousin, BUT, i see no reason to lead with that, either I second the motion! 👍 Pooch Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rrj147 4 Report post Posted December 14, 2018 Thankyou everyone great words of wisdom xxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
