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I get to start off the newest forum. I hope many find it helpful.

I am one of those who is "broken" because of a breakup after a 20-some year marriage to my cuz.   Well, I was broken the first time we broke up for an extended time period. The second time I am like, "Yo! Get the f out of my life! You crazy ..." (Yeah I am aware of the language). Can I just be myself for a minute here?

My wife's brother (my fav cousin! lol) used to say, "Oh, you guys have been together f-o-r-e-v-e-r."  Yeah no kidding, we are real-life kissing cousins from the get-go.

My biggest problem now is that  I still dream about her. Not those kind of dreams necessarily. Pervs! Well, OK maybe those too. But I wake up and realize that she is gone and I jump out of bed and I feel great. I thank God that she is gone!

Thank you for reading. Despite my levity, I know the pain of a nasty breakup. That is why I started this forum.

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Thanks for all of the outpouring support! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I can say this because I started this site.  No wonder this website is going downhill.

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hey, i only saw this this morning! i haven't been online much lately. i think it's totally natural to have dreams about people (and even places) that have been an important part of your life, and you'll never stop having them. i still occasionally have a random dream or two about people i once fancied myself in love with long before mark came into the picture. hmmm.... i don't think any of those dreams ever include my ex-husband though. i'm sure some psychiatrist could unravel some deep mystery as to why. but heck, i even have fairly regularly occurring dreams of the pool hall i worked at when i was in my 20s! i quit working there nearly a quarter-century ago.

the important thing is when you wake up from those dreams, you wake up looking forward and not back. you've got this KC!

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On 3/6/2019 at 3:12 AM, KC said:

I get to start off the newest forum. I hope many find it helpful.

I am one of those who is "broken" because of a breakup after a 20-some year marriage to my cuz.   Well, I was broken the first time we broke up for an extended time period. The second time I am like, "Yo! Get the f out of my life! You crazy ..." (Yeah I am aware of the language). Can I just be myself for a minute here?

My wife's brother (my fav cousin! lol) used to say, "Oh, you guys have been together f-o-r-e-v-e-r."  Yeah no kidding, we are real-life kissing cousins from the get-go.

My biggest problem now is that  I still dream about her. Not those kind of dreams necessarily. Pervs! Well, OK maybe those too. But I wake up and realize that she is gone and I jump out of bed and I feel great. I thank God that she is gone!

Thank you for reading. Despite my levity, I know the pain of a nasty breakup. That is why I started this forum.

Would you like to tell us some details of your married life? What exactly, at least in your opinion, might have led both of you to such a state?

I can't ever tell my dad that if he changed his behavior and recognized his mistakes shortly after my mom divorced him, she would have moved back to his house and restarted their marriage (she told me that...). But he didn't do it and she married someone else after a few years. Is your situation somehow "curable"? Maybe there is still hope! Or maybe you should move on and "let go" of your ex-wife (A thoughtful and careful analysis is highly recommended!). If you choose to move on, I would advise against becoming her worst enemy since you're from the same family... Also, telling this from my own conclusions (based on observing other people's divorces), ex-husband v.s ex-wife fighting in court over their children or their former house and belongings can lead to a decade long nasty situation for both. Anyway, it would be nice to hear further details from you since right now I can only assume what your situation might be.
 
@KC, I'm trying to respectfully address you here! Remember that it's entirely up to you weather or not you'd like to share your personal life in such a difficult moment. But since you asked for help...

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Thanks everyone for your feedback. Thanks for your continued confidence in me @ladyc.

I think I really just wanted to throw a temper tantrum.  I would just say that I am consumed with bitter disappointment.

Thomas,  your post is so full of presuppositions that I can't begin to respond. I can say that no way is our marriage salvageable. At this point I am glad it is over.

This too shall pass.

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Here's information from an expert.  KC is doing just fine - he has moved to a new state and is starting a business and making new friends.  How do I know?  Because he moved in with me and NO I am not a replacement for his ex.  He's  too young for me!!! LOL

Nat

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LOL, well, I can't comment on nasty breakups between cousins, as my sweetie and myself are just embarking on our journey. I do know about nasty breakups though. After a tortuous 8 year marriage to a paranoid and suspicious woman who thought I was, literally, screwing everything in skirts, we finally separated. Then she had the NERVE to kick the bucket suddenly and unexpectedly 3 days after I moved out 😡

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2 hours ago, ragingdesire61 said:

LOL, well, I can't comment on nasty breakups between cousins, as my sweetie and myself are just embarking on our journey. I do know about nasty breakups though. After a tortuous 8 year marriage to a paranoid and suspicious woman who thought I was, literally, screwing everything in skirts, we finally separated. Then she had the NERVE to kick the bucket suddenly and unexpectedly 3 days after I moved out 😡

WOW! So she OD's? What happened to her?

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2 hours ago, KC said:

WOW! So she OD's? What happened to her?

 No, no OD, we weren't drug users. She had a subarachnoid aneurysm....a bleed in her brain.

 

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